Inspiring at Any Age!

Jean-in-Fabulous-Fashionistas

IMG_6140I haven’t had much time lately to take a breath let alone drift off into my own imagination and write, but I did find the time to watch this inspiring video about “Fabulous Fashionistas.” It was worth watching and I could relate to each one of these Fabulous women in one way or another!

I have never really had a sense of style. I like classic black or odds’n ends which don’t really match but I like the pieces individually. As a young girl I just wore what I liked, didn’t really think about if they went together. I care not if anyone likes how I put myself together and get ‘the look’ from my daughter regularly. The hardest part of getting dressed for me is finding a shoe that fits, not size just type. This picture cracks me up because I get it! See Jordan, the shoes can be clunky and work! Hey Granny, nice boots! The hair…debatable but again funky, not beige! I will no doubt be sport’n long grey locks at some point in my later years.

This TV Documentary on BBC features six women of advanced years (<~~~~their average age is 80 ~HA!) who share a love for style and a “screw that” attitude! I don’t share a love for style but sign me up for the “screw that” attitude! Ya gotta love women who become more feisty with age! I love all of these women and their desire to keep going at every age, with no plastic surgery or botox!

Check out the vid ladies…

Tracy signiture

Share

Real Women

I want to talk about Real Women! I came across the profile pics of Teri Hatcher fresh out of the bath. She was proving a point that not all celebrities get Plastic Surgery or Botox, lighting is crucial to a great photograph. She was showing the world that she has character lines regardless of what ‘they’ say. We all know who ‘they’ are so I am not even going to give ‘them’ credit for being ‘they’.

I met Teri Hatcher back in the 80’s when she had a part on MacGyver and she was just as beautiful then as she is now. She is a Real Woman. I liked her immediately and have watched her throughout the years and have noticed that she is aging gracefully.

On Desperate Housewives she is never the one with the forehead that looked like a freshly Zambonied ice rink. It’s distracting to watch someone talk and react from an actors point of view and see no emotion! I love when real women stand up and use their voices, it shows confidence in who they are, which is more than skin deep.

I tuned into Millionaire Matchmaker about two weeks ago to see what it was all about, Millionaire Shauna Raisch was the one looking for love, really good looking young hot love to be exact. Who isn’t but lets get real! She owned a spa and was in great shape. The more the interview process went on the more I realized that parts of her face didn’t move as she talked, she was either paralyzed with fear, the freezing hadn’t come out from a root canal or she had a lot of work done. I guess when you are the owner of a spa sometimes it’s hard to stop! It would be like a skinny cupcake store owner, or hair stylist who never changed their hair, you’d question what they were selling if they didn’t partake in it themselves. Shauna was a ‘superficialist’ (appearing to be true or real only until being examined more closely) according to Patti Stange host of the show.

If I look deeper it’s not the work done that bothers me, it’s the frame of mind your in before doing it. It’s important to know why and that regardless of what you do have done, you are still the same age going in as you are coming out. That doesn’t change. It’s when it becomes an obsession, that the balance goes out and the dominos start to tip.

I sway back and forth on this subject. I have always said I wouldn’t do anything that involved a knife, but I am heading in the direction that I would think about filling a few lines with epoxy. I know that’s not the real word but you get what I’m saying. About 5 years ago my doctors office started to do Restylane, that’s the correct word, and asked if I would like a free session which was about a $500.00 value. Free or Guinea Pig? He showed me the lines he would fill in and it didn’t make sense to me. He wanted to fill in my dimples and laugh lines. I said no but thanks? In a few years I might be persuaded to get between my brow done but I’m not quite there, give me a couple more years of ‘the face’ (furrowed brow) and I might be game! This photo is what ‘the face’ would look like with Botox. Scott thought it would be funny to erase my hair line to make my forehead look huge, it’s funny how it fits perfectly for this post now, never delete pictures!

We did a photo session with Cathy Empey who is amazing at her craft. I had to get real with myself after that session. I will only speak for myself, there were a few photo’s that I cringed at, not anything to do with Cathy, but my perception of my body. I’ve let it go now but it was a challenge. After coming to terms with the fact that I look pretty good for a 40 something Mother of two, I suntanned on the wharf with Bonnie in my bikini not having a care in the world at who saw me. (that’s not entirely true I would have dove for a towel had a real handsome man shown up in his boat)

So ladies, would you have plastic surgery, botox or restylane? I would love to hear from our Male Energy on this topic too! Please remember that this photo has been photoshopped and my hairline was set back a tad!  lol

Share

Body Image

I was out with Jacquie a couple of weeks ago and we got onto a topic that seems to get wayyyy too much airtime as far as I am concerned, but as women it’s hard not to talk about our Body Image’. We both agreed we would do almost anything humanly possible to prolong the aging, sagging and weight issues that contribute to our body image. But there has to be some balance when dealing with your mind, body and spirit.

