Intellect…

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TracyHave you ever stood gazing into the eyes of a man and found yourself being turned on by his intellect. No…me neither, but by his body for sure! I’m kidding! I absolutely love in-depth conversations with the opposite sex. Intellect is sexy and when you add a splash of humour (insert angels singing here)…irresistible! When a man and women are intellectually connected it’s stimulating beyond control. The right conversation gets the juices flowing leaving us tingling with excitement! Its like a duel with dialog! Imagine that for a moment (day dream pause) a handsome guy who knows how to turn you on with his mouth using intellect! Women don’t want cheesy lines or cheap verses they want a man with substance who can also teach them something outside of the bedroom. That’s sexy!

I am not talking about men who have the gift of the gab I mean men who are incapable of being manipulated by women who use their sexuality as a tool to get what they want! Men who are looking for a woman to turn their brain on excites me! Conversation is key to any relationship lasting past the bedroom. You can be sexually attracted to someone and not have anything in common when it comes to intellect. Eye candy just doesn’t cut it when you want to take it to the next level! I’d give up the candy to have the man who can seduce me with his mind any day! I love smart men!

Knowledge is power and with power comes responsibility. Doesn’t the handsome man in the picture above look like he would be intellectually stimulating, powerful, responsible and incredibly sexy all at the same time? Great ad campaign if he’s not!

Seeking more knowledge allows growth of the human mind. I find a man who seeks knowledge very attractive, it shows a thirst for life. It shows they’re always wanting more, in turn making me want more…in more ways than one! Intellect is sexy!

~ The photo above is from the website Alex Cannon one of the leaders in fashionable sportswear, New York!

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Deal Breakers – What Are Yours?

If you met someone new and were attracted to them physically, what would be a deal breaker for you? I had this conversation with a man who I find attractive…we’ll leave it at that! He was looking at my ears for an extended length of time, which I didn’t notice at first, but then he let the cat out of the bag, big ears are a deal breaker for him! “Seriously” was all I could say, while laughing nervously wondering…”Do I have big ears?” I don’t, but you never know what someone else’s perception is of you.

I’ve learnt as a woman when a man says you have…lets say ‘small ears‘, just go with it. You don’t argue or debate it, you have small ears from that point on for the rest of your life! He also told me a moustache was another one of his deal breakers, phew is all I could think, thank god for tweezers and a 10X10 mirror! I am starting to think it’s very important in your 40’s to date men who wear glasses! You have no idea how tempting it was for me to wear a set of dumbo ears and a black stache when we met for coffee! The stache I can take care of but what if I did have big ears? Would he really not want to hang out with me?

So, having had this conversation, it made me wonder what my deal breakers might be? I say that like I’ve never even had a list! lol I called Bonnie and explained our conversation and said I couldn’t think of mine! She actually laughed out loud and said in a stupefied voice “YOU HAVE TONS!” I replied in denial “I do? I did? I’ve changed!” Hmmmm I guess I have a few but I really have changed over the years and I think some of my deal breakers are now negotiable. I am not looking for a man to have perfect babies with or someone who I will spend the next 50 years with…hang on that’s actually possible, the 50 years part! I am looking for someone who can be themselves around me, who is confident and has no expectations. I’ve learned to accept people for who they are, flaws and all! But I guess we all have things we just can’t get past. If I was really in love and I mean head over heels in love with someone, would I even see what might have been a deal breaker in my past?

I try not to look at what I don’t find attractive as much as what I do find attractive. Having said that, I also know that when someone does something that grates on you, it can be hard to ignore! 🙂 But that works both ways and is where compromise works its way to the surface of any union. Physical appearance is something we can’t always change, so it wouldn’t bother me as much as behaviour in someone. Arrogance for example, is a turn off for me. Sense of humour is a huge turn on. Vulgarity; turn off, chivalry; turn on! Intellect I would take over dumb and handsome every time! Do you see what I mean, it doesn’t have to be a physical deal breaker. I like to focus on the positive, like a man’s hands, hard working hands that can take care of me…sexy. There is so much to love about men, I won’t list all the parts of the body I find attractive, I’ve written that post on my ‘other’ blog…Male Sexy Bits. The bottom line, every man is unique and has attractive qualities. That’s what you should focus on!

I think for me if a man is healthy, and lives by example I could overlook a few things, if he was willing in return. Cause we all know unless you’re willing to turn that magnifying mirror around, don’t go there! If a man takes care of himself and loves himself, and there is natural chemistry between the two of us, I don’t see how I couldn’t fall for him. I look at it like this…If I am going to put my time and love into another human being I want to know that they care about themselves as much as I do.

So I guess my only real deal breaker would be someone who doesn’t take care of themselves in mind, body and spirit. We all eventually pass on, so for me the time we spend here should be cherished, in the moment living life to the fullest, so our time here on earth is well spent! I keep fit for my heart and soul, I eat to live and laugh for mental health! Here’s to the next 50 years, I can hardly wait to meet you! 🙂 (or maybe we already have!)

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Men…Like’em, love’em or lose’em!

Taylor Kitsch has the sparkle

It’s no secret that I LOVE men!  But I also like ’em.  Men are pretty basic and raw.  They are not nearly as complex as their female counterpart.  I mean that in a complimentary way!  With women being so independent and self sufficient we hardly even need them anymore.  I think men are feeling this vibe from women and are not too sure what their role is with women anymore.  Men aren’t really required anymore or are they?

I, for one, wouldn’t want to live without men in my life because I find them incredibly interesting in how there brain works so differently than ours.  I have always had male friends in my circle and love the dynamic they bring to the friendship.  I love man-friends!  I think I must have been a man in a past life because I’m comfortable around them and have always related to men.  They just seem to make sense to me.

Women on occasion make things more complicated than need be.   I have learned over the years that men are really who they are when you have absolutely no expectations of them.  It  is then that you see them for who they truly are.

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They are wired to hunt, protect and continue the human race.  Think about that for a moment; the raw male energy hunting, protecting you and then making mad passionate love to you!!  How can that not be required anymore?  If you understand that and don’t try to change or manipulate them to benefit you and only you, then your time spent with them will be real.Protect us

I love men who have the confidence to be themselves without trying to impress.  It doesn’t really matter what a man does as long as he does it passionately.  Men love women and want to please them but I think we sometimes make that more difficult than necessary.  I think there is a great deal we can learn from the male energy and I for one am loving the journey.  I love ’em for their  honesty and hard work, I like ’em for their sense of humour and entertainment value and I’d lose ’em if they just gave me everything I wanted without the challenge.

Eye contact with the right man is the ultimate turn on when a connection is made.  I am not talking the stare stare like a bear kind, or the creepy wet your lips and lick your chops kind.  I am talking about the kind when a guy gets that unique sparkle in his eyes when he catches yours.  It doesn’t happen very often but when it does it’s magic.

I would keep men on earth for just that alone.  When we get that connection with a man it can last for months, even years, in our fantasy bank.  It is all about how a man makes you feel inside that really gets women intrigued.  Men aren’t going to change, and we shouldn’t want them to!   We should embrace who they are and either like ’em, love ’em or lose ’em.  Any thoughts on this Girls or Guys?

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