Movember ~

Ladies are you wondering why there is an overwhelming number of itchy faced 70′s porn-star moustache adorning men around lately? No there is not a 70′s porn feature film in town, and it’s not the play-offs, it’s much more exciting and important than that! *wink*

Movember is in full swing! Men all over the world are growing facial hair to help bring awareness for mens health! The prostate (from Greek prostrates, literally “one who stands before”, “protector”, “guardian”) is a gland of the male reproductive system. Its purpose or function is extremely important in helping prolong the lifespan of sperm and giving better protection to the genetic material DNA!

Did you know that prostate cancer is the number 1 male cancer? Did you know that a man is 35% more likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer than a woman is to be diagnosed with breast cancer? The good news is prostate cancer is over 90% curable if detected and treated in the early stages.

Here is the link if you would like to find out more about Movember. A friend of mine Steve (pic to the left) has a Movember site you can visit to make a donation! It’s a no brainer to support those who are making a difference in other peoples lives!

I personally LOVE facial hair, any facial hair on a man is just plain sexy! Their moustache is their ribbon, and in just 30 days of wearing it they raise not only awareness through conversation, but in 2010 they raised $22 million dollars, an itch worth having!

Thanks to all my handsome male friends who allowed me to post their pics for a good cause! Now go and get your prostate checked boys, it could save your life!

Oh and just one more thing…prevention ;) you didn’t really think I was finished. The BBC News website says masturbation (<—– go on click on the link…I know you want to, guaranteed a gut laugh out loud if you read the entire article) or more specifically ejaculation reduces the risk of prostate cancer. To quote BBC, ” Men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer later in life.” There I said it…now go do the right thing!

MOVEMBER NEWS FACTS:

Movember began in 2003 in Melbourne, Australia. The guys behind it joked about 80s fashion and decided it was time to bring back the moustache.  In order to justify their “Mo” (Aussie slang for moustache), they used their new looks to raise some awareness and money for prostate cancer research… never dreaming their efforts would lead to a global movement for men’s health.To date, more than 1,000,000 Mo Bros and Mo Sistas have joined together to raise over $175 million to change the face of men’s health.

FYI…if I use keywords such as porn, masturbate and ejaculate we usually get a few more hits than normal! Sorry if I offended anyone but it’s for a GREAT cause, our handsome male energies life expectancy! 

Thanks again guys for allowing me to post your pics, you are all making a difference!

Making progress…

Prostate Cancer Canada
Awareness & Education
Global Action Plan

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The Man Rules ~

I was working on a post about Taking Chances but I am not finished yet and I hate to be rushed so it’s sitting in the drafts file percolating. I am feeling dumb and cheerful today so we will just go with something light!

Men in general make me laugh. I like their honest and uncomplicated gender. Although they can sometimes be confusing, it’s usually only when I am being a ‘girl‘. With a little guidance from my man-friend I usually snap out of it and they start to make perfect sense again. I have always had a ton of male friends and think I relate to men concerning women quite often. I was sent this by a friend of mine and it made me giggle. My voice is in (RED).

The Man Rules

Men are NOT mind readers. (THANK GOD…giggle) Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down. (can you say urinal) Sports, its like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be. Crying is blackmail. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it! (I totally agree!)

Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days. (my standard answer is “I can’t remember, it was sooooo long ago, I don’t remember what I had for breakfast yesterday!”)

If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us. (NEVER point out your questionable bits to a man, they don’t see them especially when your NAKED!) If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one! You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it , just do it yourself.

Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials. (Nothing worse than someone talking during a great show!)

Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we. (ROFL’ing…say what?)

ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what Mauve is.

If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” We will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle. (that cracks me up) If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don’t want to hear. (This is the reason I love men, you know exactly where you stand with them as friends 24/7)

When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine… Really . Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Football or Hockey. You have enough clothes. You have too many shoes. I am in shape. Round IS a shape! (unless you’re willing to spin that perfect mirror around, let it slide ladies!)

Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don’t mind that? Its like camping! ~ The End…

Men are pretty basic creatures ladies. We all know Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Throw in a few from Uranus and it all balances out in the end. Regardless of where your man comes from, you know deep down you love and accept him for who he naturally is…no seriously! There really is no point in trying to change the male gender, just accept them for who they are and either Love’em, Lose’em or Leave’em! I choose Love’em!

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Shopping…for a Man.

Last week I wrote about Shopping When You’re Hungry, this week it’s, Shopping… for a Man. It’s hard to find the perfect man, because there is no such thing as perfect when it comes to men or women, but there is ‘pretty damn close!’

So assuming we are not shopping hungry and hypothetically we happen upon Mr Pretty Damn Close to Perfect, it goes something like this…

We catch his eye and can’t resist his charming smile and pearly whites. We flirt ever so subtly, even though he’s in the company of another woman. Our heart takes over and we convince ourselves, she’s probably his sister, they’re colleagues or just friends. This is where our hearts replace reality with make-believe and our heads get lost in the clouds! If the sparkle in his eye wasn’t enough to blind us and send us into a spellbound tailspin, the brilliant ray of light reflecting off his pearls will most certainly derail us from our path of common sense! Physiologically, we’ve been lured! All because we just can’t resist something that sparkles! Let me clarify, women who shop with their hearts can’t resist something that sparkles! We create what we think might be…first mistake! Back away from the temptation you long for until your head takes control over your heart! Don’t let your body try to fool you into thinking you’re just having a sugar low and a taste of protein will make you feel much better! It won’t!

Now, I’ll put it into perspective for most women and relate our shopping for a man as we would a pair of CFM GREAT shoes that speak to us telepathically. The gorgeous shoe on the left is a Brian Atwood Shoe, in F**k You Red, check out the link to see the description, warning it may offend some readers. We wouldn’t wear a shoe with a strap that was too tight or felt too small or god forbid belonged to another woman. It just wouldn’t feel right. We want the shoe that calls out our name to fit us just right in order to be pumped about it. (giggle) We shouldn’t feel any different when it comes to men. He should fit us just right, and only us!

I am in no way suggesting men are objects, although I think deep down they wish we would treat them as such to make it simpler for them. I also believe when it comes to love you should follow your heart, but until it is love you should use your head first. This will avoid the obvious, a shoe rarely worn because it pinches or makes our feet hurt! When we use our hearts, not our heads when we are initially infatuated with whatever is within our grasp, we turn a blind eye and ignore the obvious, Red Flags. I’m working on that post right now, stay tuned! 

So ladies, when you’re out browsing or shopping and come across a potentially perfect fit, use your head, until your heart naturally takes its place. My heart tells me Paul Walker is Mr Perfect, my head assures me he has flaws just like everyone else on the planet! I just wish they were a little more visible to the naked eye!

Happy Shopping Ladies!

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Shopping When You’re Hungry!

Yesterday Jacquie posted about Breaking the Shopping Addiction so I thought I would follow her lead here and add yet another element of shopping. You know what they say about going grocery shopping when you’re hungry…you shouldn’t. I’ve come to the same conclusion when you’re shopping for…pretty much anything, including men. *wink * We’ve all gone shopping hungry at some point in our lives, whether we want to admit to it or not.

It should be a Golden Rule: “Don’t shop for anything when you’re hungry for it!” You will usually end up with what you don’t necessarily need or want and it’s never an easy task to return what you got. Mentally we just aren’t prepared to return something we’ve bonded with the entire car ride home. :) Buyers remorse sometimes kicks in but not soon enough, we quickly justify our purchase in our own minds and find ourselves hiding or not speaking of what we bought until the dust settles! If you’re hiding what you bought, chances are you didn’t need it! lol

Basically, unless you’re ready to unwrap what you purchase and use it immediately, you should hold off or at least think about it…unless of course you look at shopping as doing research for when you’re ready to purchase. Do you see where the justifying happens so naturally! Ya…its research I’m doing, no harm in that! Cha-ching! There’s nothing wrong with a little research, as long as its left in the store!

