In Search of the Elusive Available Male…and Patience!


Patience has never been one of my strong suits, I’m working on it. When I decide I am ready for something I usually jump in with both feet. My mistake in the past has been assuming that when I am ready everyone else should be as well. Life has a way of teaching us things we need to learn. Sometimes it can be a slow process and other times it’s a no-brainer. I am amidst the slow process route right now, add no patience and it is like going back to snail-mail after having high speed Internet. I would just like to know I am heading in the right direction, having said that if I change my perspective and have a little patience, the direction I am heading has to be the right one! Right?

We have all sat on the fence teetering as we look over completely distracted at the bright green grass just slightly out of reach. We are not completely ready to take a leap to it so we sit and admire it for a while. We get lost in wondering what would happen if we ventured over to it. That greener grass is a vibrant temptation pulling us toward it. Until we are ready to plant both feet in that iridescently green fresh smelling sweetness we should summon some willpower and discipline and have some patience! Touching that beautiful temptation too soon will leave a footprint with repercussions that will follow if you’re not ready!

If you’re unhappy take time for yourself! If you are not ready, willing and able to share your time with someone of the opposite sex intimately you should be honest with yourself and them. There is nothing wrong with not being ready! Clear your head, purge your past, centre yourself, find balance and then take that step forward…it WILL be worth the wait! You can’t rush feelings, trust them!

Most human beings have baggage of some kind, whether it’s emotional or physical. Baggage is simply life experiences we carry with us, sometimes into our next relationship. We all deal with our experiences on our own timeline, purging some and hanging onto others. When we are ready to let go and free ourselves of the complicated web we have weaved in our past, we do. No one can rush this, not even us. Time heals and when we are ready to move forward we do…again patience.

Although things don’t always go as planned or as quickly as we sometimes want or imagine, we need to step back, take a breath and relax. The sooner we recognize and accept that we have no control of others we learn patience. Take things slow, enjoy the moment, give those you find worthy time and appreciate what you have, not what you don’t have. Everything works out the way it should. We all get to different places in life at our own speed, trying to change the path of another human being only distracts you from your own.

Svaha!

 

 

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Sex Sells ~ Bom Chicka Wah Wah

I was surfing the Internet looking for topics to write about and you know how it goes, you type in one thing and it takes you into a completely different direction.

I haven’t written about sex in a while so thought I would go that route. I was researching why ‘Sex Sells’ in advertising and came across three funny Axe Commercials. I LOVE that these women totally put themselves out there, and that was just to ‘get’ the commercial. Auditioning can be completely embarrassing, even humiliating, I’ve had to do some pretty silly stuff in my years of auditioning but this one takes the cake for me. I am honestly not sure I could have done this seriously enough to actually land the job. You can see some of the auditions on YouTube as well, which is kind of disturbing from an actresses point of view (I cringe at the thought of an old audition tape showing up on the Internet) but hey, it is what it is, right?

So after trying to research why Sex Sells, lets just say it does for now, and even more so if its got a laugh attached to it!

“Bom Chicka Wah Wah” ~

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I hope you had a laugh and guys if I were you I’d give Axe a try! Bonnie for some reason I can see you doing this and it makes me laugh just thinking about it. Every time I enter a grocery store with my son I warn him that I am feeling like I just might ‘Bom Chicka Wah Wah’, he walks back to the Jeep, it makes me laugh that he actually thinks its possible. I think I might give it a try sometime, without warning of course. Therapy’s going to be expensive 🙂 lol

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Therapy Session ~

Happy Birthday Scott! (March 25) A year has past since I wrote a Birthday wish for you here on Tara Cronica and what a year it has been. We have moved in directions we weren’t aware even existed and have grown independent yet together along the way. We have faced change within ourselves and embraced it with no fear. I think you’re amazing. You’re an incredible man to have by my side. I am grateful for your strength, support and honesty and appreciate all you do. I look forward to the next chapter in life, where you will grow and unfold and I will become who I am meant to be. Thanks for making me smile out loud everyday!

Now my post for today ~

After a great session with my male therapist (Dr.Scott La Rock) I came to realize I don’t live in the moment as much as I should. I get caught up in life as we all do. I’ve been feeling let down by people and life all while trying to adjust to major change that’s happening at light speed in my world. I will be the first to admit I’ve lived in a fantasy world for a long time, okay since I can remember, maybe since I was 5, and it seems like my world keeps getting brutal shots of reality which I am not too fond of. I figure, if I start to get cynical or bitter, there is really no hope for the rest of you!

After my therapy session (not a real therapist for those who don’t know me) we together came to the realization that ~

1) I created this wonderful fantasy and live in it by choice.

2) It’s actually my perception of individuals that keep letting me down not them.

3) I need to remember ‘It is what it is.’

There are a lot of GREAT people out there, REAL people who are sharing their inspiration in this world. Those are the people I want to spend my precious time with, not the time wasters, naysayers or takers. I’ve noticed not as many people keep their word anymore, nobody really cares if they effect someone else’s life as long as it doesn’t effect them. (That’s just wrong)

This is one of the reasons Tara Cronica is so important to me, it’s a meeting place where everyone can find inspiration, friendship and creativity, it’s here for those who need it and it’s free, it’s also here for those who want to share their inspiration, but mostly it just feel right to me.

We are three different women with three different views and opinions living truthfully under completely different circumstances. I am sure you can relate to at least one of us. We are not trying to be, and certainly don’t think of ourselves as do gooders, but I can tell you that Tara Cronica has changed the way I live my life. I try harder to look for the good in everything, even on the days it feels unnatural. (doesn’t always work but I’m aware) I am trying to be a better person and I believe I am since I started this journey. I get discouraged just like everyone else does at life and love. I break down, I get bitchy, (hard to believe I know) I can be difficult, (who me?) and when that happens I find it helpful to talk to you, here.

I wear my heart on my sleeve and have my life as an open book so that I can be related to. If I get back into the moment and I take away the fact that I was tired, hormonal, and absolutely everything in my life is changing (acceptance without resistance, thanks Bonnie) and adjust my perception, people/things don’t seem so bad anymore. Scott you are a great guide in life to walk beside, a very important male perspective that I learn from everyday. I needed a recharge and by talking I got just that.

When I look at those who were making me feel discouraged, with a clear perception, I now see souls who didn’t set out to hurt my feelings, but perhaps have things to work out for themselves. Maybe they just need to see that we are all the same with issues, trying our best to come out on top. I hope that by coming here it will help them move forward in life and see that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. We might not always be on track in life, but as long as we keep taking steps in the right direction and put ourselves out there I think we grow and move forward learning along the way.

Two things come to mind now, ‘what a difference a day makes’ and ‘this too will pass.’  Thanks everyone for taking the time to visit, listen and share your voice with me!

Svaha ~

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