Do Vancouver Men Really Suck?

I was watching Global News the week of Valentines and they had a series called ‘The Things We Do For Love’ which covered all the basis from the pursuit to married with child. Did you know there was such a thing as a wedding proposal planner for the bride groom who doesn’t want her his special moment to be anything less than perfect? Is that starting off on the wrong foot, trying to be perfect? Are women putting that much pressure on their man to be perfect? Are both parties setting themselves up for disappointment in the future when the honeymoon stage is over? Or do they just want a little taste of the fairy-tale while it’s still attainable? I’ve written about Fairy-tales & Happy Endings! (Fairy-tales are make belief, and Happy Endings will cost ya!) Have women lost faith that the male energy can create and orchestrate his own moment…and it be just right?

The series included a serendipitous meeting of a couple who met online by mistake when an email was sent to the wrong address, who are now married with a 2 yr old. Unpredictable and unplanned! Su-weet story. Who cares how long they will last, what’s important is that they took a chance, embraced the unknown and jumped in with both feet. I wish them years of happiness for doing just that!

* romantic sigh *

They also had a Match Maker who thinks men and women hide behind their computers which doesn’t allow them the chance to get out and mingle like they used to. I agree with her wholeheartedly! Nobody talks face to face anymore, communication is via Facebook, Text, Skype, Twitter, E-Mail, BBM, iMessage, MSN ect. There is simply nothing better than standing close to a man, staring into his eyes as he speaks to you. (insert deep inhale here)

There was attention brought to an article in Vancouver Magazine “Do Men in Vancouver Suck?” and although they only included a few female opinions they all agreed they do! In the article the women said single men in Vancouver were passive with no plan, uninteresting and uninterested. Uninteresting is such a general statement to make about someone. There is someone for everyone, so to say someone is uninteresting doesn’t mean they are to everyone. Uninteresting to a specific woman or man perhaps but certainly not to all. Uninterested is also a very general statement. You can’t fake interest in someone, you either are or you aren’t. It’s such a personal attraction and sometimes there’s simply a lack of chemistry so it really doesn’t matter what you do there isn’t a connection. Build a bridge and get over it!

Male energy as you all know intrigues me. I have always had lots of great man-friends. I relate to men and understand them to a certain degree. They are far from perfect as are women. When we come to terms with that, they’re much easier to navigate as are we. I am not sure if men are passive because they have no plan, I think men have slowly been put in the back seat because women of this generation have goals of their own to achieve. Husbands and family are no longer their number 1 focus in many cases. ‘Don’t make someone your priority when they treat you as an option’ works both ways! Women are self sufficient and don’t need men anymore. There are even ways around conception that don’t require a man in the same room. So why wouldn’t men just sit back and watch women succeed without them? Woman can be unapproachable, and lets face it no one likes rejection. Men find comfort in their man-cave watching the game with their buddies, eating hot wings and laugh their asses off with no pressure to preform in a socially acceptable manner. Women find comfort sharing stories with their girlfriends over a glass of wine, laughing their asses off just being themselves. The trick is to be able to do what makes you comfortable with or without your partner in the room, it should be no different whether they are there or not. You need to get out and do what YOU love, and if you’re joined by someone you dig perfect, if not perfect! Just let it be…

I have met some great men over the last couple of years, a good % of them have not been available because of circumstances at the time we meet. Timing is important for sure. Everyone is just doing their best in their situation, trying to navigate life. That can be a difficult task on its own, let alone adding kids and jobs, personal time, living arrangements ect ect ect. Life is more complicated than its ever been for men and women, and I think in time things work out the way it’s meant to be. We all just need to settle down and relax, take one patient step at a time and don’t put so much pressure on one another to meet a socially acceptable time line. Be you and allow the man you have your eye on to be who he is, authentic and true. Follow your heart and eventually you will know if it’s worth exploring further. Accept those who walk into your life for who they are NOW, you have no control or shouldn’t want to control who they unfold to be in time.

When you just start living your own life, things just seem to come together. Start walking, you might be surprised who joins you. Get rid of your expectation because there is no guarantee how long each person will walk along with you in this crazy thing we call life.

I personally think the men in Vancouver are just reacting to the women in Vancouver in their own way. You get what you give in most cases.

 

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Six Word Memoirs

I’ve always imagined that I would write a memoir of my life one day.  As soon as it got really interesting.  I’m not there yet.  The other thing that holds me back is, well, hard work.  Writing your life story would be a lot of work (at my age).  It seems to me that it would be really hard to look back and re-examine ones life and re-hash some of those memories that weren’t always that pleasant the first time round.  Plus I haven’t got a great memory so there is the fear that my memoir would come out very James Frey-ish.

But then I found the solution!  I discovered SMITH Magazine.  An online blog-a-zine.  SMITH was founded by Larry Smith and Tim Barkow in 2006.

