I decided to share a post with you today that I recently published on my personal blog All Things Sexy and Silver. I don’t usually mix the two but I got thinking about the topic, Chivalry, and thought it was worth repeating. We have a lot of male energy following Tara Cronica and we appreciate each and every one of you! 🙂 This ones for you guys!
Chivalry is sexy ~ Women don’t relying on men for much of anything anymore, other than satisfying our sexual appetites and even that doesn’t really require a man. I am self sufficient, independent and can fend for myself. I don’t need a man to do anything for me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want a man to do certain things for me.
When a man reaches his arm in front of me to open the door, he closes the distance between us ever so slightly, which forces me to gently slip by him, if you imagine that in slow motion, it’s sexy! When he offers his brute strength to me, how can I resist the opportunity to stand by and watch him…do whatever! I am perfectly capable, but why give away the gift to visually take in his gesture of kindness. When a man makes me aware that he’s looking out for me, keeping me safe, that’s as sexy as it gets, it’s his raw basic instinct. You can’t deny that’s sexy!
There is a balance between being capable and allowing a man to be a man when he’s in your presence. It’s equally important to return the gesture. I love my independence, but would think it tragic if men stopped being real men, which includes chivalry!
Chivalry is not dead…it’s waiting to present itself to you, the key…acknowledge it when it does happen upon you!
Today is my Moms birthday so I wanted to share a few things about her with you because she is a very special woman in my life. When I was a little girl I had a very hard time being away from my Mom. I was unable to make it through the night at any sleepover with girlfriends because I got very homesick just thinking about her. I never went to Brownie camp or Outdoor school because I just couldn’t be away from her. My Mom always came willingly, without question to pick me up each time and embraced me with a hug and kiss and never once made me feel bad about it. She offered to be my ‘excuse’ of why I wasn’t allowed to stay over because I was too embarrassed to tell anyone I was homesick for her. She was always there for me, and still is. She let me stay home from school when she could feel I was missing her, and now I do that for my daughter because I understand. Nothing was more important to her than love. My Mom is a very affectionate woman who has always got a hug, cuddle or back tickle waiting for anyone who asks. (well maybe not anyone :))
As I got older and more independent I learned a great deal more from her. She was/is a very strong business woman with natural leadership. I admire her strength and ability to do any job she takes on. She worked, ran a household and maintained a loving marriage for over 50 years! That is almost unheard of these days. I leaned the importance as a women to be self sufficient, independent and that I mattered! One thing my Mom said to me when I was in my teens has always stayed with me. It was basic and simple. She told me “God forbid if something ever happened to your Dad, I would survive”. She wanted me to know how important it was to love someone but to not depend on any one person to dictate your life, so that you were capable yourself of doing what you needed to, to stand on your own two feet.
I appreciated what my Mom did for me when I was young and now I understand, being a Mom myself. Over the years my Mom has given me great advice, most of the time I took it unless I was stretching my arms of independence. My Mom is a very generous soul who gives what she has to anyone in need. She has taught me to be independent, strong, loving, caring and most important to always try because when you try, you really see what you are capable of. Thanks Mom for being such a wonderful loving supportive person in my life, you’re so loved!