When you’ve done without something for awhile, sometimes it’s just too tempting and hard to resist. Temptation can be tricky, even for those who have great discipline, unfortunately most of us fall under the category ‘Discipline Zero.’ Restraint is definitely something learned with age…at least for me.

So next time you’re out shopping for whatever, ask yourself two questions.

1) Am I hungry?

2) Do I really want or need him this?

Stay tuned next week I’ll tackle Shopping… for a Man ~

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Chivalry is Sexy ~

I decided to share a post with you today that I recently published on my personal blog All Things Sexy and Silver. I don’t usually mix the two but I got thinking about the topic, Chivalry, and thought it was worth repeating. We have a lot of male energy following Tara Cronica and we appreciate each and every one of you! :) This ones for you guys!

Chivalry is sexy ~ Women don’t relying on men for much of anything anymore, other than satisfying our sexual appetites and even that doesn’t really require a man. I am self sufficient, independent and can fend for myself. I don’t need a man to do anything for me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want a man to do certain things for me.

When a man reaches his arm in front of me to open the door, he closes the distance between us ever so slightly, which forces me to gently slip by him, if you imagine that in slow motion, it’s sexy! When he offers his brute strength to me, how can I resist the opportunity to stand by and watch him…do whatever! I am perfectly capable, but why give away the gift to visually take in his gesture of kindness. When a man makes me aware that he’s looking out for me, keeping me safe, that’s as sexy as it gets, it’s his raw basic instinct. You can’t deny that’s sexy!

There is a balance between being capable and allowing a man to be a man when he’s in your presence. It’s equally important to return the gesture. I love my independence, but would think it tragic if men stopped being real men, which includes chivalry!

Chivalry is not dead…it’s waiting to present itself to you, the key…acknowledge it when it does happen upon you!

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Understanding Women ~

Understanding women is similar to being a parent for the first time, what works for your first doesn’t necessarily work for the next. Your basically starting from scratch each time. Each one of us is completely different from the one before. Think of us like a juicy piece of ripe fruit, having the widest variety imaginable!

I was thinking about men trying to navigate around all the female complexities that start at a very young age. My son is only 11 and already the words “girls can be so weird” have rolled easily off his tongue. “Get used to it” appears in a bubble above my head as I smile in agreement. He’s lucky to have a sister who will hopefully help guide him, if he protects her, a fair trade-off when it comes to brothers and sisters I think.

So I was thinking of advice I might give, to him or men in general, it goes something like this:
Give it your best, don’t try to understand how our minds work, don’t lose any sleep over us and hope for the best. Oh and good luck! :)

There will be times when women ask for your opinion, you will assume they want your honest one (first mistake) and in the blink of an eye you find yourself trying to back peddle in slow motion, your words have fallen into the abyss of wrong answers and you get ‘the look’. Just know that when women ask for your honest opinion, it’s usually a trick. It’s perfectly legal to respond “leave that with me and I’ll get back to you”, don’t succumb to pressure. Use your best judgment, each time is unique, or play it safe and sugar coat everything when the question starts with”Tell me honestly”…

Valentine’s Day is always a tricky day to man-oeuvre as male energy. Lets try a multiple choice. (if it were only that simple)

Do you buy us chocolates just after we stated we feel puffy/bloated?

A) No, buy a fun house mirror, the one that makes us look really tall.

B) Ask if we would like you to run us a cold bath, to help take the swelling down. (technically this would work…honesty isn’t always the answer)

C) Buy the damn chocolates, decedent cherry bombs from Euphoria Chocolates are amazing!

I once verbalized “I don’t need flowers”and then regretted it for years after. Even if we say we don’t need flowers, we still love to get them, flowers are romance which is foreplay for women! F-o-r-e-p-l-a-y!

