Touch Me ~ Hug Me!!

TracyI was enjoying coffee with a couple of girlfriends, sharing stories, when one of them admitted to being really touchy.  Not sensitive touchy but touchy feely.  I did actually noticed that she was very touchy a few times, but it felt nice to me, in a platonic kind of way.  It didn’t make me feel uncomfortable or anything like that, it was a fleeting thought really.  To be completely honest I love when girlfriends are touchy.  It make me feel like there is a real BFF bond there.  It automatically brings you closer to the person.  But when she was explaining that she was touchy, she sort of apologized for it.  I felt bad after that she was associating her touch with a negative feeling.  It’s really something you should naturally feel good about, being affectionate.  Most of us crave affection because we just don’t get enough.  That’s an underlying problem I think in most relationships but that is an entirely different topic.  We all started talking about how people hug and if they hug like they really mean it or like a stiff board.  Oh, we have all had the stiff board hug from someone who has hug repellent on.  It’s a horrible awkward moment.  I think the stiff board hug goes with the back pat!  I love hugs, they are such a uplifting gift to give and receive.  They are free and have absolutely no calories !!

hug couple rainHugging is a form of physical intimacy that usually involves holding your arms around another person or group of persons.  The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection, along with kissing.  I posted about Kissing XXX awhile back if you missed it check it out !  A hug can be given or received either publicly or privately without stigma in many countries, religions and cultures, within families, and also across age and gender lines.

A hug can be a romantic exchange between two people or just a sign of support and comfort.   We hug when we feel affection and emotional warmth towards someone .  Brief at times, it is used to show many levels of affection.  Hugs are not just exchanged between humans, many species of animals also engage in similar exchanges of warmth.  Hugging has been proven to have health benefits. One study has shown that hugs increase levels of oxytocin, and reduce blood pressure.  There is a good reason right there to start hugging the guy or gal next to you while waiting in a slow lineup at the bank.

hugsA simple conversation between friends can make us aware of those around us, allow us to be more in tune with our friends, provoke a thought which in turn leads to reaching out to touch someone…lol.  (Not there!)  No seriously though, flu or no flu I am going to start being more aware of connecting with those around me.  So if by next week I am known as the touchy feely lesbian, you’ll all know why.  I ‘m okay with that if it makes all of us more aware of the beautiful human being standing next to us in the line up for java.  So reach out and touch someone!  Better yet reach out and hug someone !  Sometimes all the person standing next to you needs is a little lovin, hug style.  We would all be much happier if we did have a little more human contact.

~Peace Out ~

Love this Video !! Free Hug Campaign goes all the way to Oprah!

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A Famous Influential Woman I’d like to meet

Bonnie’s Take…

Here is my list of choices (in no particular order):  Ellen DeGeneres,  Helen Keller,  Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis,  Eleanor Roosevelt,  Katherine Hepburn, Oprah Winfrey, Michelle Obama and Mother Teresa.

Ideally I would love to have all of them in one room at the same time and just sit back and listen to the conversation flow.  Wow! That would be incredible.

Bonnie and Oprah

My face morphed onto Jen Aniston's body. Something I've always wanted!

If I had to choose only one though I would have to go with Oprah.

I would choose her because I can imagine having an effortless conversation with her.  I wouldn’t have to prepare for weeks ahead of time to come up with a bunch of deep philosophical questions.  I imagine she would be easy to relate to.  I could ask her zillions of questions about the multitude of celebrity’s she’s interviewed over the years, we could talk about books we’ve read, our dogs, our views on spirituality, health and fitness, whatever is in the news that week, or anything that comes up.  I know I’m not alone in this but yep, I’d like to meet Oprah.   And not just for a meet and greet after one of her shows but a real sit down and visit, get to know you kind of meetings.

How about you girls?


Tracy’s 2 cent’s…

Great topic Bonnie!!  This is a hard one.  There are so many great influential women in this world to admire.  I have to say that a woman who I admired for so many different reasons in my lifetime would be Princess Diana. Princess Dianna

I watched the courtship of her and Prince Charles like everyone.  Again I get drawn in with romance!

She didn’t have the conditioning of a Princess which is what I loved about her.  She was real, genuine and true to her voice, which she used for the benefit of others.  So many women could relate to her.  She was so beautiful and real to me.  She gave us all a look into the Royal Family that I think if not for her we might not have had the interest.  I was glued to the television during the wedding like  millions of others.  I remember exactly where I was  the day she died.   There are not many days in our lives that we can all remember exactly what we were doing with, perhaps, the exception of September 11th  2001!  (I was in Osoyoos with friends and we found out in the morning before heading out for our motorcycle ride).

I cried for her because she had so much more living to do and people to help.  I don’t think we got to actually see her live her authentic life!  She had just started in my eyes.  I would love to know what really happened to her~ and Marilyn Monroe!  Princess Diana’s death to me was a true tragedy!


Jacquie weighs in…

Without a doubt, if I had to pick just one, it would have to be Jane Austen (1775-1817)

janepictI’ve been a ‘Janeite’ ( something akin to a ‘Trekkie’) since the age of 15 when my sister and I literally fought over who got to read the lone copy of Pride and Prejudice brought on a summer trip.  I had to read it again in high school and one more time in college, and with each experience as I matured, I uncovered new layers of meaning and significance.  Her novels are chock full of witty sarcasm and irony, and are considered social comedies by some literary authorities.

So many stories swirl around about the life of the real Jane Austen that she remains an enigma to this day.   I can only guess at what went on in her head by what she chose to write about~ the upper levels of the 18th century social scene. (To protect her privacy, her sister and BFF Cassandra burned most of  her personal papers when she died).  I’ve often imagined what it would’ve been like to have been her girlfriend.  I don’t think she was the stuffy spinster at all, in fact, in one letter from an acquaintance in Bath (English playground to the rich at one point) Jane is described as “the prettiest, silliest, most affected, husband-hunting butterfly ever”!   Cool!  Brainy and she knew how to party! But seriously, I think the author of this quote was a woman intimidated by Jane’s intellect, as were many men at that time.

I’d ask her why she never allowed her heroines to kiss, always fading to black before the big smoocheroni.  Who was James LeFroy really?  The man that got away and whom she pined for all her life?  What was it like being an unmarried female writer in England at that time?  Could she set me up with someone rich like she tried to do for Fanny in Emma?

Jane Austen’s social commentary is unparalleled but she wasn’t fully appreciated until many years after her death.   I LOVE a line from one of her last surviving letters to an Aunt that she wrote at age 37;

“By the Bye, as I must leave off being young, I find many Douceurs in being a sort of chaperon (at dances), for I am put on the Sofa near the Fire and I can drink as much wine as I like”.

Lace me into a corset and I’d be on that sofa with her in a heartbeat, getting the scoop while sipping our goblets of Merlot.  (I thought ‘douceurs’ might mean pleasures but I looked it up and it can also mean a bribe.  Too funny!)  What a fascinating, independent woman!

By the Bye, Bonnie, I have a little pic to share with you.  This was taken 2 years ago and was an incredible moment.  Oprah’s aura is so strong, just being next to her you can feel the electricity.  I had a cold that day so I didn’t want to shake her hand in case I gave it to her.  Tracy said I should’ve taken her hand anyway, and when she sneezed on TV I could’ve take the credit!  LOL  We had a nice, short chat.  She’s wonderful.


Cheryl, Gloria, OPRAH! Susan and me!