Life is meant to be shared ~

“I just need to find someone to share it with” is what I keep hearing from those around me. I can relate as I’m sure many of you can. Life is meant to be shared. Sharing it with friends and family is incredibly fulfilling but finding a partner to share it with intimately seems to be a quest of many. Need is maybe not the right word. I’ve struggle with this word at times. In the past I’ve associated need with weakness. “I don’t need help, I am a self-sufficient strong independent woman who can do anything.” Hearing that back doesn’t sound the least bit weak although it’s said with the intention of not wanting to appear weak. (and I can be slightly stubborn at times) There is nothing weak about wanting to share and explore the beauty of life with an intimate partner. The trick is finding the right one.

As a woman it’s hard to balance independence and strength without losing your femininity. Women naturally want their man to take care of some of their needs. Some of us even have the burning desire to be save by a man. I need to be saved from myself I think. At times I think I am only attached to this world by a thread, I often find myself floating away to my world which seems in no way a reality.

I think until you allow yourself to be vulnerable in life you don’t really experience all life has to offer. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone or needing someone in your life as long as you’re not dependent on them. That’s when obligation and expectation step in and wreck everything in one clean swoop! When you lose your independence you give away your strength. Balance is so important in life, yin & yang.

Want is perhaps not as scary as need“I just want to find someone to share it with.” I think there are life experiences we need to have that strike a cord within us that make us move to another level. And then there are life experiences we want that enrich and allow us to grow as individuals. Feeling vulnerable is not an emotion everyone is comfortable with, I’m certainly not. When you’re ready to open yourself up and be vulnerable, real passion in life begins. Passion is something in my opinion that needs to be shared. When you have real passion for what you do you can’t help but inspire those around you.

I was in the company of my parents on the weekend and their chemistry after 60 years together is still in the room. They found someone to share it with and somehow manage to keep from floating away making their passionate love a reality. It is possible. I’m looking for that someone who will feed my soul, not my ego. Who will let me float away when I need to but will reel me in from time to time to balance my fairy tale with reality.

We all want to share a part of our life with someone. It doesn’t have to be all at once, it can start with bits and pieces until it feels right to share more. It’s not a race. It’s about timing and letting go to allow your life to just be.

We as human beings like to share. Elation, can’t help but be shared. Love yearns to be shared. Desire burns if not shared. Inspiration is wasted if not shared. Music is created to share. Lust comes undone when shared. Peace wants to be shared.

Life is meant to be shared…

 


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50 Shades of Grey ~ Mommy Porn?

I am not generally a follower, more of a leader but I couldn’t resist finding out what all the fuss was about so I caved and bought the trilogy ‘50 Shades of Grey’. Everywhere I turn I hear someone say something about this book! A writer man-friend of mine suggested I start reading erotic romance novels if that is what I aspire to write more of, so I am. Anything for research…right? I have never even picked up a Harlequin Romance Novel before so I’m a virgin when it comes to reading romance. I’d rather be living it or writing about it than reading it. I did however find a few forum magazines when I was younger and found it hard to put those down.

I have to admit that’s where I find my flow in writing. I am naturally in my element when my romantic imagination joins my sensual erotic soul. I love the style of writing that leaves your loins aching for more, heart racing, imagination piqued and hormones surging!

I am not that far into the first book but I must say it’s intrigued me, I am not exactly sure what to expect, I haven’t got to the ‘play-room’ yet. I am secretly hoping their romance takes on a life of its own, being a true romantic myself. I also sense there is a darker erotic side to the story having heard there is a fair amount of S & M in the book.

As we read erotic sensual words, we feel the wash of sensuality flow over us. The look in our eyes change. We surrender to seduction. It’s a feeling many women don’t experience often enough in my opinion. I live for that feeling, thrive on it, I may even be addicted to it. It’s an obsession for sure. If there was an AA for this type of addiction I’d tell them to go to hell! My mind naturally plays with elements of love and sexuality daily, it’s a big part of who I am.

Lets face it a good number of relationships border on boring, we get too comfortable, so we look elsewhere to find a thrill. Taboo attracts us, well some of us. Knowing a man wants you is sometimes the only thing we need to get our heart racing. The feeling of lust and desire can be overwhelming! As for those comfortable souls who yearn for a Christian Grey to walk through their doors to titillate them, a novel is a much better safer place to look than between the sheets of a bed that doesn’t belong to you. Just sayin….

