Would You, Should You, Could You Internet Date?

Is it really that hard to meet someone? I’ve been unattached for a year and a half and have had Internet Dating Services come up in conversations with friends more than a few times.   😉

Here is my take on my first impression of a few: Plenty of fish is one that keeps coming up but seriously the name, when I think of fish I think of throwing them back, they’re wet, cold, scaly and not the nicest of smells out there, it’s just weird. eHarmony, their ads just seem too good to be true and you know what they say about that! There is Crazy dates, they actually have written “Meet the Crazy Bitch here” in their ad, I feel regret just thinking about that one! There is Sugar Daddies where the classy, attractive and affluent can meet, whose your daddy, ahhhh no. The last one that caught my eye was Its Just Lunch Vancouver for busy professionals, they do all the work for you, you just show up and have lunch, brunch or drinks, no pressure! Are you kidding, isn’t the anticipation or moment before you get asked out the BEST PART of meeting someone new, other than kissing for the first time? I don’t get it, it shouldn’t be WORK, they should say,“we take all the pleasure out of it for you!”

Seriously, I just don’t feel right about someone else planning a date for me. Its like someone picking out an outfit in a clothing store who doesn’t have a clue what your style is, even when you tell them what you like, if they can’t find it they start suggesting other options. I was looking for a Jeep years ago and a car salesmen actually called me and said he didn’t have a new black Jeep available but he did have a 1985 white pick-up truck. WTF is that? That’s what I would be afraid of, do they push the guys who aren’t moving very quick and have an expiry date on them like old bananas in the produce department? If I worked there I would set up joke dates until I was fired just for laughs. It feels creepy and desperate to me, but never say never, right? Not likely for this chick!

I don’t get out much so I see the point, if someone doesn’t walk or drive by between 9 am and 9:05 am while I am sitting having a quick gulp of coffee on my front steps, or knows my walking route and lays on the horn so I can hear them over my blasting ipod, it’s just not likely to happen while doing my daily activities. I guess there’s kid sports but I am there watching the sport not scanning the audience of parents looking for a potential date *cough*, okay if Carri’s there I do, cause that’s just fun.

I am on the computer for a healthy part of the day so it does make sense as a place to meet someone, a common interest, but I am at home in my office and I am a little old fashioned when it comes to meeting people and rely on Chemistry to guide me. I’m not too worried about it to be honest, I am just living my life, doing my thing and if someone catches my attention I will take it one step at a time.

I was talking to a friends Mom across the street about dating and the internet and she agreed with me, we are going to leave it up to fate. We both love our independence. I find that those who are in a relationship think those who aren’t are lonely, we are not lonely, we are alone and there is a difference! The way I look at it is that if someone isn’t in my circle of doings and I need to meet them on the internet because we are so damn busy, that option isn’t looking good. I know I have to make a conscious effort to get out and will when the time is right but for now the internet for me is about surfing for ideas not guys or potential dates or mates. What do you think? Would you sign up for dating through the internet, or leave it up to fate? Have you met anyone online and had it work out? Let me know what’s worked for you? I really am interested to hear what’s worked for those who are navigating the dating field.

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  • Rosie

    Hi Tracy;

    I totally agree with your point of view. BTW, I tried Its Just Lunch…boy, what a horrendous experience!! Two miserable lousy introductions. A lot of money wasted…hard to justify. Obviously I should have known better…done my research online etc. Its better to hold out for a potential partner in a more natural setting…

  • Jacquie

    Could I? No, I’m married.

    Should I? No one can tell anyone else what they should or shouldn’t do or try…

    Would I? If I were single and had the spare change hanging around and I didn’t mind gambling with it then why not? I think you have to put yourself out there if you want to meet as many new people as possible. I’d do it in a safe way, though. Yes, I’m sure there are a lot of guys you wont’ want to see again romantically, but you just might find a friend and you never know.

    I know three couples that have found each other through internet dating sites. My girlfriend’s mom found a really terrific guy (grandfather of 4 and he is financially VERY secure). They’re now happily married. Another girlfriend’s brother found his long term girlfriend on Kettle of Fish. (I meant Plenty of Fish!)

    Hey, if you’ve got the time to spare to go on dates then you might have to go through some not so good ones before you find a keeper. But what if that one special someone is waiting to hear from you right now? You just never know…

  • Janet

    I have seen it work…and know it was alot of work, and alot of bad dates. But in the end….she would agree…. sooooo worth it. Being ready for that partner, through whatever means you find him/her. I think it was a learning experience for her (as well as I).
    Couldn’t be happier she found love & “Harmony” 😉

  • Samantha Mattersdorfer

    This is so weird because I was taking about this the other day to someone! My mom was even telling me I should sign up for Plenty of Fish. I personally dont feel comfortable signing up for that. I did sign up for eharmony but it just wasnt my thing, I guess.
    I am hopeful when school starts up Ill find someone. I think my personality shines more in person so for me to post what im looking for online it wouldnt be the same.
    I want to find someone in person as well and leave it up to fate.

  • Rick

    Ha,Ha…. Tracy !

    Well written, funny and true ! I have no idea why anyone would use a dating service …. but who am I to say. If your not looking for that someone special at a particular time in your life …. you won’t find them.
    I think when we are ready to date again after all the time spent with the same person…. we will know who we would like to make a move on ….lol ! Just Kidding …. ask out is what I meant.
    Someone told me once that the perfect person for me would show up when I least expected it….. hmmmmm.

    P.S. Why would such a babe like you have any trouble getting a date ?

    Good Work ….. Written Well …. Love your Humor !

    • Tracy Westerholm

      Ha ha, I never said I had trouble getting a date! lol What I really need is a T Shirt that says “He’s my brother” I am not very approachable when I am with Scott most of the time, but woudn’t change that just to get asked out. I love how I spend my time, most of my day here on the computer or with my family. When the right guy comes along I will obviously make time for him! I was really just addressing the conversation that keeps coming up, me joining an online dating service. I just don’t see that happening. I love my own company and am just fine spending time by myself until ‘he’ approaches me! Tx

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