“When we launched SMITH Magazine on January 6, 2006, (National Smith Day, which we didn’t invent, but latched on to) the idea was to create a new kind of web magazine. The content would be largely user-generated, then curated by people who edit things for a living. It would be a bold new blend of the professional and the amateur, fueled by our populist, participatory mission: Everyone Has A Story.”

They decided to try giving life to Hemingway’s legendary six-word novel (For sale: baby shoes, never worn”)

“We combined the classic storytelling challenge with our passion for nonfiction confessionals and dubbed it “Six-Word Memoirs.” Then we called up some guys we met at a tech conference about this new thing called Twitter and asked if they wanted to partner up to send one daily short life story to anyone who followed our @smithmag feed.

Four years and more than 200,000 Six-Word Memoirs later, we continue to be blown away by what people are capable of saying in just six words, the ways that others have adapted the form, and — not to get all Chicken Soup-y here — the unexpected little gems and gifts that launching this project has brought into our lives.”

All of this has led to a best-selling book series, including Not Quite What I Was Planning: Six-Word Memoirs by Writers Famous & Obscure, Six-Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak, Six-Word Memoirs by Teens Famous & Obscure., and It All Changed in an Instant: More Six-Word Memoirs by Writers Famous & Obscure..

I have the latest book “It All Changed in an Instant” and I’m really enjoying it. Some of the six word memoirs are funny, some are clever and some are sad.  Here’s the thing though, once you start reading these you begin to think in six word stories.  Here are a few that I came up with for my own life:

“Dinner’s ready. He’s still not home.”

“Life now revolves around my computer.”

“Instinctively always known; thoughts become things.”

“Kids grow up and leave. Ouch!”

“Secrets revealed when I started blogging.”

“Typing is easier than writing now.”

I could go on and on, but I’d really like to hear some from you! Share some of your six word stories.  “Challenge yourself. It’s really quite fun!” (see what I mean…can’t stop!)

Everyone has a story. Can you tell yours in six words?

Here’s some more inspiration to get you started:

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“The Cove” Taiji, Japan

TracyI just watched “The Cove” and I can’t keep this one to myself.  If you want to use your voice to contribute to a cause that is trying to make a difference in the world you need to see this movie.  But be warned some of the content is disturbing.  I don’t understand how anyone could treat such amazing sea mammals so brutally.  I “get” that there are many cultural differences in our world but this is just brutality mixed with…I don’t even have a word for it I am so upset with what some human beings, if you can call these people “human”, think is acceptable behavior.  It is our responsibility to help stop this behavior and teach if these people are uneducated in what they are doing!  I am doing my part in trying to spread the word so that maybe, just maybe this can be stopped!  Here is the  Synopsis directly from “The Cove” site to get you up to speed on what is going on, or simply click on the video below~

The Cove begins in Taiji, Japan, where former dolphin trainer Ric O’Barry has come to set things right after a long search for redemption. In the 1960s, it was O’Barry who captured and trained the 5 dolphins who played the title character in the international television sensation “Flipper.”

But his close relationship with those dolphins, the very dolphins who sparked a global fascination with trained sea mammals that continues to this day led O’Barry to a radical change of heart. One fateful day, a heartbroken Barry came to realize that these deeply sensitive, highly intelligent and self-aware creatures so beautifully adapted to life in the open ocean must never be subjected to human captivity again. This mission has brought him to Taiji, a town that appears to be devoted to the wonders and mysteries of the sleek, playful dolphins and whales that swim off their coast.

But in a remote, glistening cove, surrounded by barbed wire and “Keep Out” signs, lies a dark reality.  It is here, under cover of night, that the fishermen of Taiji, driven by a multi billion dollar dolphin entertainment industry and an underhanded market for mercury tainted dolphin meat, engage in an unseen hunt.  The nature of what they do is so chilling and the consequences are so dangerous to human health they will go to great lengths to halt anyone from seeing it.

Undeterred, O’Barry joins forces with filmmaker Louis Psihoyos and the Oceanic Preservation Society to get to the truth of what’s really going on in the cove and why it matters to everyone in the world.  With the local Chief of Police hot on their trail and strong-arm fishermen keeping tabs on them, they will recruit an “Ocean’s Eleven”style team of underwater sound and camera experts, special effects artists, marine explorers, adrenaline junkies and world class free divers who will carry out an undercover operation to photograph the off limits cove, while playing a cloak and dagger game with those who would have them jailed. The result is a provocative mix of investigative journalism, eco-adventure and arresting imagery that adds up to an urgent plea for hope.

The Cove is something I think that we all need to watch to be more aware of what is going on in the world around us.  You can also join The Cove Facebook Cause and sign the petition @  The Cove Save the Dolphins. Or Follow The Cove on Twitter to get updates!