Hallelujah for erotic sensual romantic novels and writers such as E.L James that want to take us by the hand and lead us into temptation! Tempt me, tease me…leave me wanting more! Just don’t try to take my power as a woman away…cause I won’t go down without a fight!

Mommy porn? I like to think about it as story time that brings out the woman in all of us. Husbands and partners need not worry, we still want you…more than ever! You have probably noticed if your wife or partner is reading one of these books. I guess the question is “Who isn’t reading one of these books?”

Married women who are reading erotic romance are safe, husbands are in heaven with their wives new found libido, but what about the heat that has washed over single women? We’re gonna start to do things we aren’t proud of! I am considered getting a pool-boy but remembered I don’t have a pool. My girlfriend Alison F told me she was getting a pool-boy. (she’s reading the book too) Mind you she has a pool and lives back East where it’s realllllly humid right now. I’m thinking one of those little kiddie pools with the elephant trunk that spouts water is technically a pool…right? I think I’ll ask the sales clerk what isle the pool-boys are down, or if it comes with one? Is he in the box? Do I have to pay extra? Surely that trunk needs cleaning so there’s not  a build up of algae in it?

Reading Mommy-porn does crazy things to a woman’s libido! Trust me! If you see a grown woman humping the leg of a crossing guard, or standing dangerously close to a jack hammer, just leave her be, she’s probably reading the book. This too will pass!

Check out Saturday Night Lives Parody of 50 Shades of Grey. (click the link) funny!

And here is a giggle…Ellen has always cracked me up!

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Raise Your Hand If You Like SEx?

Raise your hand if you like Sex! Raise BOTH if you LOVE sex! Bonnie sit down! It’s amazing if you’re with the right partner. If you didn’t raise your hand maybe it’s your partner that’s all wrong? Did you just s-l-o-w-l-y look over at your partner? (lol) If you did maybe you need a new one. Okay that’s a bit drastic or unrealistic for those of you who are married. There are very few legitimate reasons for anyone to have a lousy sex life…in my opinion. All you need is a voice and the desire. We’re born with the equipment we need, how handy is that!

If your internal dialog is whisperingnot everyone likes sex” you’re right. We all know men think about sex more often than most women. (Bonnie sit down you’re distracting me!) 54% of men think about sex several times a day according to the Kinsey Institute. If you’re with the right person how could you not! Lust is a very strong and electric feeling that I think is missing out of a lot of relationships. I also think it should be a part of every healthy relationship. Lusting after your partner…just doesn’t get any better!

When you’re with the right person there is no better feeling in the world than intimate sex. I am really trying hard to think of one other thing in life that feels better…hold that thought I’ll get back to you on that! (insert cheeky grin here) Men are wired to want sex, it’s their job to procreate to further the human race. That’s a very important job with huge pressure I’m sure!

So many couples are part of the statistic of having little or no sex after marriage or commitment. Everyone jokes about sex going from ‘all the time’ before marriage to ‘once a month’ after the ring’s on the finger! It’s a joke for a reason…its reality. When you get married you promise to only have sex with your wife/husband for the r-e-s-t of  your l-i-f-e. (that alone is a tall order) It’s not fair if one of you holds out after you promise. If you don’t like sex to begin with you should be honest BEFORE you get married. Sexual manipulation ALWAYS comes back to bite you in the end! Just saying…

How come we don’t hear women saying they love sex with their partners any where near as much as we hear how they avoid it? They are comfortable admitting they avoid it but not comfortable saying they enjoy it? Backwards right? Granted some women are very private with their personal life which I respect. I don’t see why you wouldn’t want your girlfriends to know your man rocks your world…regularly! 🙂 It could be contagious!

Are you becoming a statistic? You don’t need to be. If you feel yourself edging toward being one you have time to turn the boat around! You just need to focus on that handsome man who walks through your door. The one who likes you, loves you…but hopefully lusts you! Wouldn’t you rather rip his cloths off than talk about the weather? Act now…talk later!

Life is about creating moments worthy of remembering forever. The trick is to have so many you can’t.

