Who Chooses Who?


Did you chose or chase your partner? Do you think that the woman ultimately decides if a relationship is going to go any further? Men generally pursue women but not always. Some women know exactly what they want and go for it. Just like cats if you run away the game is on. Sometimes it’s just about the chase. Playing hard to get can intrigues the opposite sex but everyone has their limit to how much time or energy they will put into a chase. I’ve always thought getting someone was the easy part, it’s keeping them that challenges who we are.

Do men stay in a relationship when they know it’s not a ‘meet my mother’ kind of union just for the sex? Do women string men along while they wait for ‘Mr Pretty Damn Close to Perfect’ to walk through their door? I believe both sexes are guilty of misleading the other from time to time. Honest is always the best policy!

When you introduce someone to your friends and family you validate the relationship. You deem them worthy of joining your circle. There is nothing wrong with waiting to introduce your new guy or gal to your friends and family just to be sure. Keeping your status to yourself is probably a not a bad idea until you really know who you’re dating. We all know it takes awhile for some peoples ‘true colors to show.

It becomes pretty obvious when a relationship isn’t going further than a surface text-a-tion-ship which I’ve posted about before. It’s getting harder to differentiate the sincere from those who are just playing a game. Nobody keeps their word anymore. More often than not men and women just say what they think the opposite sex wants to hear. Stringing someone along has become second nature. Selfish behavior is rampant in the world of relationships…“what have you done for me lately” is a common attitude. Words have become diluted, faded and no longer said with meaning. Romance is becoming extinct. I do believe there’s a lots of great people out there you just have to be patient. It’s hard to find someone who hasn’t had their spirit broken when it comes to love, trust and honesty.

What women use to attract the male energy is the key to what they get. If they are simply using their sex appeal, they get a man who wants them for just that…sex. The signal or message sent out is read correctly and then women wonder why it didn’t amount to anything but a friend with benefits which is something I’ve yet to grasp. Act like a booty call and be happy with being his booty call. Pretty basic. Not that there is anything wrong with being a booty call as long as you have no expectation of ‘it’ becoming anything but a booty call. You just need to be honest with yourself about what you want.

Women sometimes allow their ego to get in the way and cloud their judgment taking the easy route by using what works, sexual manipulation. It doesn’t get you very far in the end. Being in touch with your sexuality is a great part of being human but balance is important if you want a relationship to develop into something other than a once a week romp in the hay! Chemistry is one thing but shouldn’t be confused with sexual energy which usually just leads to empty sex. For men sex is physical, for women it’s more emotional…most of the time. Not that there is anything wrong with empty sex if that’s what both parties involved are okay with. That’s where honesty is crucial.

Being able to identify when he’s just not that into you is easy if you ignore what he says and watch what he does, actions speak louder than words. Pretty simple if you actually listen to your instincts.

So when you are ready to choose or chase make sure you know exactly what you want and then take it slow. One thing I do know for sure is that if someone treats you like an option, don’t make them your priority their not worth it.

Regardless of who chooses who if the right person enters into your circle and the timing is right, you will be meeting the family…be careful what you wish for.

 

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Let’s Talk About Sex Baby! by Tracy

Do you remember that song?  “let’s talk about sex baby let’s talk about you and me“ I remember singing it while dancing with my girlfriends, back when it was sort of taboo to say ‘SEX’ out loud!  We were flirts and loved every moment of it!  We never meant anything by it we were just girls having fun!sexy-mag-cover

Sex sells!  It’s everywhere we go.  I am not talking about porn sex.  There is nothing sexy about watching porn to me.  I’d rather be doing it than watching someone else make that ridiculous face.

I am talking about sex appeal.  Admit it, you purchase some stuff because of sex and how it’s marketed.  Everyone wants to have sex appeal.  Some of us have just given up.  We don’t think we fit into the standard sex appeal image of having a certain body type, size or shape.  If you don’t think you have sex appeal you can definitely get it.  Changing your perception is a good start.

For instance I am writing this post completely naked, to see if I feel sexier than when I am in my uniform (yoga pants).  Ohhhh let me tell you I feel wayyyy sexier!  I just need the high heel slippers with the fluffy feathers on them! (soooo not me!!)  If your not comfortable naked then try putting on a sexy outfit or tune in to the show ‘How to Look Good Naked.‘  It’s a great example of when woman change their perception of themselves and eliminate bad habits of dressing down, with the end result being them comfortable in their own skin.Dove 'wendy'

One afternoon I was sitting on a deck with a girlfriend of mine, early evening, downtown.  As we sat there girls strutted by one after another.  It was hard not to notice.  Most of these girls were not the skinny model type.  These girls had curves and used them to their advantage.  Their hips swung and shoulders swayed with such confidence!  Everyone of them oozed sex appeal and knew it!  These girls had it go-in on!  I think it’s how you feel about yourself and what your wearing underneath.  If your wearing monster gonch you feel like your wearing monster gonch.  Slip on a black satin pair of panties with a matching bra and voila!  Sex appeal!  I just spent $160.00 on lingerie and was saving it for some reason.  Ya I know, for what?  I finally tore into the bag and started wearing them and instantly felt sexier.  It’s like you have a secret  when you wear pretty lingerie.  Your eyes don’t lie when you feel sexy.  Sultry Sophia Loren

Sophia Loren is famous for her sex appeal and sultry eyes.  And she was(IS I stand corrected) a curvaceous woman still at 74!

I went to a ‘passion party’  with a girlfriend one night, a first for me if you can believe it!  I can say honestly I have never laughed so hard before at what they had just sitting out on the table for everyone to touch!  At first glance I would have thought it was a table full of baby toys…until I got closer.  I picked up one item and when the voluptuous sales girl told me what it was for I actually dropped it and then almost pee-d my pants laughing with my friend.  Wait for it….“A WHAT PLUG? I exclaimed?”  I felt like a school girl laughing hysterically with my friend while the sales girl talked so candidly about how to use it !!!  My face went red at even the thought that this girl thought I WANTED the explanation!  She had done it a thousand times before so it was like she was selling Tupperware.  I couldn’t get past the fact that these women were all bonding and story telling of what they tried or had and what were their favorite items.  I felt at times like I was in a Twilight Zone Movie or I was being PUNKED.  I didn’t know what half the stuff was for!  My mouth dropped open more than once.  (for sure Bonnie will comment on this but don’t believe her!)  I thought it was extremely educational but it got creepy for me when they had cherry nipple cream/lip-balm for everyone to try in the bathroom.  I drew the line there. Most of the woman in the room made a purchase, yes I did too.  Peer pressure forced me to buy the ‘cherry chapstick’  which I threw out because it burnt my kisser!  Yikes that was a close one!  I purchased another item ‘behind closed doors’ and it will stay that way, but in hind sight I wish I had bucked up!  Elastic Boundaries ladies, just go with the flow!

to be continued….T

Tracy

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