Comments on: Are You Listening?

By: jacquie

jacquie — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:39:27 +0000

True confession time…again. I’m actually pretty shy in person and so I know I often get caught up in conversations with people who only talk about themselves or worse, other people they know that I don’t! Nothing is more boring than to be subjected to incessant, rambling gossip about people you’ve never met! What’s the point? I find a glass or two of wine helps me relax and that’s when the real me comes out and I get authentic. I’ll even say “enough about your obnoxious neighbours, let’s talk about how great this Shiraz is! Have you read Oprah’s latest book selection?” : )

I’m going to try out the me me me, you you you thing and put it to the test. I think sometimes it’s okay to be ‘me me me’ if you have something momentous to talk about but then next time you have to make it a ‘you you you’ get together to even things up.

Love the topic and could go on forever! Thx T

By: Bonnie Johnson

Bonnie Johnson — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:31:37 +0000

Huh, were you talking to me? Ha ha…kidding.

To be a really good listener, I would add that you should try to listen without only thinking about your own point of view. So when the other is talking, if you don’t agree, try to imagine their point of view, roll it around in your mind first before saying anything. So many of us aren’t really doing that, we are just waiting for the next break in the conversation so we can state our own point of view in there.

By: Rick

Rick — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:04:19 +0000

Tracy,
This is good stuff ! I’m defiantly guilty of thinking I need to raise my voice to be heard when I think someone isn’t listening. Then of course I’m accused of being angry. Does anyone have those moments when your talking to someone about something important to you and you can tell they are not hearing a word you said ? I would agree that listening is a skill…. and something like everything else in life …. we need to continue to get better at.
I read recently that life is about learning and changing…. and if your done learning and changing…. YOUR DONE ! Makes good sense to me !
I love the way you add your personal sense of humor to a serious subject ! Funny !

Thanks ! And Keep Up The Great Work !