I’d like to think I will grow old gracefully, without any surgical enhancements or help along the way. (excluding anything that doesn’t involve injecting or cutting my epidermis) I have always been athletic and lead a pretty healthy lifestyle that I think will help me along the path of aging. I would prefer to be like Diane Lane as apposed to Joan Rivers. I may be comparing apples to oranges here but you know what I am getting at, they are on opposite sides of the scale when it comes to obvious procedures. And yes the age difference is also there. In the past, Diane has reportedly said, “It scares the s**t out of me. And I don’t relish the thought of people staring at me, trying to figure out what I’ve had done.” She also said, “I reserve the right to change my mind. Absolutely. I’m a female, that comes first.” I love her attitude, never say never!

Jake and I were talking about our own body images while en route to a party downtown with a bunch of size 2’s. When we entered ‘the keefer‘ we were greeted by Keith, my girlfriends husband. There was a glass bottom pool in the ceiling which was amazing and a great conversation piece throughout the night. The first words out of Keith’s mouth were “your not allowed to swim naked in the pool it’s off limits!” He said it like he thought I might have actually considered it! Twenty years ago, a huge maybe, if I had been shooting Tequila. Now, couldn’t even visualize it in my wildest dreams!

I reconnected with a couple of handsome guys from 30 years ago, Cam and Marcus, within 15 minutes it felt like no time at all had passed, certainly not 30 years! After catching up briefly Cam asked me if I thought he had changed, and if it felt like I was talking to the same guy? He believed that people don’t really change all that much over the years and I had to agree. I still saw the same handsome guys who made me laugh 30 years before.

The conversation eventually led to the pool which was hard to take your eyes off. It was like having an enormous lit fish tank with no fish right above you. I felt like a voyeur checking to see if there was anyone brave enough to take a dip. We started joking about how much money it would take in order to strip down and take the plunge. (keep in mind the pool is above you and seemed magnified to me) The anti kept increasing until it got to be ridonculous. For me it basically came down to body image. There are also specific things I would not do for money and stripping down at 46 years old in public with the lights on is on that list, sex and marrying are two more. Jacquie joked that she would if she could escape through a trap door out the back and not have eye contact with anyone in the room and then have her and her family relocated, hilarious! I giggle every time I think of her coming home to Gavin and explaining how she made a huge wad of cash while out with me.

No matter what way you look at it we all have some kind of body image issues that creep back into our lives at any given moment, this was one of mine. These guys had seen my body really young, not naked but close enough, spandex were popular back then. It would be hard to top that! After the joking stopped Cam told me he remembered me having body issues at 17! It didn’t really shock me, what 17 year doesn’t have issues about their body. What bothered me most was that I am finally comfortable in my own skin, which I believe happened shortly after turning 40, yet I was still putting out the impression that I was not. Why?  I am a confident woman who embraces her sexuality. Maybe out of my comfort zone being single again, revisiting the past? Body image is hard to change for women but absolutely necessary if its negative.

So you see by joking about not wanting to be seen naked swimming in a glass bottom pool only attracted more attention to my enormous size 8-9-10 (depending on my salt intake). Men don’t notice our flaws or imperfections unless we point them out, so don’t point them out! I learnt a lesson that night, I would NEVER talk negative about my body again! It only sets you up for a false insecurity that you bring upon yourself. Embrace whatever body you have, regardless of your size or shape it really is what’s on the inside that counts. Believe me even those perfect size 2’s have body issues that need to be worked on.

PS ~ I just read my “Gusto Post Card” and this is what it said: ” You know how wise people reach a certain point in their lives and realize it actually doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of them? They just sort of grow beyond caring about that, and they start caring a lot more about what they think of themselves? And then they decide they’re going to do what they want to do and be who they want to be and live their lives as they see fit and love every second of it? Well, that wise person lives inside of you. Let that certain pivotal point in your life be today. Your number-one fan, Gusto  And oh…Be you. Live Fearlessly! Timing is Everything!!!!

Share