There are so many beautiful amazing young girls out there who are making a difference in the world. They listen to their friends and give positive advice. They compliment one another. They are a comforting shoulder to cry on and hand out tissue when needed. They remind each other how important it is to be strong and supportive of other female energy. They empower one another! They take being a girlfriend seriously.
There has been so much sadness in the News this last week with the passing of Amanda Todd. She made a mistake or mistakes that ultimately should not have lead to her death. Young girls need to know they are not alone when it come to making mistakes. We all make mistakes as we navigate through the challenges of life. With each life lesson we learn a little bit more about who we are and what we are capable of. We learn to identify a true friend as we learn to become one ourselves. We grow and unfold as we face these challenges head on. Young girls need to know they matter!
It’s hard to understand while you are in the midst of being a teen that you will one day reflect on your path and the choices you made with a smile, but you will. You will smile, you will laugh and you will even say “Oh god, what was I thinking!”
Take time to reminder the young girls in your circle how important they are. We all go through tough times, it’s not just a teen thing! Grown ups make mistakes as well, we have just leaned not to be so hard on ourselves through experience. We are given opportunities every day to reach our hand out and help someone up! It is up to each of us to stop and take the time to recognize who needs a moment or simply a smile, a kind word or a helping hand.
Be kind and supportive of your friends whether they make mistakes or not because it’s the right thing to do.
Young girls need to band together to inspire and empower one another…here is a little video that shows us how precious our little girls really are!
My condolences to the Todd Family, they have lost their Princess ;(
Have you ever felt like you just wanted to escape from life in general, if even for a moment! You try desperately to tune out everything and everybody around you. You start to day dream of where you would much rather be ….it’s called your “Happy Place“. It’s the mental state achieved when one wants to avoid the unpleasant or uncomfortable. Everyone has a different happy place that usually consists of the things that make them feel warm and fuzzy.
Ahhhh My Happy Place…I have been trying to get there lately but it’s been like a bad dream, your running as fast as you can but you are moving in slow motion!! I have been literally running from one task to the next with absolutely no time to spare between for the last month and it is starting to take it’s toll. The balance in life can sometimes get away from all of us and I will go on record right now and say mine is OUT !! It is my own fault, I take on too much, have too many interests and my independent attitude doesn’t help! I have wayyyyy too many cool things I want to be working towards, Tara Cronica, Writing a book, Kids, Silpada Jewelry, Exercise, Running a business, Girlfriends, Making Jewelry. The list keeps growing ! I am taking a breath now~
My Happy Place consists of me sitting in a white wooden chair on the beach in Rarotonga, The Cooke Islands, completely alone with no one in sight. There is a panoramic view of just water, sand and palm trees as far as you can see. My chair is in the water so that my feet feel the warm waves slowly roll over them. I have no where to be, nothing to do but sit and contemplate. I have my ipod and I am listening to Enya or Enigma while my mind just goes far far away. I have been to My Happy Place in reality, and it was such a serene wonderful place to be. If I could fly there right now I would board the plane with no luggage, just the cloths on my back. When you have so many things on the go it’s not hard to have your world start to spin in circles. I need to take a chill pill and really try hard at least in my mind to get to my Happy Place! Wish me luck !
Bonnie aligns herself~
I have learned that when I find myself out of my “happy place” it is always because I’m out of alignment. What does that mean exactly? Well, for me it means that I’m not tuned in to Who-I-Really-Am; that bigger part of my Self that is connected to Source (God, the Universe, Allah, whatever label you choose). The disconnect happens when I’m not aligned with that source of joy and inspiration (which is, in fact, our natural state). It’s easy to let myself slip out of alignment, all I have to do is focus on something negative or something that makes me feel bad and then I see some more stuff that makes me feel bad and then I notice something else negative that I hadn’t noticed before,…and so it goes.
Start the night before: As you put yourself to bed find things in your immediate vicinity (your bed, your pillow, your sheets) to direct your appreciation toward. Set your intention to sleep well and to awaken refreshed.
When you wake up lie there for 5 minutes and think about some more things you appreciate.
After you’ve washed and eaten, sit for 15 minutes and quiet your mind. Allow resistance to fall away and feel your vibration rise.
Open your eyes and sit for 5 or 10 minutes writing a list of things you appreciate about your life.