Women try sending telepathic messages to men assuming they can be read, they can’t! Example: He goes out with the guys, you slip into that new sexy getup he didn’t even know you had and wait for him ready to rock his world when he comes in. He stay out late oblivious to the scenario playing out in your head, you can’t believe he is giving up this hot rocking bod for a bunch of beer swilling smelly guys, you get impatient, put on the flannels, wash off your face, totally and utterly miffed that he missed a great night of sex! Ladies, if your man even had an inkling of what was waiting in a sexy little number for him back home, I guarantee his night would be cut short! (right C) You just have to remember we have the inner dialog we just forget sometimes to let you in on it!

I have to admit some men are just naturally in-tune with women. I think it’s because they either have a house full of female energy, they were a woman in a previous life or just good old experience! I guess you guys could think of us as a challenge and rise to it. I love men and everything that makes them who they are and we as women can only hope they feel the same. Just remember guys that each one of us is unique and different from the one you previously encountered with our own idiosyncrasies that can change at any given moment. That’s the fun of us!

Variety is the spice of life!

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Let’s Be Honest…

tracy-pic3We all like to think we have honesty with our partner, friends, family and co workers, but do we? Are we being honest with ourselves?

You have to wonder don’t you. A vow is taken at a wedding, but still the divorce rate is approaching 80%. Spouses are trusted, yet affairs are almost common behaviour. Friends who were once trusted with deep dark secrets eventually blab to someone and show their true colours. Why are relationships failing? Everything seems to be disposable including relationships and I think it all comes down to honesty. I think people are afraid to be really honest with one another. They’re afraid to say how they really feel. If they do they take the chance of being judged and alienated for simply speaking the truth. How well do you really know your partner? Do you know and accept the good with the bad? Do you really know their passions and desires? If we are completely honest in our relationships, trust should be there. But lets face it, sometimes the truth hurts.


Trust; – noun: reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, ect, of a person or thing; confidence.

Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people” I love this quote by Spencer Johnson.

How much confidence do you have in your spouse? Will they stand by you ‘til death do you part?’ I heard on the radio one morning about this study that was done when women in a marriage get ill. I’m not just talkin the flu or a virus here, I mean really sick. When women get an illness like M.S or Cancer 21% of men leave their wives. (That still leaves 79% that will stick it out, which is positive.) But if the rolls are reversed only 3% of women leave. The reasons given were that men don’t see themselves as the ‘caregiver‘ in a relationship. Men simply don’t multi task like women do, which would be necessary while taking on what would be required if their spouse was ill. This makes me wonder, if couples felt they could be more honest within their relationship, could these drastic measures turn into compromising ones? Could there be hope of working it out together simply because of raw honesty?

We all know how hard it can be to be COMPLETELY honest with anyone without hurting feelings somewhere along the line. But if you want real trust you have to start somewhere. I know this because I’ve been there. There is a huge payoff for honesty and that is friendship. Because of honesty in my relationship I have a best friend whom I trust more than ever. Scott is my best friend because of honesty. I will admit at times it was hard, but if you get rid of your ego and really put yourself out there, you get past the hard part and are left with trust.

When the truth is told it gives you the freedom to make decisions based on what’s best for you. It’s unselfish to speak the truth to those you love, whether the news is good or bad, the truth shall can set you free! The same goes with your girlfriends, although it is difficult to speak the truth to them at time, it is easier in the end if you do.

I think that as long as you have honesty, pure intention, you have trust.

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Are Men Really That Necessary?

Bonnie Johnson's PostMy daughter-in-law, Holly, was telling us about how many women she has seen operating the really big road improvement equipment lately.  You know, like the monster steam rollers, huge loaders and the like.  I’ve noticed it too and I think it’s terrific.  One of the guys commented that they’d heard that women are gentler on the equipment and more precise in their movements so it bodes well for these companies to hire women for those jobs.  One man in our group (no names mentioned) commented to the other men that they had better be careful because there may come a day when men are just not necessary anymore.  Silly man!  You’re not super necessary now We love men and could never do without you!!