As for there being no better feeling…life is filled with them, seize them.

Thoughts become things…choose the good ones! (Notes from the Universe)

Here is a really funny video that was obviously made for a reason! Just saying…


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Are You Comfortable Naked!

I want the truth. Are you comfortable with your naked body? More specifically, are you comfortable with your naked body with your partner in the room? I know every woman who is reading this has questions such as; “what kind of lighting are we talkin about here, is it day/night/candle…is he naked…or just me…do I have a tan…am I my ideal weight or do you mean RIGHT now?” STOP!

Okay specifically…”Are you comfortable being naked right now in daylight with the blinds open southern exposure at noon with your husband/boyfriend/lover (pick one!) standing or lying naked right beside you no covers no tan white skin completely natural having just ate lunch?” Okay minus the having just ate lunch, I’ll give ya that one. I know what you’re thinking, I’ve been buck naked in this scenario and that’s why I’m writing about it. You’ll never know for sure! (insert cheeky grin here) I’ll enjoy the speculation immensely…I don’t kiss and tell 🙂

For some women undressing in front of the one they love, is so horrific poking a sharp stick in their eye would be less painful! It’s some women’s worst fear to drop their dress, let alone the panties and bra that are under it, in bright light! Add the starring eyes of the one they desire, nightmare complete! I guarantee your partner is in awe at the spontaneity and confidence you ooze for doing it in the first place, not any bits you’re unhappy with.

If we make this man someone you only lust after, apparently the pain is less severe. Sweeeeet! Kidding! I find that strange, weird even that psychologically we are more comfortable stripping down with a man we don’t know. The man we love, adores us for who we are, not just our physical appearance. The man we lust is there for approximately 3 minutes…okay maybe 4…5 tops, before you see the back of his head exit stage right! lol

I know we don’t really care what the man we lust really thinks because we just want their body and mechanics for a simply pleasure! Shouldn’t we be more comfortable with the man we love because we know he will make sure we are simply pleasured! 🙂

I suppose our partners should feel good knowing we care what they think, but if they knew we held back because of our own insecurities, I’m sure they wouldn’t understand! Men desire women curves and flesh regardless of their size or shape. I don’t think there is a man out there who would turn down the woman they love if she was standing naked in front of him! It’s about love and trust.

Aging is hard on our bodies but our minds hopefully out weigh any insecurities we might have allowed to attach to our physique over the years! We know better than to be so critical, it’s a slippery slope! And if we put this kind of pressure on ourselves aren’t we putting it on our partner as well? We are our own worst enemy in this scenario ladies! Men see us as we should, from the inside out! For me, aging is about accepting who I am right now…and now…and now regardless of my size, shape or wrinkle count. If someone can’t love me for who I am, then the hell with them!

Embrace who you are ladies, naked in bright light! Natural beauty is the sexiest, ask any man! We’ve touched on The Naked Truth once before here on Tara Cronica…Tag Team Sunday: The Naked Truth, still feel the same ladies?

Okay I gotta fly, I am getting a spray tan today by a complete stranger, naked of course, just in case I find myself lying naked in daylight with the blinds open southern exposure at noon with my ______ lying right beside me naked, no covers, completely natural, if you don’t count the tan! Baby steps ladies…baby steps! Now go get nekid and rock your mans world…cause he wants to rock yours too!

 

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Svaha Spirit Series ~ True Love

Born on Valentine’s Day it only seems natural that I am attracted to love. Although my idea of love has changed over the years I still believe in true love. I grew up believing that love lasts forever. I still believe true love does. There are three brain systems of love according to Helen Fisher , PhD Biological Anthropologist, lustful love, romantic love and deep attachment love. Love starts out passionately and lustfully, then moving into romantic love, and when you start to feel like you can’t live without someone you have moved hopelessly into ‘deep attachment love’.

When I think about true love I can’t help but have thoughts of my parents, Bob and Jane, who have loved one another since childhood. Their love is not like the love of my generation. Their love is old school. It will undoubtably go the distance. Today is their 51st Wedding Anniversary! They joke about celebrating each year with a moment of silence but I know they truly love one another. They met when they were 12 years old and since then their love has grown far beyond any love I know. They fit into”The Notebook” kind of love for me. I find comfort knowing that my parents have been able to love one another for so many years, unconditionally.

