Actions Speak Louder than Words ~

Sometimes you just have a feeling about someone and before you know it you’re sharing stories and a coffee with them. There is an immediate connection. When this happens so naturally it’s meant to be. I connected with a friend from Facebook this week who I had never met in person. I have known both of her brothers for 20 years. I mentioned we should meet for coffee and within a week we did. Lots of times words are put out there but they never go further than words. Rhonda and I spent a couple of hours talking about life and love. We’ve had similar experiences over the years so we could relate to one another very easily. We both agreed that Actions in life speak louder than Words.

I am a woman who loves words. I’ve been caught up in them on many occasions; in writing and romance. Words spoken from the lips of the right man can be captivating. We all crave words. When the actions of those words are not present the meaning disappears. ‘Actions speak louder than word’ is as basic as ‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’. Words followed by the appropriate action or intent of the words is the ultimate combination!

When there is truth in words spoken actions naturally follow. Everything falls into place with no effort. Its like floating down a river with no paddle. The path of least resistance is chosen for us. It just feels right even if you can’t explain it. When you look back you can connect the dots of what got you there, ultimately it was because someone took action.

Words come from the surface of who you are or who you think you are. Actions come from being authentic with good intention. Conviction is the true test of whether or not your words match who you believe yourself to be. I think too many people release words without having thought about what the impact will be. Others articulate to manipulate. It’s the only way they feel they can get what they want.

When words are spoken purely to stroke ones ego they mean nothing. Ego can transform any word into meaningless jargon. If ones actions don’t eventually match their words we naturally start to lose interest. We all have our limit to how long we are willing to wait to see if any action will be taken. Word without meaning are simply random letters grouped together without purpose.

I am not saying you can’t change your mind once spoken words that come from the heart, it’s your prerogative. I am saying that when actions don’t natually follow words, perhaps those words should have been thought about more deeply before they are spoken.

Action is eloquence.  ~William Shakespeare

All know the way; few actually walk it.  ~Bodhidharma

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  • jacquie

    “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
    Maya Angelou

    I totally agree with all the lip service that goes on out there these days, but I try to look past the words and understand what the real message is. I know some people that love to talk (me!) but the reality is that often we’re unable to get everything done that we’d like.
    Am I out to hurt someone by blabbering on about my hopes and dreams? Not on your life! Does my girlfriend intentionally mean to snub me if she can’t fulfil a commitment to help out with a charity event, let’s say? I don’t think so at all. Sometimes intentions are good – but we’re only human. If it happens continually then you get a reputation and that might not be good!

    Here’s another quote that takes it one step further:

    “Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
    Watch your words, for they become actions.
    Watch your actions, for they become habits.
    Watch your habits, for they become character.
    Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” anonymous

    Actions do speak louder than words, but better watch your habits, too! So if I say I’m going to spend the day doing housework…but I don’t…that reflects poorly on my character? In a way it does, when you really think about it.

    Sounds like you had a fantastic meeting of the minds and I love to hear about what girlfriend’s chat about over coffee! More, more! : )

    • Tracy Westerholm

      Love both quotes Jacquie! So true. Lip service is good as long as good intention is with it.

      I always keep in mind that no one realllllly sets out to upset anyone in particular but sometimes it happens. When it does it’s important to just let it go.
      Nothing wrong with blabbing about your hopes and dreams because you inspire others while doing so…you do me! Not that you blab but you do share and I love that because you are a passionate woman and I love that quality!

      The habit part is where things go sideways. Being aware is key to not allowing that to happen in yourself. What others do is up to them.
      Love girlfriend chats! And man-friend chats as well! 🙂

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