He was humming to his friends again so soft that no one hears,
But I think he knows I’m listening
And he lets me see his tears
He was talking to his friends today
I heard him when he prayed
Now were going to see them
At my Grandpa’s big parade.
I sit high on Daddy’s shoulders
And try to catch my Grandpa’s eye
But he’s looking at the Maple Leaf
And he salutes as he walks by.
I ask if I can meet his friends
So he takes me for a walk;
We kneel beside a list of names
All written on a rock.
He tells me they were left behind
In cold and distant rain
He can only talk to them in prayer
They can’t come home again.
We had to pay the price, he says
To bring war to an end;
I think Freedom’s pretty costly
If you have to pay with friends.
‘Why did you do all that for me,
I wasn’t born yet ?’
He held me close and whispered
‘I don’t want you to forget.’
‘I did it for my Mom and Dad,’
Then his eyes began to water
‘I did it for your Dad, and you
And for your son and daughter.’
So I’ll always pin my poppy on,
Take my grand kids on parade;
Kneel underneath the Maple
To thank the friends my Grandpa
On the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month, Canadians are asked to pause and remember the thousands of men and women who sacrificed their lives fighting for freedom and democracy during the First World War, the Second World War, the Korean War, the Afghanistan conflict and during peacekeeping missions. I am grateful for all those who have fought and those who continue to put their lives at risk each day so we feel a little more safe in the world. Each year we pause to watch the planes fly over to pay respects to all of those who have fought for our freedom, and each year it brings tears to my eyes. Today will be no different…
I’ve written a few posts that some of you might not think have suitable content, but I have an open mind and find most topics interesting, inspiring and worthy of a conversation. I would love to see how “attack of the Redneck Mommy” would address this topic, she’s authentic, hilarious and completely UNPLUGGED! Her voice is unedited and she embraces it! Pure confidence to let it roll as she does. I completely admire her honesty. It’s pretty basic for me, if someone is doing it, I am curious as to why. If you are uncomfortable with the topic of Sex or Swingers, now would be the time to “blog off”. But for those of you with a gaping wide open mind and the same curiosity that killed the cat this is for you! A little taboo education of what is going on in a suburb or resort near you. ( insert Cheshire cat grin here :))
We the Tara Team recently gave our collaborative opinion on Polyamorous Relationships, could we ever imagine ourselves in one? I had never heard of them before we posted about it. I know, I can’t believe it, how did that one slip by my radar! Great snag Bonnie! Now I have been educated on what they are, have formed my own opinion, and can confidently join in a conversation about Polyamory. I find all human behavior interesting, especially those of a taboo nature.
If your questioning why I would write about Swingers and I know some of you are I follow a list of what makes a good blog topic: Write something; useful, unique, newsworthy, first, that makes the reader smarter, controversial, insightful, that taps into a fear people have, that helps people achieve, that elicits a response, that gives a sense of belonging, passionately, inspirational, that solves a problem, that gets a laugh, opinionated, about something cool, saves people money or time, that tells a story and that interprets or translates news for people. Not that I have to justify my topic choice or anything, Wednesday and Friday are my days to write about whatever floats my boat!
While researching Polyamory I found that most people confuse Swingers with Polyamorous relationships. There is a difference. The primary emphasis of Poly is loving relationships with more than one other partner. The primary emphasis of Swingers is casual, non emotional sex. In reality, there is a large overlap between the two. Swingers find most Poly conversations to focused on relationships. Poly’s find the conversations of Swingers too forward, too aggressive and more sexually explicit oriented for comfort. Also it seems many poly’s are seeking bisexual relationships and Swingers are more heterosexual couples looking for other heterosexual couples. I was told by the same girlfriend who gave me explicit details of the Brazilian Wax that the area or suburb in which I live is a large “swinging” community. (not sure how she knew that tee hee, I’m kidding, I love her for her lack of filter, honesty, curiosity and she gives good post ideas !)
Swinging, sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle, is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. I have to go on record and say I disagree, I am not sure swinging is in anyway similar to lets say book clubs, wine tasting or cooking for couples. (I’m just sayin) The phenomenon of swinging may be seen as part of the sexual revolution of recent decades, which happened after the upsurge in sexual activity made possible by the safer sex practices during the same period. Swinging has also been called wife swapping in the past, but this term has been criticized as ‘androcentric’ (taking a male-oriented point of view) and inaccurately describing the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part.
Swinging activities may include (but are not limited to):
Soft swinging: having sexual intercourse with a partner while two or more other people perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.
Soft swap: having oral sex with someone other than one’s partner. Often a type of swinging that new couples choose before eventually trying full swap, although many couples stay “soft swap” for personal or safety related reasons.
Full swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one’s partner. Although this is the commonly understood definition of swinging, it is not necessarily the most common type.
Group sex: An all-inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity.
Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in sexual activity with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. On these occasions, swingers will often refer to sex as play and sex partners as playmates. I won’t be asking if anyone can come out to play anymore. (yikes) Occasionally, one party of a couple will not be interested in joining the swinging lifestyle. This party is typically referred to as the “hold-out” while the other party is referred to as the “desirous party”.
Here is a little History~
Swinging dates back as far as the 16th century when a formal arrangement was signed whereby conjugal relations would be shared between the men and their spouses. In the 17th century temporary spouse-trading was commonly advocated and practised among occultist, particularly alchemists in Europe. While contemporary swingers look to earlier practices, such as ancient Roman acceptance of orgies and alternative sexual practices, swinging in the 20th century began differently.
According to Terry Gould’s Book The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers , swinging began among United States Army Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. The mortality rate of pilots was high. Gould reports that a close bond arose between pilots, with the implication that husbands would care for all the wives as their own, emotionally and sexually, if the husbands were away or lost (thus bearing some similarity to levirate marriage, in which a woman is required to marry her deceased husband’s brother). Though the beginnings are not agreed upon, it is assumed swinging began among American military communities in the 1950s. By the time the Korean War ended, swinging had spread from the military to the suburbs. The media dubbed the phenomenon wife-swapping.
Nightline ABC News with Martin Bashir ~ Reporting John Berman~
I will leave you with that to contemplate, form your own opinion, book your flight to Los Cabos or perhaps enlightened a little with what others are doing around you that you may not have been aware of. And although it doesn’t fit in to the lifestyle I am searching for, being a hopeless romantic, I never judge. Freedom of speech is something I am grateful for !