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Give It To Me…Now!

Bonnie Johnson's PostIt’s official.  We are a society that craves instant gratification.  The latest trend amongst consumers is called “Now-ism” and it’s growing in leaps and bounds.  We don’t seem to be able to wait in order to obtain something that we want anymore.  We want it and we want it now.  Patience may just be a lost virtue.

Our relentless pursuit of instant information, communications, pleasure, if not indulgences was almost certainly born in this “online” age.  We have instant access to so much that we seem to be craving a consumption of the experience and the thrill of the “now”.

This focus on experiences, this lust to collect as many experiences and stories as soon as possible is addictive.  Twitter is a perfect example.  The Twitters of this world offer a truly real-time snapshot of what the world is thinking, doing, protesting (if not fighting) for and against, loving, reviewing, buying, feeling, attending, traveling to, donating to, gossiping about, asking for, hating, wearing, watching, eating, reading, drinking, listening to…

tweets

Click here to see the Total Number of Tweets in Real Time

Chocolate bar

Bloomsberry Chocolate

If something digital/online is too slow, too cumbersome, too poorly written, or too boring, a substitute is only a search term and a click away.  Cell phones have advanced to the point that we can be online all the time in almost any place.  There are some now capable of scanning bar codes and then searching online and local retailers for the best prices for that item. The iPhone’s “there’s an app for that” demonstrates the mass customization and everything-ness so many of us crave.

Before you blame the younger generation, remember when televisions were huge and cumbersome pieces of furniture with only a few crummy stations.  Imagine if we still had to plan our evenings television viewing by first reading the TV Guide and then have to actually get off the couch, walk across the room and turn a dial to change the channel.  No thanks!

But I do fear we may have lost our impulse control.  When you watch the Marshmallow Experiment video below you may want to ask yourself “how would I do in this situation?”  You can substitute the marshmallow for something that you find tempting…whatever that may be.

Bonnie

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What’s Wrong With This Sentence?

Bonnie Johnson's PostHave you noticed the lack of proper grammar and correct spelling that surrounds us everywhere today?  And yes, I know, you’ve read some good “moose steaks” here in this blog too.

I love the written word.  I love that when words are strung together artistically and thoughtfully they can spark my imagination and invoke deep emotions.  Over the years well written words have taken me on thousands and thousands of incredible adventures.  I appreciate how difficult it can be to write and so I have always admired authors who can make a world out of their words.

I’m not suggesting we are losing our great writers.  I don’t worry about that, but I do worry about the everyday writing I see.  The newspaper articles, the billboard signs, personal blogs, etc.  It just seems like everyone is trying to cut corners and over simplify things.  I blame this on all the texting and twittering that we do so much of now.  We have become a society that expects to send and receive blocks of thought in 160 characters or less.  What’s worse, we don’t even use whole words anymore.  I’m amazed at all the accepted abbreviation.

XME

?

Y is WYS so MUBAR?

JSYK, I’m not HOYEW when you write like this.

OBTW, right now I’m JUADLAM. JK. LMAO.

IJWTS that TISL … IMHO.

BWDIK!

Translation for those born before the late 80’s:

Excuse me.  I have a question.  Why is what you say so messed up beyond all recognition?

Just so you know, I’m not hanging on your every word when you write like this.

Oh, by the way, right now I’m jumping up and down like a monkey. Just kidding.  Laugh my a** off.

I just want to say that this is so lame… in my humble opinion.

But what do I know!

Beyond the slaughter of our grammar and spelling habits is the real danger that texting can pose when it is done behind the wheel of a vehicle.

A driver is 23 times more likely to get into a car accident if they text when they are behind the wheel of their vehicle, according to research conducted by the Virginia Tech Transportation Institute (VTTI).   In fact, text messaging forced the driver’s eyes away from the road for the longest period of time — about 4.6 seconds over a six-second interval.   “This equates to a driver traveling the length of a football field at 55 mph without looking at the roadway,” the study concludes. CTV.ca

I guess it can’t be all bad.   A 13-year-old Pennsylvania girl won $25,000 after typing “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” from “Mary Poppins” on her cell phone in less time than 200 other competitors in a text-messaging competition.   Morgan Pozgar typed the Disney classic’s “biggest word I ever heard” in only 15 seconds, beating out the former national text-messaging champ, 21-year-old Eli Tirosh of Los Angeles.

I came across an online article written by a college student for a research paper titled: Is Text Messaging/chatrooms Slang Ruining Academic Writing

Here is just one of the authors sentences that made me cringe:  But my question is why all those text messages when can easily dial the phone you have and talk to them like that? To me I think thats straight laziness right their no matter what angel you look at it.” I know we have spell check built in to everything now but even that won’t help correct angel to angle or their to there I suppose.

