Stop Saying That

I don’t know what it is about people and phrases.  I include myself in this rant by the way. We hear a word or phrase used once, think it sounds clever or cute and then use the same word or phrase to death! Can we all just stop saying these things?!

Here are the ones that stand out and annoy me the most at this time:

  • That said
  • Lol
  • Seriously? Seriously.
  • You know what I’m sayin’?
  • Just so ya know
  • No problem
  • Awesome
  • How good was ___?”
  • Amazing

That said    An awkward abbreviation of “That being said” or “Having said that”.  Fine, but everyone is suddenly using this all the time. Whenever I hear this phrase, in my mind I hear that annoying beep beep beep sound that trucks make when they are backing up because I know that the person using the phrase is going to back up and take a different approach. They are changing lanes away from the first point they were making and going in a completely different direction. Ugh.

LOL    Well I tried to persuade as many of you as I could to relax on using this waaaay over used acronym when I wrote the post Did You Really Laugh Out Loud?  Instead many of you thought it even funnier to ramp up the use of it when texting or emailing me.  I’ll be honest; I’m not laughing out loud – just cringing.

Seriously?    This used to be a handy word when you truly weren’t sure if someone was serious or not, but these days it is so over used that people (read: me) even say it to themselves when they look in the mirror and realize their hair looks awful.  Once upon a time if someone wasn’t sure if you were joking they would ask “are you serious?” and that often was shortened to “seriously?” but now you hear it thrown at everything from a comment somebody disagrees with to observing a fashion faux pas.  When are we going to stop over using this word? Seriously!

You know what I’m sayin’    Yes, I know what you are saying. You are not saying anything really complicated, trust me, and if I didn’t know what you were saying I would stop you and ask you to explain yourself better. So you don’t need to ask me after every sentence that you utter.  Seriously! (Oops)

Just so you know   Usually said in a sarcastic way after telling someone something that they probably already know, or as Urban Dictionary explains it:

A phrase tacked on to the end of a statement to imply that the information being given is simply a courtesy, when in reality there are specific expectations of you now that you have this information.

What Danielle says to guy she’s been seeing: Oh, hey I deactivated my profile on the dating website, just so you know.
What Danielle REALLY means: You better take your dang profile off the dating website too….NOW!!!!

No Problem    This one is very sad to me.  Somehow people have dropped using the very polite “you’re welcome” and instead toss out a casual “no problem” after being thanked for something.  It may be appropriate in some cases where you want to relay the fact that it really wasn’t a problem to, let’s say, switch appointments or something similar, but when the teenage cashier lazily pushes your change towards you and almost inaudibly says “no problem” or worse, “no prob” after you’ve said thank you, don’t you want to challenge them on it.  “Are you sure it wasn’t a problem for you to give me back the change I was owed? Because it seemed to me like it took an incredible amount of effort on your part.”  Good thing I don’t expect them to actually count out my change and place it in my open palm anymore.

Awesome    It means inspiring awe.  You cannot tell me that everything you see inspires awe. So unless you are Neil Pasricha and wrote The Book of Awesome, please stop saying everything you do, say, or see is awesome.  I will admit that I love to use it sarcastically.  For example, if I’m in a hurry and get trapped in bumper to bumper traffic, I’ve been known to utter “awesome”.

How good was ____?    Here’s a better question: Are people afraid to make statements these days?  Why not just say, “That banana split was delicious”, or “I really enjoyed the movie”.  Has everyone lost the ability to make a declaration? It’s as if no one is confident enough to just say they like something without asking someone else “how” good it was first.

Amazing    This one topped the Lake Superior State University 2012 List of Banished Words list and here are some comments from those that nominated it:

“Every talk show uses this word at least two times every five minutes. Hair is not ‘amazing.’ Shoes are not ‘amazing.’ There are any number of adjectives that are far more descriptive. I saw Martha Stewart use the word ‘amazing’ six times in the first five minutes of her television show. Help!” Martha Waszak, Lansing, Mich.

“Banish it for blatant overuse and incorrect use…to stop my head from exploding.” Paul Crutchfield, Norwich, Norfolk, UK

“The word which once aptly described the process of birth is now used to describe such trivial things as toast, or the color of a shirt.” JP, Comox, British Columbia, Canada

Anderson Cooper used it three times recently in the opening 45 seconds of his program. My teeth grate, my hackles rise and even my dog is getting annoyed at this senseless overuse. I don’t even like ‘Amazing Grace’ anymore. Sarah Howley, Kalamazoo, Michigan

When people from Comox, BC to Kalamazoo, Michigan have had enough then maybe it’s time to retire the word “amazing” for awhile.  Just sayin’ (Ooo that’s another one that should be on this list – next time.)

That said, I hope you LOL while reading this.  Seriously. You know what I’m saying? Just so you know, it was no problem writing this awesome list.  I mean, how good is this list?


What Woos You?

Physical attraction and eye contact with someone new can be pretty powerful but you eventually have to speak. Communicating without the physical aspect can also stimulate the senses but you eventually have to meet. What seals the deal for you when it comes to accepting a date with the opposite sex? What woos you? Intrigue is first and foremost for me. Words create intrigue capturing the essence of who they are. Can you be wooed by words alone? If they are a true reflection of the person who speaks them I think it’s an extraordinary start.

What draws you even closer to the opposite sex after they’ve intrigued you? Physical appearance is what can turn our heads or grab our attention initially, as can words, but what keeps our attention after that? Capturing someones interest is the easy part…keeping it is the challenge. We are all unique in what attracts us to the energy of the opposite sex just as we are also roused by different words and actions.

Great conversation stimulates the mind but can too much deep intellectual colloquy start to make you crazy if it’s the only word play you engage in. I don’t want my mind to be so exhausted that my funny bone has fallen asleep. A man that can make me laugh-out-loud woos me just as easily as one who makes me question my beliefs.

Being wooed by the opposite sex can start with a feeling thats origin is unknown. It’s just there, waiting to be touched. It isn’t just physical or mental stimulation. It can start with flirty banter and lead to conversations that make your mind sail with even the slightest breeze.

The root of all attraction is based on a feeling followed by desire, it IS that simple. The only way to expose the chemistry that may lay beneath the surface of words or physical attraction is by standing in front of the object-of-your-desire. It’s either there filling the air that swirls between you or it’s not.

Being authentic is the best way to woo the opposite sex. Not everyone will respond to who you are but when someone does sometimes words are not necessary or enough.


Beauty is Nothing without Brains

Everyone enjoys a good blonde joke don’t they? Well maybe not blondes but anyways…I saw this the day after I got a few more blonde highlights put in my hair. My girlfriend Carri also went blonder after being brunette for the last year, maybe blondes really do have more fun.

I’ve been blonde, brunette, auburn, purple and a few colours in between. I don’t recall any colour in particular being more fun. No offence to all the beautiful blonde women out there!

Just to be fair I will tell you a brunette joke. Q. Why are brunettes so proud of their hair?
A. It matches their moustache.