Women Cougars…not as scary as you might think

Why a post on Cougars you ask? (in southern drawl)  Well Whyyyy Not!  Just the word Cougar makes me giggle.  We have discussed age related topics lately and dating so why not mix the two to explore the possibilities.

What is a cougar?The Unknown Cougar !
The short answer: A cougar is an older woman who is primarily attracted to and has sex with significantly younger men.  I have to ask …”and this is wrong and unacceptable, why?”  (giggle)

The long answer: The most commonly accepted definition of a cougar is a woman 40 years of age or older who exclusively pursues very young men. “Define very” (insert giggle and cougarish grin here)  The onset of the cougar years is hotly debated.  The ten year age difference seems to be an unspoken but accepted minimum between participants.

Typically, cougars prey upon men almost young enough to be their sons.  Fortysomething cougars would be attracted to men in their 20’s, and fiftysomething cougars would pursue men in their 30’s and so on.  Some cougars are less interested in a relationship than a sexual conquest, perhaps enjoying the fact that they are physically appealing to men who are considered to be in the prime of their virility.  Again I ask …”and this is wrong and unacceptable, why?” and I’m giggling…What I didn’t know was that a cougar can be married or unmarried.Ashton Kutscher & Demi Moore

Although the term ‘cougar’ comes from the big game predatory cat of the same name, the cougar connection also may allude to the wearing of animal print clothing by older and more sexually aggressive women.  How many of you just stopped to think if they have been sighted wearing animal print lately?  I know I just mentally scanned my closet,  phew I’m good.

An early example of the cougar phenomenon was seen in the groundbreaking film The Graduate, in which middle-aged Mrs. Robinson (Ann Bancroft) seduces fresh out of  college Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman).  I recently watched ‘Flirting with Forty’ starring Heather Locklear and Robert Buckley.  It made me laugh for so many different reasons.

Barbra Hershey & In my opinion we are hearing more about older women with younger men because people in general have become more accepting and desensitized with just about everything in life.  Women are financially independent and are looking for fun with no complications or expectations.  Not to say that dating a younger man doesn’t come with complications.

Over the last few year there have been younger men entering my circle and I enjoy what they bring to the friendship.  I think for me it would completely depend on the person.  Age doesn’t mean anything if you have a connection and are honest, up front and just let the relationship develop naturally.  Never say never!Susan Sarandon & Tim Robins

Real-life celebrity cougar relationships include Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (15 years), Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years), and Barbara Hershey and Naveen Andrews (21 years) to name just a few!  Each one of these men look like they have a secret when you really look into their eyes, ahh the eyes, the window to our souls.  And the women look confident, strong and very happy don’t you think?

If you have a cougar sighting  under no circumstance turn and run away, maintain eye contact, make yourself look much bigger than you are and back away slowly!  They love the chase!

So to conclude I ask myself, could I be a Cougar?  Never say Never!   Don’t knock it til ya try it right?

Flirting with Forty Movie clip~Looks like a no brain-er to me! lol



7 thoughts on “Women Cougars…not as scary as you might think

  1. I really like wearing a little animal print every now and then ( shoes are a safe bet). Anything up near the face starts to scream cougar : )

    Stacy London on ‘What Not to Wear’


  2. ….said with a smile & respect… I’ve started this flawed response about 10 times… and have wobbled each time to withdraw & hopefully say something of value, because of some bizarre feeling on the subject that I don’t quite understand yet…but simply put..”I like them”…Although some gals push the stereo type image… but, I believe in some respects, that some women naturally evolve into a Cougar while some may become a kitten… I embrace the diversity… And wish that every woman would give it a whirl… (in my dreams)… and as I’ve read here…”quiet women don’t make history”….more smiles.

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    • Thanks for your comment Kimmie, I personally wouldn’t describe a woman who is attracted to men 10 years younger sick or disgusting (a little harsh) but then again I don’t judge. Women who are in the “cougar” category aren’t forcing these young men into bed with them they are “willing” participants. I would be interested in hearing back how you would describe these young men who are attracted to older women? I have a son as well and as long as he is happy is all that matters to me. I am confident I have taught him that it is what’s inside that really counts and no matter the age of his girlfriend or future wife as long as she is a strong, giving, loving, compassionate woman with a great sense of ha ha she is welcome in our family circle anytime, regardless of her age!

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