“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia, quoted in Words from the Wise: Over 6,000 of the Smartest Things Ever Said
When I pass on some time after my 102nd birthday, I’m pretty sure there will be some family members who may still remember me…probably. Does it really matter though? I mean, once you are gone so is your ego and that is the part of you that so wants to be remembered. Eventually the memories fade and you will be forgotten, unless you are a major character in world history, in which case it will just take a little longer for the memories to fade.
But while I am still around and before every memory of me has evaporated, my ego and I would love to be remembered for being kind. I will admit right here, right now, that I have probably not always been completely kind in every situation. If any of you out there recall any of those memories, please forget them right now. They must be old memories anyway. Let’m go! I want to live up to the quote at the top of this page from this point on. Being known and remembered for your kindness towards others sounds like a perfect goal and one I’m aiming for.
I’ve thought about this quite a lot and all I can come up with is that I hope my family and friends remember me as being a generous person. Generous with my time, money and material possessions. Generous with my compliments and generous with my laughter. It’s my way of showing people that I care about them, that I trust them and that I like them. I’m not stingy, except maybe when you try to go for my potato chips. I’m a pretty good tipper, too. Maybe just being remembered as being nice is okay, too. Nice is never a rousing endorsement, it’s usually a milquetoast adjective, but in this case I’m fine with it.
I’d find it much easier to write about what I hope I’m NOT remembered for. Then I could be a bit funnier and dazzle with the shock and awe of the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. Truthfully, I’m not concerned about being remembered after I’m gone because I just don’t think I’m that important in the grand scheme of things. I trust people will remember me for the right reasons and if they don’t then there’s nothing I can do about it. I’m working on creating the best life I can live now, and I trust the rest will fall into place.
When my friends look at my photos on facebook (assuming it’s still around in 60 years) I hope they’ll be leaving comments like “This old broad sure liked to have fun!”.
I would love it if, when I pass on, my kids and grandkids want to ransack my art studio and perhaps even fight over a few pieces. That would be so validating to me as an artist! ; )
Tracy will be remembered for ~
I want to be remembered for living life as a good example (most of the time) for my kids~ Let me explain. If I keep fit and show my children that it is part of my regular routine to run and take care of the body, hopefully they will as well. If I show by example that eating healthy is a part of my lifestyle they will too. If I work hard and show them it pays off then they will naturally work hard as well. They will see by example how I treat those around me. “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
I am not saying that I am always a good example! After all, I am human and to err is human. I have done things in my life that should perhaps not be followed, but I also teach not to judge so there is a realistic balance in our lives.
I wish to be remembered for is how I approach my relationships. I hope that living by example in my relationships will show my kids that just because everyone else isn’t doing it, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I want to show them that having the courage to be honest in a relationship will lead you to where you are meant to be.
Being a minority is okay and can be a healthy challenge.
I want to show my kids by example that no matter what life sends your way it is a lesson worth learning that can be turned into a positive experience by letting go of stereotyping, expectations and obligations. There is always an exception to every rule!
What do you want to be remembered for ?