If you were to be remembered for one thing, what would you like it to be?

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“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia, quoted in Words from the Wise: Over 6,000 of the Smartest Things Ever Said

When I pass on some time after my 102nd birthday, I’m pretty sure there will be some family members who may still remember me…probably.  Does it really matter though?  I mean, once you are gone so is your ego and that is the part of you that so wants to be remembered.  Eventually the memories fade and you will be forgotten, unless you are a major character in  world history, in which case it will just take a little longer for the memories to fade.

But while I am still around and before every memory of me has evaporated, my ego and I would love to be remembered for being kind.  I will admit right here, right now, that I have probably not always  been completely kind in every situation.  If any of you out there recall any of those memories, please forget them right now.  They must be old memories anyway.  Let’m go!  I want to live up to the quote at the top of this page from this point on.  Being known and remembered for your kindness towards others sounds like a perfect goal and one I’m aiming for.

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I’ve thought about this quite a lot and all I can come up with is that I hope my family and friends remember me as being a generous person.  Generous with my time,  money and material possessions.  Generous with my compliments and generous with my laughter.  It’s my way of showing people that I care about them, that I trust them and that I like them.  I’m not stingy, except maybe when you try to go for my potato chips.  I’m a pretty good tipper, too.  Maybe just being remembered as being nice is okay, too.  Nice is never a rousing endorsement, it’s usually a milquetoast adjective, but in this case I’m fine with it.

I’d find it much easier to write about what I hope I’m NOT remembered for.  Then I could be a bit funnier and dazzle with the shock and awe of the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned.   Truthfully, I’m not concerned about being remembered after I’m gone because I just don’t think I’m that important in the grand scheme of things.   I trust people will remember me for the right reasons and if they don’t then there’s nothing I can do about it.  I’m working on creating the best life I can live now, and I trust the rest will fall into place.

When my friends look at my photos on facebook (assuming it’s still around in 60 years) I hope they’ll be leaving comments like  “This old broad sure liked to have fun!”.

I would love it if,  when I pass on, my kids and grandkids want to ransack my art studio and perhaps even fight over a few pieces.  That would be so validating to me as an artist!  ; )

TracyTracy will be remembered for ~

I want to be remembered for living life as a good example (most of the time) for my kids~ Let me explain.  If I keep fit and show my children that it is part of my regular routine to run and take care of the body, hopefully they will as well.  If I show by example that eating  healthy is a part of my lifestyle they will too.  If I work hard and show them it pays off then they will naturally work hard as well.  They will see by example how I treat those around me.  “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”

I am not saying that I am always a good example!  After all, I am human and to err is human.  I have done things in my life that should perhaps not be followed, but I also teach not to judge so there is a realistic balance in our lives.

I wish to be remembered for is how I approach my relationships.  I hope that living by example in my relationships will show my kids that just because everyone else isn’t doing it, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.  I want to show them that having the courage to be honest in a relationship will lead you to where you are meant to be.

Being a minority is okay and can be a healthy challenge.

I want to show my kids by example that no matter what life sends your way it is a lesson worth learning that can be turned into a positive experience by letting go of stereotyping, expectations and obligations.  There is always an exception to every rule!

What do you want to be remembered for ?

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10 thoughts on “If you were to be remembered for one thing, what would you like it to be?

  1. When we think about what we want to be remembered for we’re in fact setting up some pretty big life goals.
    I just started reading your blog-thanks to running into Bonnie at Chartreuse-and I love sipping my coffee and contemplating life with some of your trigger thoughts.
    Thanks for being here.
    Oh, I’d like to be remembered for my art and my thoughtfulness towards others.

    • It was fun to see you again Kathy and thanks for joining our blog conversation. Makes me feel like I’m still connected to Horse Lake a little. Can’t wait to trigger more thoughts and get your point of view in future posts.

    • Art? Did the new girl say art? Kathy, do you have a website or images I can take a look at? I love to see what people are creating and hear where they’re getting their inspiration.

      Welcome!

      • Hi-I’m working on a web site (well dear husband is) as I write.
        Inspiration for my art comes from teaching primary children for over 3 decades and my love of the outdoors especially the Cariboo (where I live-just down the street from where Bonnie lived on Horse Lake) and time spent in the Yukon hiking in the mountains by Carcross and Haines Jct . I love the mountains of the Yukon! And my other spot to gather inspiration is the Chilcotins.
        People tell me my art makes them feel happy. I love to paint and my art makes me happy so I’m happy the feelings actually get passed along with the painting. Amazing really.
        I’m not sure how to pass along an image but maybe-cut paste?
        thanks for being interested
        kathy

  2. Its me! So basically I want to be known for running for prime minister, building a shelter, writing a book, having a talk show, being a designer, becoming ac chef.

    If those don’t happen then I just want people to know I tried my best to help others. Not just for the Terry Fox Foundation but for just being kind and considerate to less fortunate people. To being an advocate to disabled people. To always having a smile on my face in the best and worst of times.

  3. For being a good helper…. nothing else, just that he was a really good helper.

    You Gals Are Great ! I don’t comment much, but I get something out of almost everything I read on your site !
    KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK YOU VERY TALENTED LADIES !

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