When I run I listen to the music of U2 or Cold Play to keep me in the ‘zone’ and inspired to keep going. While running the other day I found another source that kept me moving quickly along my route. I noticed that when women smiled at me I felt a burst of energy. It was their way of saying “you go girl” with a simple smile.
It’s different when men smile, you still feel the burst of energy but it quite often (not always) has a sexual charge connected to it. When women smile at me it just feels like it is for no other reason than support. I am not saying that when every man smiles at me it’s sexually charged (that’s an entirely different post) but I think it’s naturally different. I know men are also very supportive and their energy is very powerful as well. I have many male friends who are equally as supportive as my female ones.
We all learn from a very young age that encouragement is vital to success. We can succeed without it, but it certainly helps. We start with encouraging our babies to talk, walk and learn. Encouragement is what gets them to take that first step or say their first word. As our kids grow we continue to encourage them in school and sports and they flourish and learn so quickly. Kids thrive on encouragement, so do adults.
As adults I think we don’t encourage one another as much as we should. We have stopped giving those words of encouragement to our colleagues, possibly because of our competitive nature. I know for myself when I get encouraging words from both of my partners I work harder and push myself more. If your girlfriend tells you that you look like you’ve lost weight, you don’t go grab a cupcake for lunch, you go for a run. Encouragement! If your boyfriend tells you that you look like you’ve dropped a few (not in those exact words) you feel sexy, wink. Let’s be clear though that manipulative encouragement can totally backfire!
It’s all about positive energy. You get back what you put out there. I never thought of a smile before as a form of encouragement. But I believe it is. Bonnie wrote a great post on ‘The Power of a Smile’ which is so true. Encouragement is a gift that is free to give to anyone, anywhere, anytime that, as I learned running, can be as simple as a smile 🙂 Have you encouraged anyone today? I hope I inspired you to 🙂