50 Shades of Grey ~ Mommy Porn?
I am not generally a follower, more of a leader but I couldn’t resist finding out what all the fuss was about so I caved and bought the trilogy ‘50 Shades of Grey’. Everywhere I turn I hear someone say something about this book! A writer man-friend of mine suggested I start reading erotic romance novels if that is what I aspire to write more of, so I am. Anything for research…right? I have never even picked up a Harlequin Romance Novel before so I’m a virgin when it comes to reading romance. I’d rather be living it or writing about it than reading it. I did however find a few forum magazines when I was younger and found it hard to put those down.
I have to admit that’s where I find my flow in writing. I am naturally in my element when my romantic imagination joins my sensual erotic soul. I love the style of writing that leaves your loins aching for more, heart racing, imagination piqued and hormones surging!
I am not that far into the first book but I must say it’s intrigued me, I am not exactly sure what to expect, I haven’t got to the ‘play-room’ yet. I am secretly hoping their romance takes on a life of its own, being a true romantic myself. I also sense there is a darker erotic side to the story having heard there is a fair amount of S & M in the book.
As we read erotic sensual words, we feel the wash of sensuality flow over us. The look in our eyes change. We surrender to seduction. It’s a feeling many women don’t experience often enough in my opinion. I live for that feeling, thrive on it, I may even be addicted to it. It’s an obsession for sure. If there was an AA for this type of addiction I’d tell them to go to hell! My mind naturally plays with elements of love and sexuality daily, it’s a big part of who I am.
Lets face it a good number of relationships border on boring, we get too comfortable, so we look elsewhere to find a thrill. Taboo attracts us, well some of us. Knowing a man wants you is sometimes the only thing we need to get our heart racing. The feeling of lust and desire can be overwhelming! As for those comfortable souls who yearn for a Christian Grey to walk through their doors to titillate them, a novel is a much better safer place to look than between the sheets of a bed that doesn’t belong to you. Just sayin….
Hallelujah for erotic sensual romantic novels and writers such as E.L James that want to take us by the hand and lead us into temptation! Tempt me, tease me…leave me wanting more! Just don’t try to take my power as a woman away…cause I won’t go down without a fight!
Mommy porn? I like to think about it as story time that brings out the woman in all of us. Husbands and partners need not worry, we still want you…more than ever! You have probably noticed if your wife or partner is reading one of these books. I guess the question is “Who isn’t reading one of these books?”
Married women who are reading erotic romance are safe, husbands are in heaven with their wives new found libido, but what about the heat that has washed over single women? We’re gonna start to do things we aren’t proud of! I am considered getting a pool-boy but remembered I don’t have a pool. My girlfriend Alison F told me she was getting a pool-boy. (she’s reading the book too) Mind you she has a pool and lives back East where it’s realllllly humid right now. I’m thinking one of those little kiddie pools with the elephant trunk that spouts water is technically a pool…right? I think I’ll ask the sales clerk what isle the pool-boys are down, or if it comes with one? Is he in the box? Do I have to pay extra? Surely that trunk needs cleaning so there’s not a build up of algae in it?
Reading Mommy-porn does crazy things to a woman’s libido! Trust me! If you see a grown woman humping the leg of a crossing guard, or standing dangerously close to a jack hammer, just leave her be, she’s probably reading the book. This too will pass!
Check out Saturday Night Lives Parody of 50 Shades of Grey. (click the link) funny!
And here is a giggle…Ellen has always cracked me up!
Tracy Westerholm
"Exploring the never-ending desires that fuel all life, while finding lyrical beauty in everyday happenings."
13 Comments
Bonnie Johnson
Ok, that Saturday Night Live parody was soooo funny! You know when SNL does a parody on something that it is truly entrenched in pop culture…everybody knows about it. And so now I’m cringing at the fact that I took the book to read in my doctors waiting room last week. His, full of people waiting, waiting room. Everyone must know that it’s full of sex and my flushed sweaty face had nothing to do with any illness. I will have to read the rest in hiding.
I think it’s very wise of you to read the trilogy Tracy if this is the kind of writing you would like to pursue. Know what’s out there and what is popular (or already done) and then you can take it in your own direction.
I find it fascinating that this type of story has such a huge appeal for so many women. I think it has a lot to do with the idea of a strong very good looking man taking control and looking after every detail, including (and especially) how to please his woman sexually.
Maybe there are a lot of women out there who just relish the idea of being able to hand over all power just so they can be the ones who are completely looked after (in every way).
I find the reaction to the books more interesting than the books themselves…so far. I’m not quite half way through the first one though, so I’d like to reserve the right to change my mind if I choose to do so after I’ve finished reading. 🙂
Tracy Westerholm
I too find it so interesting that this book has captivated so many women. I can’t say exactly what I think about it yet as I am only 1/2 way through the first one but my guess is that there is a lot more to it than just sex.
I have to believe that a book that has become so popular with so many women has to be a love story to keep the interest of this many women. We are programmed for romance and love, sex being the perk of having the mental stimulation first…but a very important part of every relationship in my opinion!
I agree that violence and sex don’t mix Jacquie but a rape scene and a concentual sexual encounter are not the same in my opinion. Its like comparing Ultimate Fighting (which I am not a fan of by the way) and a Street Fight where one guy doesn’t want to fight.
I think the main ingredient in any sexual encounter, whether it be lustful or with love involved is TRUST. Without trust you are held back. If you have trust with a man he will know you well enough to know what you want and what you like not allowing any lines to be crossed. That takes time.