All of this banter reminded me of an article I came across not too long ago about a woman biologist, Anna Himler, of the University of Arizona.  Anna and her colleagues were studying a group of Amazonian ants called Mycocepurus smithii because of their unusually high success at farming fungus.  Apparently many breeds of ants “farm” various types of fungus for nourishment.  That itself bumped up my respect for ants.  I knew they were always very busy but I didn’t realize they were clever enough to be organized farmers!  As Himler and her team studied the insects, they realized there were no male ants anywhere to be found.   Himler told the BBC that it’s possible the ants evolved so as “not to operate under the usual constraints of sexual reproduction.”   Interestingly, the fungi that the ants cultivate also reproduce asexually. But why would these ants choose to emulate the reproductive cycle favored by their crops? Himler explains:
“It avoids the energetic cost of producing males, and doubles the number of reproductive females produced each generation from 50% to 100% of the offspring.”

“Usual constraints of sexual reproduction”“avoids the energetic cost of producing males”?  Wow.  I for one don’t consider having sex with my man “constraining” or even always “usual” (I’m not saying it’s “unusual” either though…sheesh!) And as a proud mother of a son, I can say that yes, there was an energetic cost there, but it was all so worth it.

So, no need to worry men.  I don’t ever see us fading out your gender and cloning ourselves (Bo-or-ring!).  I do think it’s ironic that those ants are from the Amazon though.

Bonnie

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He’s Just Not That Into You!!!!

TracyWhile at the school talent show last week I noticed something that I couldn’t stop thinking about. This usually means a post is in the air.  It seemed to me that most of the girls who performed did it to songs that were directed towards boys in such a way that they were pining for them.  They had broken hearts and longed for their attention. Each song was somehow related to wanting our male counterpart to be into us. Maybe it is programming after all!  Conditioning at it’s best. How could we not continue down this path when we started on it at such an early age.

I watched the movie ‘He’s just not that into you’ and I had mixed feelings about it. I liked the fact that Jennifer Aniston’s character ‘Beth’ finally realized that Ben Affleck (Neil) didn’t need to marry her to be like a husband, but there were also parts that bothered me. Why are we afraid to admit that he is just not that into us. We have all consoled our friends with reasons why he hasn’t called or why our relationship ended when it may be as simple as there was no connection. Is that so hard to hear? Why do we feel we need to assess blame to justify the end of intimacy between two people.  Maybe it’s just the intimate part of the relationship that has run it’s course.

My question is “If he is just not that into you, why do you really care?” What’s wrong with just being honest so both people can move on without awkwardness. I think we care because he said no to us first. Our feelings get hurt because we take it personally that someone didn’t like us. Chances are we were going to say no eventually, but he just beat us to the punch.

Why not just be honest. If your not feeling it, say so. You could high five each other and move on and remain friends. Honestly you don’t want to date someone who isn’t really feeling the connection, do you?  That is just asking for a break-up down the road which gets messier as time goes by. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you think you have a connection with someone and it’s not reciprocated. I’ve been dumped on occasion, but there were very few I was bothered by, however, there was one I obsessed over for whatever reason. When looking back he was just a nightmare so I chalked it up to be my Karma for all the guys I just wasn’t that into and perhaps didn’t deal with honestly. Lesson learned!

I think women romanticize too much about men (I know I do being a hopeless romantic) I know for myself if it’s the man who is a challenge that drives me crazy, that intrigues me more. If we got rid of our ego’s it would be much easier. That’s why it’s so hard to remain friends…ego! No one really wants to hear the words, “I like you, just not that much.”

We need to stop sugar coating what men say to us and start hearing the truth behind their words. If a man says “I’m really gonna miss you” while in the throws of passionate love making, he’s NOT going on a holiday! Or you hear “hey buddy” or “dude” when he calls, chances are your not heading towards marriage. Maybe we make it difficult for men to be honest because we have that dreamy look in our eyes when they try to say what they feel. Just keep in mind it’s not really all that bad if someone isn’t really that into you. Put it in perspective!  There is always another bus coming as my Nana used to say !

Tracy

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Which Stereotype would you NOT want people to include you in?