That’s it. 30 minutes or less and I’m feeling good again. It’s all about choosing a positive point of attraction which not only yields to me activities and rendezvous with good feeling people, places, and things – but my ability to experience the delicious depth of them will be dramatically enhanced. “Getting yourself feeling good before you take any action is always the best process; and when you do not feel good, you cannot be inspired to any action that will solve the problem”. – Abraham
Jacquie knows it’s right where it’s always been~
I think I discovered the secret to my happy place a long time ago when I was a typical angst-ridden emo 17 year old living in Paris and dealing with loss, loneliness and betrayal. I spent a lot of time writing poetry…and teaching myself how to knit and crochet and design my own pieces. By focusing my attention on something positive and pleasurable, I found I was able to let go of the issues that were the cause of my unhappiness. For me, being actively creative is a form of meditation, and it allows me to stay connected to my true Self by providing plenty of time for reflection. This is the poem I wrote as a melodramatic teenager. I think the sentiment, though perhaps a little over-wrought, still rings true.
I hate to look forward
Because all I see is pain
And pressure and loneliness
And a hurt I can’t explain.
I’m living in a fairy tale
Without the magic wand.
This one’s filled with blackened dreams
That I can’t see beyond.
So by myself I’ve learned to move
And pass my time with me
When those around are cruel and dark
I’m my best company.
We are responsible for our own happiness. It’s up to us individually to find out the best way to stay in tune, or, as Bonnie put it, stay in alignment. The only way to do this is to regularly shut out all the noise that can cloud your judgment and distract you from your goals. When you feel that confidence returning, only then can you feel balanced and ready to tackle the next hurdle calmly, with a smile and an open heart.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia, quoted in Words from the Wise: Over 6,000 of the Smartest Things Ever Said
When I pass on some time after my 102nd birthday, I’m pretty sure there will be some family members who may still remember me…probably. Does it really matter though? I mean, once you are gone so is your ego and that is the part of you that so wants to be remembered. Eventually the memories fade and you will be forgotten, unless you are a major character in world history, in which case it will just take a little longer for the memories to fade.
But while I am still around and before every memory of me has evaporated, my ego and I would love to be remembered for being kind. I will admit right here, right now, that I have probably not always been completely kind in every situation. If any of you out there recall any of those memories, please forget them right now. They must be old memories anyway. Let’m go! I want to live up to the quote at the top of this page from this point on. Being known and remembered for your kindness towards others sounds like a perfect goal and one I’m aiming for.
I’ve thought about this quite a lot and all I can come up with is that I hope my family and friends remember me as being a generous person. Generous with my time, money and material possessions. Generous with my compliments and generous with my laughter. It’s my way of showing people that I care about them, that I trust them and that I like them. I’m not stingy, except maybe when you try to go for my potato chips. I’m a pretty good tipper, too. Maybe just being remembered as being nice is okay, too. Nice is never a rousing endorsement, it’s usually a milquetoast adjective, but in this case I’m fine with it.
I’d find it much easier to write about what I hope I’m NOT remembered for. Then I could be a bit funnier and dazzle with the shock and awe of the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. Truthfully, I’m not concerned about being remembered after I’m gone because I just don’t think I’m that important in the grand scheme of things. I trust people will remember me for the right reasons and if they don’t then there’s nothing I can do about it. I’m working on creating the best life I can live now, and I trust the rest will fall into place.
When my friends look at my photos on facebook (assuming it’s still around in 60 years) I hope they’ll be leaving comments like “This old broad sure liked to have fun!”.
I would love it if, when I pass on, my kids and grandkids want to ransack my art studio and perhaps even fight over a few pieces. That would be so validating to me as an artist! ; )
Tracy will be remembered for ~
I want to be remembered for living life as a good example (most of the time) for my kids~ Let me explain. If I keep fit and show my children that it is part of my regular routine to run and take care of the body, hopefully they will as well. If I show by example that eating healthy is a part of my lifestyle they will too. If I work hard and show them it pays off then they will naturally work hard as well. They will see by example how I treat those around me. “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
I am not saying that I am always a good example! After all, I am human and to err is human. I have done things in my life that should perhaps not be followed, but I also teach not to judge so there is a realistic balance in our lives.
I wish to be remembered for is how I approach my relationships. I hope that living by example in my relationships will show my kids that just because everyone else isn’t doing it, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I want to show them that having the courage to be honest in a relationship will lead you to where you are meant to be.
Being a minority is okay and can be a healthy challenge.
I want to show my kids by example that no matter what life sends your way it is a lesson worth learning that can be turned into a positive experience by letting go of stereotyping, expectations and obligations. There is always an exception to every rule!