Touch Me ~ Hug Me!!

TracyI was enjoying coffee with a couple of girlfriends, sharing stories, when one of them admitted to being really touchy.  Not sensitive touchy but touchy feely.  I did actually noticed that she was very touchy a few times, but it felt nice to me, in a platonic kind of way.  It didn’t make me feel uncomfortable or anything like that, it was a fleeting thought really.  To be completely honest I love when girlfriends are touchy.  It make me feel like there is a real BFF bond there.  It automatically brings you closer to the person.  But when she was explaining that she was touchy, she sort of apologized for it.  I felt bad after that she was associating her touch with a negative feeling.  It’s really something you should naturally feel good about, being affectionate.  Most of us crave affection because we just don’t get enough.  That’s an underlying problem I think in most relationships but that is an entirely different topic.  We all started talking about how people hug and if they hug like they really mean it or like a stiff board.  Oh, we have all had the stiff board hug from someone who has hug repellent on.  It’s a horrible awkward moment.  I think the stiff board hug goes with the back pat!  I love hugs, they are such a uplifting gift to give and receive.  They are free and have absolutely no calories !!

hug couple rainHugging is a form of physical intimacy that usually involves holding your arms around another person or group of persons.  The hug is one of the most common human signs of love and affection, along with kissing.  I posted about Kissing XXX awhile back if you missed it check it out !  A hug can be given or received either publicly or privately without stigma in many countries, religions and cultures, within families, and also across age and gender lines.

A hug can be a romantic exchange between two people or just a sign of support and comfort.   We hug when we feel affection and emotional warmth towards someone .  Brief at times, it is used to show many levels of affection.  Hugs are not just exchanged between humans, many species of animals also engage in similar exchanges of warmth.  Hugging has been proven to have health benefits. One study has shown that hugs increase levels of oxytocin, and reduce blood pressure.  There is a good reason right there to start hugging the guy or gal next to you while waiting in a slow lineup at the bank.

hugsA simple conversation between friends can make us aware of those around us, allow us to be more in tune with our friends, provoke a thought which in turn leads to reaching out to touch someone…lol.  (Not there!)  No seriously though, flu or no flu I am going to start being more aware of connecting with those around me.  So if by next week I am known as the touchy feely lesbian, you’ll all know why.  I ‘m okay with that if it makes all of us more aware of the beautiful human being standing next to us in the line up for java.  So reach out and touch someone!  Better yet reach out and hug someone !  Sometimes all the person standing next to you needs is a little lovin, hug style.  We would all be much happier if we did have a little more human contact.

~Peace Out ~

Love this Video !! Free Hug Campaign goes all the way to Oprah!

Free Hug Campaign Website

Sick Puppies “All The Same”

Free Hugs on Oprah

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Twenties versus Forties

For those of you who know me you are aware of the fact that I just turned 40, once more.  Let me start off by saying I love 40 !!  So much in fact, it’s going to be my age for quite some time to come.

Twenties

Twenties

Seriously though, what the hell happened?  I feel like I was twenty yesterday.

When I was in my twenties I used to wonder what women in their 40’s who were single thought about it.  I think I felt sorry for them and wondered if they were sad to be walking alone with no life partner.

There were three reasons for being single;  widowed, divorced or never married.

In my twenties I used to think that being widowed would be the worst of the three.  Having lost the love of your life would be tragic.  Now I think at least you loved.  I am talking about the kind of love that gives you  butterflies when he walks in the room.  Where the chemistry you feel fills the room and it can’t be ignored, no matter how hard you try.  The kiss!  The passion in the kiss that never ends.  This kind of love is not waited for anymore.  So those who have lost their love at least have the gift of memories, that include love.

In my twenties, I thought older women who never married didn’t find the love of their life.  Just thinking of that made my heart ache.  In my 40’s I think that perhaps they just didn’t settle!  We live in a “I need it now society’ where we no longer have the patience to wait for anything, including love.  The women who never married were strong enough to continue their journey alone.  They were living authentically without someone, instead of compromising themselves for someone.  I think settling would be the worst.

And divorce, in my twenties, in my opinion meant you simply gave up.  In my 40’s,  well, there is a silver lining in every dark cloud, you just need to look for it.  It’s all about perception.  If you’re honest and stay true to yourself you should be able to move forward with no fear in life, with or without a partner.  I must say that I like my 40’s for the depth and understanding it has brought to my life.  Being alone in your twenties can be unsettling.  Being alone in your 40’s, what’s that?  When you reach midlife, single or attached, you start to live your life for you.  You experience and accept relationships for what they are;  short, long, sexual, intellectual, romantic and friendship.  On your terms !  Neither widowed, divorced or never married  seem so bad to me now that I am in my 40’s.  Perception is a frame of mind.

Forties

Forties

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