It’s Your Choice…if you can make it.

I was talking to a male friend of mine the other night about a number of different topics and something he said stayed with me. “Failure for me is not an option”. He doesn’t see anything ending in failure. He doesn’t allow himself to even go there visually. What a great attitude to have. There is no point in starting anything if you already see yourself failing at it. A positive attitude and hard work ethic is the key to success in life as far as I am concerned.

What ever you set out in life to do there will always be someone who is better. Not being the best doesn’t mean you failed. Just doing it is a part of succeeding. If you want to be the best you have to put in more than everyone else. Athletes are the perfect example of those who naturally visualize being the best. Competitive by nature they are born with the drive to win. We can all learn from those who are the best at what they do. It takes a lot of hard work and perseverance to achieve that title. If at first you do not succeed…try try again!

If what you are doing makes you unhappy each day at some point don’t you ask yourself why you’re doing it? Doesn’t it makes sense to create change instead of just going through the motions! It’s not always easy but nothing really worth while ever is. Sometimes baby steps are all we need to push us in the right direction.

There are also those who don’t need or strive to be the best. They enjoy their life regardless of what they do or where they fit in. It’s not always easy to reach for your goals or dreams. Sometimes life, responsibilities and obligations get in between our dreams and reality. As long as you wake up each day loving life, giving back and being a positive influence you are inspiring those around you. Have you ever met someone who makes you want to be a better person, that’s what I’m talking about. We all have our role in life and as long as whatever you do you do your personal best we all benefit in a positive way. I’ve tried to teach both my kids that it’s not what you do that matters as much as how well you do it. “If you can’t be good, be good at it” has come out of my mouth on more than one occasion. Attitude, hard work, enthusiasm and passion can change everything. And don’t forget to smile, they’re contagious! 🙂

We make choices every single day. Some we need to think about in great depth and some feel right as soon as the thought crosses our mind. In the end a choice is made in order to move forward. Choices are part of life. We can choose to work towards a goal or dreams or we can let our life unfold in front of us making choices along the way. Sometimes it is not us who makes the choice that changes our direction in life.

Life is ever changing, you never really know your path until you are walking it, and still then it’s not always your choice that changes its direction, most important is to just keep going! Tracy ~

Some of us know exactly what we want to do at an early age. A goal is set and steps are made to achieve it. Others take their time and change their path several times before they find what they are seeking. Believe me I know how hard choices can be. Since I was a very little girl I remember the struggle I had with choice. If I was given more than one I had such a difficult time deciding. Thankfully as we age we become much better at making choices. Life experience, wisdom and knowing who you are seems to help. I find too many thing in life interesting and worth exploring to be pressured to pick just one. I am working on it. 🙂 If I could just decide what I wanted…I’m certain I would get it! Oh and eenie meenie minie mo rarely works! lol

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Coaching and Sports!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JACQUIE!! XOXO

Coaching has a huge influence on a child’s ability to excel. Good coaching can make or break your child’s experience in sports or any other extracurricular activity they partake in. You don’t really appreciate a good coach until you experience a questionable one. A coach can either send a child to the next level with the tools to move up or they have the ability to coach a child’s natural instinct right out of them.

I appreciate anyone who has taken on the task of coaching kids, it can be a challenge! A coach has to get to know your child in a short amount of time, assess them using their instinct to figure out where they fit best into the team, and at what level they should be playing. Every parent deep down just wants their child to be challenged and given the same opportunity to develop as the rest of the team. Having a great group of kids and parents is the ideal for development and fun in sports! With positive encouragement they will excel in leaps and bounds!

The coaches philosophy is what’s important, I would rather have my child coached by someone with integrity whom I would like to also spend time with than someone who only strives to win! A great coach not only teaches the skill of the sport, but shows by example what it is to be a good winner and loser. We all learn from mistakes, we don’t gain as much from winning as we do from losing. Losing teaches us how we can improve next time and has a way of humbling our egos. Winning definitely feels better and is the pay off for hard work. But sometimes even with lots of hard work we still don’t win. That’s what I love about watching sports, at play off time, it can be anyones game.

I’ve always told both my kids that there will always be someone who is better than you and someone who isn’t, what’s important is being the best you can be for yourself. Set goals and strive to reach them. Reaching goals goes hand in hand with making compromises in other areas of your life, no junk food, missing the school dance, hours of practise and most important, discipline. There is always someone else doing more than you are willing to do!

In all sports rivalries arise, and everything changes. It becomes Good vs Evil. When it’s about the other team losing and not about winning, you have to step back and think why you want to win, not why you want them to lose! If it’s because you want to kick their sorry asses because their coach got under your skin or you can’t stand to look at the gloating parents any longer, that’s wrong! lol Although it’s an enticing gamble, if you do win it feels just that much sweeter when you beat a team who doesn’t play fair. Good should prevail over Evil, right?

Sometimes teams who don’t play fair win too, that’s a part of life, it’s how you react to this is what makes you who you are and shows a great deal about your character. Do you continue to play your game, clean and fair with integrity or lower yourself to their game? Anyone who has played sports themselves or have kids in sports knows teams such as these with reputation for unfair play or parents who turn into monsters while the game is on! We all get caught up in the moment from time to time. I am not proud to say I have rung my cow bell in the direction of some opposing parents to rub in a goal, I am only human. This happens when passion for sport turns into obsession of winning at all costs! Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that IT’S A GAME! No one wants to lose to their nemesis, nothing sucks more, it feels better when defeat is to a team you feel is worthy of winning, one you would be proud to lose against. If you both played fair and hard and can appreciate the other teams skill, that is what it’s all about!

My son Jesse’s Lacrosse team won the Gold Metal in a tournament we attended in Calgary which was sweetened by him scoring the winning goal from a great pass from team mate Ryan A! They played hard as a team and won as a team, no one person was responsible for the win, they did it together and came out on top! Hard work, great coaching, supportive parents and the stars were aligned just perfectly! It doesn’t get much better than that!

We were ranked 2nd in our division entering into the Provincials last week but this time we came out 4th in the Province. What made me most proud of our boys was that when they came out of the dressing room they still smiled. They had their moment of disappointment, they talked about the game in the dressing room, and then moved on. I’m sure each and every one of them, coaches included, played over and over in their minds what they as an individual could have done better, that’s expected with any loss. It doesn’t change the outcome but it’s a great way to process the experience in order to move forward. Someone had to lose and we showed good sportsmanship by being proud of what we achieved this season. We held our heads high and were proud to be in the Provincials of Canada’s National Sport, Lacrosse!

Thank you Rob Bosa for your generosity, Rob Martel for your passion, Terry Stead for conditioning the boys and Tom Johnson for giving back to the younger generation, you made a real impression on all the boys!

The friendships these boy’s have made through Lacrosse will follow them into adulthood and give them memories they will look back on often. And last but not least… “there’s always next year”, right Brock! lol 🙂 I already miss your emails Laurie! xo

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