Life is meant to be shared ~

“I just need to find someone to share it with” is what I keep hearing from those around me. I can relate as I’m sure many of you can. Life is meant to be shared. Sharing it with friends and family is incredibly fulfilling but finding a partner to share it with intimately seems to be a quest of many. Need is maybe not the right word. I’ve struggle with this word at times. In the past I’ve associated need with weakness. “I don’t need help, I am a self-sufficient strong independent woman who can do anything.” Hearing that back doesn’t sound the least bit weak although it’s said with the intention of not wanting to appear weak. (and I can be slightly stubborn at times) There is nothing weak about wanting to share and explore the beauty of life with an intimate partner. The trick is finding the right one.

As a woman it’s hard to balance independence and strength without losing your femininity. Women naturally want their man to take care of some of their needs. Some of us even have the burning desire to be save by a man. I need to be saved from myself I think. At times I think I am only attached to this world by a thread, I often find myself floating away to my world which seems in no way a reality.

I think until you allow yourself to be vulnerable in life you don’t really experience all life has to offer. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone or needing someone in your life as long as you’re not dependent on them. That’s when obligation and expectation step in and wreck everything in one clean swoop! When you lose your independence you give away your strength. Balance is so important in life, yin & yang.

Want is perhaps not as scary as need“I just want to find someone to share it with.” I think there are life experiences we need to have that strike a cord within us that make us move to another level. And then there are life experiences we want that enrich and allow us to grow as individuals. Feeling vulnerable is not an emotion everyone is comfortable with, I’m certainly not. When you’re ready to open yourself up and be vulnerable, real passion in life begins. Passion is something in my opinion that needs to be shared. When you have real passion for what you do you can’t help but inspire those around you.

I was in the company of my parents on the weekend and their chemistry after 60 years together is still in the room. They found someone to share it with and somehow manage to keep from floating away making their passionate love a reality. It is possible. I’m looking for that someone who will feed my soul, not my ego. Who will let me float away when I need to but will reel me in from time to time to balance my fairy tale with reality.

We all want to share a part of our life with someone. It doesn’t have to be all at once, it can start with bits and pieces until it feels right to share more. It’s not a race. It’s about timing and letting go to allow your life to just be.

We as human beings like to share. Elation, can’t help but be shared. Love yearns to be shared. Desire burns if not shared. Inspiration is wasted if not shared. Music is created to share. Lust comes undone when shared. Peace wants to be shared.

Life is meant to be shared…

 


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“Jealous Of The Angels”

66821_234091456740446_1156119800_nI posted this last year but felt the need to re share it with you as a reminder that Monday is NOT a holiday but a day to remember those who came before us, and those who give themselves today so that you and I have the freedom we sometimes take for granted.

We don’t have to allow the commercial aspect of marketing to rush us into the next holiday on the ‘list’ so quickly! Remembering those who gave their lives for our freedom should be savored. Remembering those who lost their lives regardless of the battle they fought should be remembered in our hearts forever.

Loss affects every one of us. Death will greet us all, eventually. Risking your life for the lives of others is the ultimate sacrifice. Material loss means nothing to those who survived a battle…of any kind. Loss puts life into perspective. We need to continue being the change we want to see in our world and appreciate the gift that those who came before us gave. Battles are fought but not always won, leaving a legacy behind to be remembered.

The Heroes who fought to give us our freedom are being whisked away too quickly so we can drown in the madness of gross obsession for stuff none of us need. Stuff! Where has all the meaning gone? Wants and needs have become one of the same. They are NOT the same. What we need is to get back to the basics before we can’t see through all the distractions swirling around us, calling us like a deep seeded addiction calls an addict. Consumerism…we have all taken a hit of that drug. STOP the madness!

I don’t think we take enough time to appreciate what’s truly important in life. Health, freedom, spirit, love, friendship, unity and peace. The essence behind what is lovely in life is being over powered by marketing, money and greed. We can’t allow the human spirit to be set aside for such meaningless garbage!

We are reminded often lately how precious life is. The love that is present in our hearts for those who gave their lives selflessly can’t be forgotten. Lest We Forget is a phrase to caution us against forgetting those who died in war.

We can’t take any of our possessions with us when we leave this world, but I do believe when one is awarded with a ‘medal of honour’ it transcends with whom it belongs in spirit. Honour in your own way those who left you behind. Give those you loved their very own medal of honour to take with them when they go.

Human spirit rises in tragedy. We naturally reach out to those who experience a loss, it’s human nature. Compassion is alive and well. We are surrounded by Heroes in memory and in life as are we surrounded by Angels. I like to believe our Heroes get first dibs on the Angels waiting…and our Angels are past fallen Heroes giving themselves once again.

“Jealous of the Angels”…by Jen Bostic

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What Makes YOU Happy?


I just can’t seem to get off the topic of Happiness. What makes YOU happy…I mean realllllly happy? What puts a ((((smile)))) on your face? Is it a person? A place? A hobby? Thing 1 or Thing 2? Exclude health because without good health we have worry in the back of our minds, which can take away from happiness. However, there are those extraordinary individuals who rise above a health set-back and somehow beam with happiness like the sun is shining right through them, somehow making our day better! We can all learn from those individuals, they get it!

I read an article on who the happiest people in the world are and wasn’t surprised that it is those who have less materialistic stuff. Materialistic objects fill a hole when someone isn’t happy within, in my opinion. More stuff doesn’t equal greater happiness. Happiness is a skill that once mastered simply changes your frame of mind, it’s basic! It takes work just like everything else in life.

It’s actually quite hard to wipe the (((((smile)))) off of my face. I try to find the good in everything or everyone. It’s not always easy, after all I am human. Which is what we try to do here on Tara Cronica, “Finding Lyrical Beauty in Everyday Happenings.

I occasionally take a dive into the dark abyss of unhappiness but it never lasts very long. It’s either hormonal, which passes or it’s induced when I have to interact with certain human beings who I describe as Food! (individuals with no clear purpose in life, they’re just here taking up space!) When I come across food a dialogue bubble appears above my head whispering…“I seeeee stupid people” (line from the movie The Sixth Sense…real line is “I see dead people”) and then the energy sucking stupid person disappears and I have my smile back on my face! It’s that simple! 😉 Silly I know but it works!

Finding happiness in yourself is the most important element of being happy, to me. Not everything always goes the way we want.“You can’t always get what you want…but ya get what ya neeeeeed.” Do you buy that? When we don’t get what we want, or what we think we want, is life trying to teach us a lesson? Patience perhaps? I lack patience at times but I am getting better!

The glass is always half full for me! If you can be happy with just the cloths on your back then I think you have found the key to happiness. Let go of everything and see how happy the simple things in life can make you feel. The warm sun on your face, a great tune cranked as you drive, a warm coffee in cold hands, a smile from a stranger, the smell of lilac in the air, the sunset, the mountains, the ocean, nature, love, kisses, hugs, touch, warm feet, great conversation, the list is endless. Happiness is all around us if we stop and open our eyes and just be in it. When you are really happy everything that you thought you needed becomes a want instead, which isn’t nearly as important. We all have wants, but what do you really need to be happy?

Happiness to me is…being loved and grateful for what I have, not what I don’t have!

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