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad, I wish you both many more to come.

The video I have attached is all about ‘The Brain in Love’ with Helen Fisher, it’s longish but really interesting to anyone interested in love. Svaha~ ,

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That’s the Story of my Life

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If you were to write a screenplay of your life, what movie genre would it fall into… and who would you want to play you and why!

Jacquie’s Take~

I thought about this idea as I was looking through a stack of unedited, unsorted photographs a few days ago.  When we put together a scrapbook or photo album, what we’re doing, in a way, is creating our own version of a still-life mini-series depending on what we choose to add or leave off the pages.  Even as I write this I’m creating a mood that could be interpreted by someone else and is entirely dependent on the words I choose to use.

So what would my life story look like up to this point?  In all honesty I would have to say a teen romp or an English farce.  I’m constantly expecting the Maturity Police to pull up outside my house and haul me away.    Sometimes I make drama happen when none is necessary.  In all good ‘coming of age’ films the lead characters learn important life lessons and are enriched by the experiences they face.  I’m always finding out new things about myself and trying to get a handle on the world so I think the genre fits (a little too snugly, actually)

Who would I like to play me?  Nicole Kidman, but if she were busy I’d settle for Sarah Michelle Gellar,  you know, the vampire slayer.  She’d have to get some highlights put in but she’s gives great tongue in cheek.  Anyone who can pull off a role like Buffy and really sell it must be talented.  And we have the same ski jump nose.

Bonnie Johnson's PostBonnie’s Two Cents~

I’m going to start with who I would choose to play me.  When I pondered this question one name popped into my head right away.  I don’t know why exactly except that perhaps it’s because I think she is a great actress and she is multi-faceted enough to be able to capture my many personalities (I am a Gemini after all).  Plus she is close to my own age and plus I just admire her.  Mary Louise Parker.

As for which genre my screen play would fit into, well that’s a tough one.  You see my life so far has not been one big drama or one big romance or one big comedy or one big tragedy, although it has had many scenes of all of those in it.  I would hate to have Woody Allen want to do the play or movie of my life because to me that would signal “not much going on” in this production.  (Sorry Woody, just my personal opinion)  By the way, who calls their kid Woody?  Mr. and Mrs. Allen and Mr. and Mrs. Harrelson I guess! Weird choice for a baby boy’s name  in my opinion.

I’d like to see the story of  “Me” be a great mix of all those genre’s and when the production is over I’d want the audience to all smile deeply and leave the theater with a warm fuzzy feeling.  I’d like the story of  “Me” to linger in their thoughts and to revisit them often when something in their own life reminds them of my story.  I’d like there to be lots of life lessons that they either learn by in this production or at least relate to.  I’d like to have the audience laugh out loud often, wipe away some tears occasionally and nod knowingly all the way through.

TracyTracy’s thoughts~

Great topic Jake!  It really made me think about my life and the tone of it so far.  Without a doubt I knew immediately my movie genre would be a Passionate Love Story with heart wrenching scenes about love and soul searching.  It would have more than one story line playing out the search of love, passion and lust.

As you walk out of the theater you have renewed hope that there is true love out there.  And the ending …well Bonnie just knows me so well so I am going to go with what she said in yesterdays post ‘Princess Reality‘.A handsome prince will ride his stallion into her life, swoop her up into the saddle with him and while she clings to his strong chest they gallop into the sunset to live happily ever after”…sigh ?… or as reality would have it… she lives her life in the moment embracing each and every souls energy that she meets along her path to her destiny, all while having a passionate happy ending.  Yes I said ‘happy ending’  (insert giggle here) which is left open for interpretation…  I personally hate movies that leave anything to interpret in the end, I like to SEE that it ended happily.   Anyone know a good psychic?

Who will I have play me?  I am going to have to say Diane Lane.  I have loved how vulnerable she is when she plays women in love.  Diane draws me right in each time, she is so authentic.  She is around my age give or take a few years and I think she is an incredible actress.  I especially loved her in ‘Unfaithful’, ‘Under the Tuscan Sun’ and ‘Nights in Rodanthe’.Happily Ever After

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