Therapy Session ~
Happy Birthday Scott! (March 25) A year has past since I wrote a Birthday wish for you here on Tara Cronica and what a year it has been. We have moved in directions we weren’t aware even existed and have grown independent yet together along the way. We have faced change within ourselves and embraced it with no fear. I think you’re amazing. You’re an incredible man to have by my side. I am grateful for your strength, support and honesty and appreciate all you do. I look forward to the next chapter in life, where you will grow and unfold and I will become who I am meant to be. Thanks for making me smile out loud everyday!
Now my post for today ~
After a great session with my male therapist (Dr.Scott La Rock) I came to realize I don’t live in the moment as much as I should. I get caught up in life as we all do. I’ve been feeling let down by people and life all while trying to adjust to major change that’s happening at light speed in my world. I will be the first to admit I’ve lived in a fantasy world for a long time, okay since I can remember, maybe since I was 5, and it seems like my world keeps getting brutal shots of reality which I am not too fond of. I figure, if I start to get cynical or bitter, there is really no hope for the rest of you!
After my therapy session (not a real therapist for those who don’t know me) we together came to the realization that ~
1) I created this wonderful fantasy and live in it by choice.
2) It’s actually my perception of individuals that keep letting me down not them.
3) I need to remember ‘It is what it is.’
There are a lot of GREAT people out there, REAL people who are sharing their inspiration in this world. Those are the people I want to spend my precious time with, not the time wasters, naysayers or takers. I’ve noticed not as many people keep their word anymore, nobody really cares if they effect someone else’s life as long as it doesn’t effect them. (That’s just wrong)
This is one of the reasons Tara Cronica is so important to me, it’s a meeting place where everyone can find inspiration, friendship and creativity, it’s here for those who need it and it’s free, it’s also here for those who want to share their inspiration, but mostly it just feel right to me.
We are three different women with three different views and opinions living truthfully under completely different circumstances. I am sure you can relate to at least one of us. We are not trying to be, and certainly don’t think of ourselves as do gooders, but I can tell you that Tara Cronica has changed the way I live my life. I try harder to look for the good in everything, even on the days it feels unnatural. (doesn’t always work but I’m aware) I am trying to be a better person and I believe I am since I started this journey. I get discouraged just like everyone else does at life and love. I break down, I get bitchy, (hard to believe I know) I can be difficult, (who me?) and when that happens I find it helpful to talk to you, here.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and have my life as an open book so that I can be related to. If I get back into the moment and I take away the fact that I was tired, hormonal, and absolutely everything in my life is changing (acceptance without resistance, thanks Bonnie) and adjust my perception, people/things don’t seem so bad anymore. Scott you are a great guide in life to walk beside, a very important male perspective that I learn from everyday. I needed a recharge and by talking I got just that.
When I look at those who were making me feel discouraged, with a clear perception, I now see souls who didn’t set out to hurt my feelings, but perhaps have things to work out for themselves. Maybe they just need to see that we are all the same with issues, trying our best to come out on top. I hope that by coming here it will help them move forward in life and see that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. We might not always be on track in life, but as long as we keep taking steps in the right direction and put ourselves out there I think we grow and move forward learning along the way.
Two things come to mind now, ‘what a difference a day makes’ and ‘this too will pass.’ Thanks everyone for taking the time to visit, listen and share your voice with me!
Svaha ~
Tracy Westerholm
"Exploring the never-ending desires that fuel all life, while finding lyrical beauty in everyday happenings."
13 Comments
Anna Ceraldi Zin
Tracy, what a great post!
My perception of you has always been that you are a positive and inspiring woman.
Thanks for reminding all of us to be more in the moment or to quote one of my favorite sayings, “Be Where You Are” and to remember that tomorrow is indeed a brand new day to look at life in a brand new way.
Lots of love to you from Italy xxoo Anna
Tracy Westerholm
I love you Bella, thank you! That’s a great quote to live by, you made me smile! Can’t wait to see you ~ xoxo
Bonnie Johnson
I love this post Tracy! And I admire your honesty and the fact that you are always looking to improve yourself.
You have always been an inspiration to me in so many ways. I love how others are always drawn to you because you exude positive energy (almost always). And when you are feeling down you stop and look for ways to lift yourself back up again.
I’m so proud to have you as my friend.
Change is not always easy but it can be very refreshing!
Here’s to the breath of fresh air change can bring! 🙂
Tracy Westerholm
An important part of who I am is because of you and your support over the years! You never judge and always listen and when you speak, your soft calm voice just makes everything seem so clear. You inspire me to be a better me. Acceptance without resistance right!! Love you with all of my being! xoxo
jacquie
“Maybe they just need to see that we are all the same with issues, trying our best to come out on top.”
This line really popped for me. I didn’t take it to mean we need to be considered the ‘winner’, but more so that we need to feel like we ‘made it out from under’. Like we’re appreciated. Like our contribution is noticed, whether it be the job we do with the family, at work or personally. I find that’s when I feel most disjointed and out of sync with those around me. Usually I can trace it back to frustration with myself, which affects my perception of other’s motives.
This post is a great reminder that we are only in control of our own emotions and responses and that sometimes, for whatever reasons, we don’t see clearly. I am so guilty of that but I’m working on it too.
Tracy, I feel I should be paying Scott La Rock for the session! Does he take on new clients? Can I get the friend’s discount?
To quote Drop Dead Diva last night, who quoted Popeye ~ “I yam what I yam”
Tracy Westerholm
You just made me giggle and that is what GREAT friends do! Yesterday I heard Jordan and her little friend giggling on the trampoline and thought it was just so beautiful to hear. It’s even more beautiful when your girlfriend at our age makes you giggle! I agree with you totally about coming out on top, it’s not about winning at all, you said it perfectly at coffee on day, “We just want to matter” that has so much truth in it.
I am positive we could start getting a two for one deal with Dr Scott La Rock! Love you J xoxox
jacquie
YOU DI’NT JUST SAY “AT OUR AGE’? OH NO YOU DI-INT!!!!
Tracy Westerholm
LMAO !!!!!
alison farough
Happiness is contentment!
me
Happy Birthday Scott. Hope you both find happiness. It might be closer than you both think.
Lawrence
Beautiful Tracy. Absolutely beautiful.
You have inspired me from the moment our paths crossed, and this post exemplifies what it is about you both as a person, and as a writer, that inspires us all.
Each of you inspire in your own way, and yes as Tracy said, we probably relate to one of you more so than another, but I like that I can relate to all of you at different times.
I love Tara and everything this site stands for. Thank you ladies, for inspiring me and helping me become a better, more open-minded, person.
Tracy Westerholm
Well Handsome that is what this is all about isn’t it! Inspiration, Friendship and Creativity all in one big shiny package! It’s a wonderful thing to be inspired by something or someone and I feel the same about you! It’s a journey that I am enjoying immensely, every single step along the way!! T xo
Scott
Thanks for the wishes. You are so beautifull in so many ways. Love always