Which stereotype would you NOT want to be included in?

Take your pick there are many!  Here are a few examples, dumb blonde, gold digger and one of my favorites cougar!

Tracy’s take~

Tracy Throughout my late teens and twenties I bent over backwards so girls would not judge or stereotype  me before they knew me all in the name of stereotyping.  I would make myself look silly with humour to make them smile at me instead of leer at me.  It got tiring and I eventually just called it quits.  I just figured if you don’t want to take the time to get to know me then that’s unfortunate because we could be friends.  I HATE when people stereotype  or judge for that matter!

With that being said at this point in my life ‘single mom looking for a man to take care of me’ would be one of the worst for me.  No other stereotype would bother me as much as this one.  Call me a ‘Cougar’ and I would not only agree, say “whyy not” and smile while looking you up and down sexually, call me a dumb blonde and I would manipulate you to get what I want, but think I need a man to take care of me…sheesh!!   Men are in my life by CHOICE not need!  I am a very independent and self sufficient woman who loves time alone.  I don’t need a man in my life to take care of me but I do look forward to having  men in my life to spend time and enjoying the moment for what it is.  So if I am single for the back 50 I’m good.  How about you Bonnie which stereotype don’t you want to be included in?

Bonnie’s two cents~

Bonnie's PostDon’t include me in any! I mean I can’t actually think of a stereotype I’d like to be slotted as.  I’m pretty sure I’ve fit a few of them in my life so far though.  Dumb blonde? I’ve had my moments.  Cougar?  Oh ya.  Gold digger?  I think you have to go out with really wealthy men for that, so I don’t think so.  White people can’t dance?  Hey, I think I look pretty good out there.

The bottom line is stereotyping  is just a lazy way of labeling someone.  So many people are quick to do this because they feel they need to assign you a category so they know where they fit in.  “She’s a gold digger.  I’m better than that.”   Tsk!

A stereotype is just a simplified and standardized conception.  Period.  It is not necessarily the truth.

Ok, so I’m probably getting too philosophical about this but it’s something I’ve thought a lot about recently thanks to Jacquie.  She was concerned I was stereotyping when I recently used the word “native” in one of my posts.  I disagreed and dug my heels in but I thought about what she said and I could see her point of view.  Stereotyping is not a good thing…although…I’ve never known an African American male to cry fowl over the “well endowed” stereotype.  I’m just sayin’!

Jacquie’s thoughts~

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I’ve been aware of the negative impact stereotyping can have for a very long time.  When I was dating my now-husband, Gavin, his mother was not a happy camper (do Chinese people ever like to camp?).   His Asian mother, who is an absolutely fabulous person, really wanted him to get rid of me, the White Ghost, aka Lo fan.  Crikey!  I was just being sweet l’il ol’ me but my blondness was working against me for the first time!  You see, she believed Caucasian women didn’t know how to take care of the house properly, didn’t do the cooking, didn’t take care of the children but sent them to nannies instead, cheated and got divorced.   No matter how ‘nice’ she thought I was, I would never be good wife material.

Well,  in some ways she was right.  I don’t cook very much now that the kids are older, I’d rather paint or do something fun than spend everyday scrubbing, I do like having guy friends and I won’t fib and say that the big ‘D’ has never crossed my mind as a viable alternative on really bad days, though it’s been a while since I felt that way.  I was being…stereotyped… but this time it was working against me!   It’s been many years and I know she loves me now and sees me as an individual and not just as a white girl, but it did take time.

Stereotypes are labels thrust on individuals or groups to make them easier to understand.  Like Bonnie said, they make figuring out your own place in the world simpler, so they’re self-serving, really.  I know I’m not a stereotypical mom with 3 kids and a dog even though that’s basically what I am on paper.  What else?  Well, like most of the women I know, I wear a lot of different hats depending on the day of the week or the mood I’m in.  Sometimes I’m ‘Ditzy Artist’.  ‘Dumb Blonde’ has served me well over the years when I’ve needed to pull her out.

