Girlfriend Threesomes!

Have you ever been involved in a Girlfriend Threesome? It can be a lot of fun, confusing, or upsetting if you’re not careful. Each girlfriend needs to be aware and conscious of the others feelings when girlfriend threesomes exist! I have never been involved in one myself that lead to hurt feelings but know friends who have. I’ve always been a bit of a loner so it never bothers me when other girlfriends get together and I don’t go.

My daughter had a friendship trio last year that caused her hurt feelings and it was painful to watch her navigate through it. My advice to her was to expand her circle of friends, and be confident in who she was, which is hard when you’re only 9 but these types of lessons are good to learn at an early age. It all worked out in the end with very few pieces to be picked up and no friendships lost. She ventured out of her comfort zone and widened her circle of girlfriends which made her stronger and more independent. Lets face it, being a girl can be very difficult, and being a girlfriend is even harder!

As we age and become more confident in who we are, you’d think these sort of girlfriend troubles would disappear, but they don’t. Girls turn into women and have the same problems, they’re just older. However, as we mature and gain experience, we do become more equipped to deal with issues that pop up with friends, but there are still threesomes that cause hurt feelings.

Have you ever been involved in a girlfriend triangle which let to hurt feelings? I’d love to hear how you navigated through it if you have. Growing up my girlfriends came from two different areas so I was always hanging out with different crowds that didn’t know one another. I think that was the foundation of my friendship style. You don’t see each other all the time but when you do it feels like it was yesterday.

Bonnie and I as you all know have been friends since we were 15, but haven’t always lived close to one another. Throughout the years we have had lots of close friends, together and independent of one another, Jacquie, Carri, Anna, Teri, Lorellei, Chris and Deb are great examples! One of our friends, Jeannie, we found out years later, Bonnie was related to! (small world) Still when I see Anna its like it was yesterday that we were hanging out, same with Teri and Deb, yet we haven’t lived in the same city for years! I never thought of another close friend of Bonnie’s as a threat to our friendship because when we get together we usually haven’t seen each other in person for a couple of months so it’s always fresh and exciting! We do talk almost every day via every social network out there though. When I hang out with Jacquie it’s the same, I get her all to myself because her friends are from a different circle than mine. That could be the reason I have yet to have a girlfriend threesome which involved hurt feelings. Variety is the spice of life, even with girlfriends!

I think the most important part of being a girlfriend is honesty, “Does my ass look fat in these pants?” “Your Booty Rocks!” You see, there is no physical criteria for being a great girlfriend, just acceptance of being different and the same! Unconditional love of the female energy is wonderful! I embrace all the unique friendships I’ve had over the years, young and old, and look forward to the new ones I’ve yet to meet on my path of enlightenment! Encouragement, support, acceptance and unconditional love is what every girlfriend should be willing to give!

Cheers Girlfriends! I love each and every one of you for the unique individuals you are! 🙂


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6 thoughts on “Girlfriend Threesomes!

  1. I was involved in a ‘triangle’ growing up. At 14 they decided they didn’t want to hang out with me anymore. I was poor, and couldn’t go and do the things they wanted to do, and a 4th person had recently entered the group. The 4th person’s 16 year old sister suggested they just stop hanging out with me. No explanation…nothing. As you can imagine I was stunned, and very hurt. I think it’s hard to have balance with relationships, and at 14, that was tough. I found that I was a good floater, and had many people I knew, so it wasn’t too bad. We did all eventually start to hang out again…just us 3. Many years later at dinner with the other 2, I mentioned this time to them, and they didn’t realize how much hurt they had caused. I use this as a tool to hopefully teach my 10 year old daughter to watch what they say, and that if they don’t like something their friends are doing, that they can speak up, and don’t need to go along with them.

  2. Thanks for sharing that Janet. Kids can be cruel sometimes, even without knowing. I think it’s so great that you’ve found the positive in all of it and are using it as a teaching tool for your own daughter. I also think it was brave of you to discuss it years later with those friends, allowing everyone to grow from the experience and put it behind you.

    Girls and women have so much to offer each other and it is such a shame when we can’t support each other. I always feel that issues in friendships come up when people aren’t being honest and upfront about their feelings. Not always easy to do because you may not feel safe enough in the relationship. Sometimes that just takes time, and sometimes you need to go through some conflict now and again and make it through safely to the other side.

    It reminds me of when Tracy and I argued with each other for the first time in front of her children. They looked devastated until we explained to them that even when we don’t always agree, our friendship is solid enough to handle it. 🙂

  3. Friendships can definitely be work sometimes but that goes with any relationship. I agree with Bonnie Janet, you turned your own experience into a lesson for your daughter and that right there is powerful!
    When Bonnie and I were arguing in front of my kids my daughter was in tears thinking that this was it! She worried she might not see her again! It shows how little minds don’t understand because they have not gained the friendship experience we have. Kids see Mom and Dads argue and carry on but not often Best friends! I am glad Jordan did see so she can learn that it’s okay. Communication is key in any relationship! xo

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