Sigh. WDYT? (what do you think?)textingBonnie

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Goat Canucks Goat~ facial hair for world peace!

goat Canucks goatI was flipping through a local paper yesterday morning reading the headlines, looking at the pictures when I came across a great article.  I will admit the young man in the photo caught my eye, he was holding a large globe.  He looked like a nice guy who was doing something positive for the world (hense the globe) and we don’t see enough of that these days.  I couldn’t pass by without reading what he was up to.

His name is Joel Nagtegaal, he is 24 years old from Langley, BC.  Joel and his friends had an idea that started with facial hair.  In many parts of Canada, it is traditional for men to grow a beard, or goatee, while their favorite hockey team is in the playoffs.  Never underestimate brainstorming!  It works !  Working with The Christian Reformed World Relief Committee (CRWRC), Joel and company pledged $25 a win to purchase a goat for a family in need.  If all went according to plan, there would be 16 goats bought by the time Vancouver was in possession of the Stanley Cup at the end of the post-season.  The goats would be given to Third World African countries in need.  Although the Canucks were eliminated prematurely people from 72 different countries still visited the Goat Canucks Goat website. I immediately went to their website as I know you will too to see what it was all about.  It is inspiring to say the least!  I found their site very creative and funny while being packed full of important information!  What a combination!  What an inspiring story to see young men doing something for others.  That is EXACTLY what I am trying to teach my son at 10 years old!  To lose his self importance and think of others.  Joel and his friends parents should be proud!  I will continue with my son and perhaps see him do something like Joel is in the future!  What a great role model!

Joel Nagtegaal

Joel is already planning his next idea, something like Goat for Gold, where people could pledge a goat for every metal earned by Canadian Athletes at the 2010 Winter Olympics in Vancouver!  I can’t wait to see this take off as well!

Here is the information you need to check out this wonderful gesture of kindness.  We all need to step up and be a part of something like goat Canucks goat!  And YES of course I bought a Goat!!

Goat Canucks Goat

Follow them on Twitter

Vancouver Canucks

The Christian Reformed World Relief Committee (CRWRC)

Video footage (click to time 5:37)

Tracy

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Things That Caught My Eye Recently!

Bonnie's PostI just wanted to share a few things that I found on the world wide web recently that made me giggle?

Giant eye beach balls?

Festival-goers play with beachball-size inflatable eyeballs during day three of the Coachella Valley Music & Arts Festival held at the Empire Polo Club on April 19 in Indio, Calif. I found this on MSNBC.com's The Week in Pictures

Kutcher takes CNN

This is my absolute favourite so far. Someone is great with photoshop. I found this on gawker.com. It was done for a story about Ashton Kutcher trying to beat CNN for the first to reach 1 million followers on Twitter.

I love you man!

I just think these two are funny. It's from the movie "I Love You, Man" with Paul Rudd and Jason Segel. Haven't seen it yet but I want to.


This kid is great! I’ll bet he becomes an amazing goalie one day. I especially love the beard!

Polor bear eats chocolate bunny

Found this on Macleans.ca. I love it becaue whoever drew the face on the bunny got the expression just right.

Bonnie

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Twittermania!

twitterTwitter.  It is taking over.  Every time I watch the news or any magazine type television show lately I am reminded that I can follow them on Twitter now too.  Is this really necessary?  Do I really need to get 140 character updates from thousands of sources?  The problem with that, as I see it, is that following thousands on Twitter creates a lot of noise.  Thousands of people “chirping”  in my ear 24 hours a day.  Just turn it off you say?  Sure, but then I might miss something.  I hate missing anything.  (If you are one of the three people left in the western world who doesn’t know what Twitter is,  then click here for an explanation)

Ben Parr at Mashable.com just wrote a post entitled 10 Most Extraordinary Twitter Updates.  This list both disturbed me and excited me at the same time.  I found it disturbing when I read that a guy proposed to his girlfriend through a tweet.  How romantic.  She accepted by tweeting back “Yes, I do” by the way.   I guess they are meant for each other.  I’m thinking that if guys are proposing through Twitter then you can bet they are dumping their girlfriends with a tweet too.  Nice.

I have to admit that the article did excite me more than it disturbed me however.  There are tweets that are drawing huge amounts of money for worthy causes and there are tweets that are breaking  news to the world the instant they happen, like the plane crash in the Hudson River in NYC.  There are tweets that have saved people from years of prison and even tweets that actually  save lives.  These examples are all listed in Mr. Parrs article.

I’m interested to see just how main stream “twittering” will become.  I still haven’t decided if it’s a really good thing or just another way to suck all my precious free time away.  Time will tell I guess.

In the meantime,  I’d love to have you follow me.  I’ll probably follow you back…after all… I don’t want to miss a thing.  ; )twitter-cartoon

Bonnie

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