I don’t mind acting out a stereotype every now and then when I’m in charge of the play.  What I don’t care for are stereotypes that are forced on me.  I don’t like going out with my girlfriends for some music and drinks and being called a cougar.  I find it derogatory, frankly.  Being stereotyped takes away your power and is belittling.  Now, if you want to call yourself a dumb blonde or a cougar then that’s different.  You’re taking back your power.  It’s all about the context in which these terms are used.


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I Thought Only Men and Old People Did That!

Bonnie's PostI remember hearing my dad do it when I was still living at home.  It was so loud some times I could hear it through multiple walls and down the hallway to my room.

When I met my husband I had a hard time getting used to him doing it too.  I remember being shocked when I heard my step daughter do it once, and she was only in her twenties at the time.

My beloved dog Spot has started to do it now too.  This is not good because she sleeps in our bedroom…on my side of the room…so now I’m surrounded by it!

And by “it” I mean snoring of course.Snoring

I’ve been pretty righteous about the whole thing for quite awhile.  I mean sheesh, how can I get a good night sleep with so much racket going on.

Last night John gently shook me awake at about 3am.  I thought he was trying to tell me it was time to get up.  Silly man I thought, it’s not time to get up yet.  Then I thought he was wanting me to listen to something.  Was someone trying to break in?  I lied awake for a long time listening but heard nothing so finally went back to sleep.  When we got up this morning I asked him why he shook me awake so early.  “I was just trying to get you to stop snoring” he said.  Wha…no…not me…can’t be!

I Googled “how to stop snoring” and here are some of the scary things I’ve found:

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I particularly like the sexy face bandage looking thing.  They are all pretty sexy actually!  Oh well.  At least all three of us are equally disturbing each other now.

Bonnie

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Midlife, Crisis or Awakening?

I have been thinking a lot lately about midlife.  Why, you ask, when I’m only 30-ish! (cough, choke, spit)  If asked straight out I don’t lie about my age.  I never have.  (I just become a low talker)  I am quite the opposite actually as  I usually admit to being the age I will be next.

We need to stop associating ‘midlife’ with ‘crisis’.  Why is it that when we finally start to feel like ourselves again that we have to classify this as a crisis?  Should it not be midlife celebration?  I don’t know about you, but it is for me and my circle of friends!Midlife Celebration!

We go through our 20’s where we think we know everything.  Well, at least I did.  My way or the highway!  We have the world by the tail.  We have few responsibilities with the exception of school and a part-time job.  We have freedom to do what we want, when we want, where we want, with whom we want.  Pause for a moment here and just daydream a moment with me.  Read slowly….What you want, when you want, where you want, with whom you want!  Did you giggle?  Smile at least?  Nothing wrong with remembering your past as long as you aren’t living in it.

We enter into our 30’s with more knowledge of what life is all about.  We hopefully have a job that has the potential of developing into a career.  Most of us have a partner and start to think of marriage and having a family.  We learn the importance of compromise.  But with that comes less time for ourselves and our life goes out of balance for a time.

We quickly reached our 40’s.  I must have had fun because man that went fast.  We have confidence in our opinions.  We have more freedom as our kids become independent.  More me time.  We start to find ourselves again and it feels incredible!  I just don’t see how this is a crisis.

Men buy sports cars, motorcycles or boats because they used enjoy them before they were required to trade them in for the mini van.  Compromise.  Women start to spend more time with their friends because that is what they used to do before their family took priority.  We start to live again.  We accept more, we say no and we don’t concern ourselves with the small things in life anymore.  We enjoy ourselves again without the attitude or desire of knowing it all.  It is a blessing to enter the second half of life with a carefree attitude.  We learn to embrace every moment we are given.  We have learned to live in the moment and  not judge.  We love,  we grow as souls, we appreciate everything the world has given to us to explore.  We finally GET IT!  That my friends is an Awakening not a crisis!

TracyThe Age of Miracles

The Age of Miracles by Marianne Williamson ( Great read!)


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