Moral Compass

625565_10151296502307032_1928783634_nMoral Compass ~ An inner sense which distinguishes what is right from what is wrong, functioning as a guide (like the needle of a compass) for morally appropriate behaviour. The full range of virtues, vices, or actions which may affect others and which are available as choices to a person, to a group, or to people in general. 

From a very young age we are taught right from wrong, good vs evil. We are all born with a clean moral slate, that gets tarnished along our path in life as we live and learn. Tarnish isn’t permanent, what is beneath the tarnish can be polished to bring back the shine that comes from within, if we are aware of our own moral compass.

images“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is so basic and rightfully labeled the Golden Rule! How is your moral compass these days? I think if we all checked in once in a while and asked ourselves what worked well and what we could improve upon in our daily lives, whether it be at work or personally, we might learn a few things about becoming better human beings and be more productive.

I think the teaching or guidance needed to differentiate between right and wrong is slipping between the cracks in the younger generations. We have lost the art of communication. No one take the time anymore to communicate and find out what we can do to improve ourselves. No one wants to hear the truth anymore. It’s almost frowned upon.

The days of a hand-shake agreement are lost. Ones word is no longer something you can take to the bank, so to speak. I hate to say it because I am a silver lining seeker, but I think generally speaking the human species moral compass is off kilter. Moral values, integrity, respect, consideration and honesty are becoming diluted in our society. People with their moral compass intact are becoming few and far between.

I leaned the term Kaizen at work the other day and I think its principal can be used at home as well.

Kaizen” is a Japanese approach to the workplace that has proven to be a famously effective Best Practices strategy with companies like Toyota, Sony and Envision Financial among others. “Kai” is defined as continuous improvement while “Zen,” a more familiar term, is loosely translated as for the better or “good.” Therefore, kaizen is to make “continuous improvements for the good.” Make sense?

Kaizen follows three principles: 1) process and results; 2) systemic thinking (the big picture); and 3) non-blaming, because to blame is counterproductive and wasteful in practice.”

How can you not improve by following this practise? It resonated with me and I plan on using it in my daily life.

“The two focal points of the principles are continuous improvement and respect for people. The principles for a continuous improvement include establishing a long-term vision, working on challenges, continual innovation, and going to the source of the issue or problem. The principles relating to respect for people include ways of building respect and teamwork.”

I like to think I have been on the right or good side for the majority of my life but I am human and have strayed to the wrong side on more than one occasion. Nobody’s perfect. There is a reason we are taught to do things a certain way and although it’s not completely clear as a child, it does become apparent as we age and grow into young adults. The right way is also debatable, and not always the short route. Being open to learn is a start in the right direction.

I used to tell my kids that they were not bad kids, sometimes their actions were not the best choice but in order for them to learn they needed to push buttons and boundaries to see the reaction that followed. Take away the ‘reaction’ and they have no compass to direct them along the right path. This is no different in the lives of adults. If you allow someone to treat you with disrespect, how can you blame them if you don’t give them an unfavourable reaction? That is how we learn. We do, we see and we either do again, or change to get the outcome we were hoping for.

Every action gets and deserves a reaction. Sometimes we are the one who acts and sometimes we are the ones who react. Both allow us to grow and evolve our human spirit.

So the next time someone reacts to your action, ask yourself  ~ “What could I have done to get this reaction?” Think about how your actions affect those around you and put yourself in their shoes to understand and be aware that your word through voice or script can affect those around you in a positive or negative way. It’s your choice!

Svaha ~

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Take Chances!

When was the last time you took a chance? Chance; the possibility of something happening. Not gamble; play games of chance for money. Not Risk; a situation involving exposure to danger. I mean a chance in business, friendship or with the opposite sex, that if taken could change everything. We take chances with choices every single day. Sometimes you need to make a choice however before you take a chance.

We take chances on relationships every time we meet someone new. We take a chance that they are who they say they are. Some men/women don’t yet know who they are. They can be a work in progress that lasts a lifetime. To find someone authentic is a breath of fresh air. Knowing who you truly are is a feat not everyone is able to reach. How can anyone be expected to be taken at face value if they don’t know what their value is?

Who are you? A valid question that in time can be answered in depth. That’s where the chance is taken. It’s hard to get to know someone who doesn’t quite know who they are yet themselves. On the other hand it’s easy to get to know someone who does.

When you first meet someone you should throw your expectations right out the window and let them just be who they are. And when they show you who they are believe them! If you think even once…if they would just change____stop and walk away! They are not who you are looking for if you need to change them EVER!

Choices stand directly in front of us, waiting for us to take the chance. Chances come with a feeling of exhilaration. Taking a chance if honesty is present is worth every single moment.

I love taking chances, hate making choices! I usually just go with my instinct. If it feels right do it. Having said that it doesn’t always work out in my favour but at least I try. I’ve tried dipping my toe in life one foot at a time, being cautious and careful. Now I am jumping in with both feet making a splash to see where the water ends up. I am certainly not afraid of getting wet! I think when you trust your instinct, chances are easier to take. The choice is made for you. Everything just happens as it should. Perhaps not always as you thought but as it should have never-the-less. Live and learn.

If you’re trying to make a choice that you think you need to make but it just doesn’t seem clear…leave it for a while. A chance will sometimes appear out of the blue that you can’t turn your back on which will make the choice easy. This is one thing I know for sure!

Here are a few quotes I wanted to share with you about choice and chance…
The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved…William Jennings Bryan.
Leap and the net will appear…Zen saying
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take…Wayne Gretzky.
You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do…Henry Ford.
In the end, what we regret most are the chances we never took…Frasier Crane.
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place…Zora Neale Hurston.
Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learned here…Marianne Williamson.
Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it…Buddha.
You must be the change you wish to see in the world…Mahatma Gandhi.
Life is ever changing. You never really know your path until you are walking it, still then it’s not always your choice that changes its direction, most important is that you just keep going…Tracy Westerholm.