Jane (Mom) I come by my honesty honestly! lol I am proud of who I am and being open and honest is what you taught me. Not everyone is comfortable talking about sex openly. I think if nothing else this book has opened up a conversation we shy away from far too often. Some women love sex as much as men and shouldn’t be embarrassed about it.
It’s a good thing when conversations are opened up in such a grand scale!
(((((smile)))))
jacquie
I hadn’t heard of the book, or paid much attention, until you brought it up last week, Tracy.
It’s too bad about the S&M. Knowing there’s a bit of that in it will keep me from reading it. Violence and sex don’t mix. I couldn’t read Girl with the Dragon Tattoo for the same reason. Apparently there was a pretty vivid rape scene depicted and I just don’t want those images in my head, even if the rest of the book is good.
“Maybe there are a lot of women out there who just relish the idea of being able to hand over all power just so they can be the ones who are completely looked after (in every way).”
I agree with this, Bonnie, and I would add that being ‘taken’ allows women to be sexual and yet take no responsibility for their actions. It’s the fear of being thought a tramp or whore if you like sex a lot and want it, but if it’s somewhat forced upon you then it’s not your fault. Very old fashioned notion but one that still exists today, I think.
Nothing better than a fast-paced, well-written bodice ripper every so often. A girlfriend recently introduced me to Kathleen E Woodiwiss and A Rose in Winter. Not a Harlequin at all. Way too steamy. Terrific writing and reeeeaaaally good, if you get my drift. (The bodice is ripped by the brambles during a storm, of course.)
Happy reading, ladies!
Jane
Isn’t it great that we see different ideas from women. I have always believed that sex should be discussed openly and truthfully between men and women.
I still remember a movie called Ryan’s Daughter where the love scene has stuck in my mind for many years and I have watched it many times through the years. The love scene was in the bushes underneath trees and all you saw was the sun shining through twinkling not ever seeing the actual love scene leaving it to the imagination.
To me it was the most erotic love story between two people.
I have not read 50 Shades of Grey, but will after Tracy has finished them. lol
Tracy you have come into your own with the writing on All Things Sexy and Silver and hope you continue with a follow up book.
With writing there is no holding back, men reading it should never assume it’s about them.
Many will probably wish it where though.
allison
You see you were the perfect person for me to ask to review this. So thank you for that. I’m maybe not be as open about my sexuallity and always shy to talk about it even at 49 years old. It’s just fun it has us women talking about what’s real and what’s right in our thoughts and lives. That part I like a lot.
I love your blog’s always and just knew you would give this subject some good sense. PS. yes I do have a pool and yes it’s stinking hot here visit anytime would love to see you! PPS. Hi Jane remember me? T I will tune in next time for your blog:)
Tracy Westerholm
Hey Ally!
I will give you an update as I get further into the book(s)! Anything that gets women talking about their sexuality I believe is a good thing!
Thanks for your support on both blogs! It means a lot to me to have such wonderful women in my life who support what I love and feel so passionate about!
I would LOVE to come and visit you after all these years and you also have an open invitation to visit me here as well! How fun would that be!
xoxox
T
Jane
I seem to remember you with a bloody nose at Tracy’s birthday party Allison.
Cheryl Scremin
I’m late to this post but thought I’d add my 2 bits. Those parodies are hilarious. I’m just over half-way as well and totally agree with Bonnie’s comment. So far, I find it interesting that people are so crazy for the books, but don’t quite get it myself–yet.
I am having an issue with the S&M as well. I don’t think it’s necessarily consensual if she’s nervous the whole time and it’s very painful. We’ll see if I change my opinion when I’m finished the book. I’m expecting to since Dr. Oz apparently did a show on it and I can’t imagine him condoning a woman giving away all her power.
I’ll fess up! I’m the one who introduced Jacquie to Kathleen Woodiwiss and I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to read romantic literature that has riveting characters, a great plot, but is also very erotic and funny. Tracy, if that’s what you want to get into writing, I think you should give it a go and let me know what you think. This author wasn’t very prolific but she wrote a couple of amazing books in her long career (this one is in my top 5 of all-time favourite books). It’s very old so it should be cheap to buy now, or I bet you could also find it at a used book store.
Bonnie Johnson
I’ve finished reading the book now and I can tell you Cheryl, it’s just more of the same…all the way through. I don’t get all the fuss. I guess if you are into reading sex scenes every 4 or 5 pages then this book is for you. I don’t know, maybe it’s because it reminds me of Forum magazines from the eighties but I really don’t think there is anything new here. I certainly don’t feel the need to read the other two books. ¯\_(?)_/¯
Cheryl Scremin
Well that’s too bad Bonnie! I already bought them! Everyone said I’d be hooked and should get them together so I wouldn’t have to run around finding them. Still not getting the fuss either. It’s not that I’m not interested but I don’t find it compelling, can’t-put-it-down reading like the Twilight or Hunger Games trilogies. OK, I totally don’t know what that symbol is!
Bonnie Johnson
Oops…sorry Cheryl. Well maybe the next two books will be better. The symbol is supposed to be a person shrugging but it didn’t translate from word to wordpress properly. Ha, sorry for the confusion.
Tracy Westerholm
I’m still on page 206 sigh…not enough time in the day!! When I retire that will be my first book to read? Okay…I will try again!
Cheryl Scremin
Haha Bonnie. Now I do see it! Tracy, I have about 30 pages to go. I will probably read the next one as I’m thinking there’s going to be some cliff-hanger because it’s too little time to wrap up.