The Truth Shall Set You Free…

I didn’t get where I am today which is a pretty sweet place in life without a whole lot of honesty. It wasn’t always easy but looking back worth it. Honesty and truth always get you further than dishonesty. Avoiding the truth is just the same as a lie. I am the chic who crosses the boarder with a guilty look on her face because she didn’t declare the gum she’s chewing. Take note; I’m not the one you want to go cross boarder shopping with if you wear everything back you bought because you’re way over your limit!

I’ve never been good at lying. I am not sure if it started as a child with a Mom who always seemed to know if I was even inching towards a lie or if it’s the relatively good clean conscience I was born with. Lies usually catch up with you in time…usually 🙂 To be clear I am not in any way shape or form saying I haven’t had a whopper roll out of my mouth from time to time, I am human after all. I don’t see the point unless you’re saving the feelings of someone you care about, then I say indulge in a white one. That can be a slippery slope so be careful.

I have fudge the truth, un-exaggerate it from time to time but when it is really important and involved the lives of others I try my hardest to be as honest as I can. The truth can hurt and it’s hard to say in some circumstances but at least everyone involved can then decide themselves what to do with the truth they’re presented with. It’s an unselfish way to live. I was joking with a male friend of mine recently telling him he was so inappropriate but somehow pulled it off and his reply was ~“honesty is not always appropriate” and “appropriate can be a huge waste of precious time” I agree and love his attitude, always have always will! Say it out loud and hope for the best…well hope it goes how you would like it. There are also times in life when it’s best to hide the truth in a really good spot and just let it percolate for a while. Life doesn’t alway work out the way we plan but at least if you speak the truth no one can fault you for it.

There may be a few bumps in the road, mountains even, some worth climbing others might be a little further than you are willing to go. What we do with the truth is a personal choice when it’s presented to us. Fight or flight? I’ve teetered on the edge many times in regard to both.

When someone give you the truth they are giving you the ball to either run with or pass back. You are handed the paddle of power, not over them but to empower yourself with choice. The question is what do you want to do with it? It’s no longer about them or what they have done or not done, it’s what you want to do with the information they gave you. The truth is a gift in my opinion. Although it is not always seen as one initially in time the truth is always a gift if it’s looked at in the light of a new day.

Do you swear to tell the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you…I do…most of the time! (unless you ask me if your ass looks fat in those pants, then you’re getting the little white lie…assuming you’re asking because it is)

The truth shall set you free…or it could put your sorry ass in jail, or get you a slap across the face…you decide!  🙂

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Do you ever lie about your age?

Bonnie’s take~

Who me?…lie? No way.  I look really really good for 56 years old!

That’s right, if I was going to lie about my age I’d definitely lie up.  I recently read about a woman doing just that and I thought “Now that’s the way to do it!”.  People will admire how well you’ve aged.  Snort!

The last time I lied about my age was when I was not quite old enough to enter a night club.   I borrowed a friend’s I.D. (who looked nothing like me) to show at the door.  It worked (obviously the doorman didn’t look very closely) and I was allowed to enter.  I was uncomfortable all night waiting to be discovered and then thrown out.  I’m not very good at breaking the rules.  If the sign says “No Trespassers” then I will not trespass…very willingly…ok, I know some of you reading this have trespassed with me but if you’ll remember, it was your idea and I was not comfortable with it!

Nah, I’m fine with telling the truth about my age or anything else you might ask me.  Mind you, I’ve never had to compete with younger women for a job or a movie role.  So far.  If I’m ever in that situation I may think differently, but then again, lying about your age is only half of it.  You have to make them believe it too.

~Bonnie

Tracy’s 2 cents~

Have I ever lied about my age… lately?  I can’t remember the last time I did so it must have been quite awhile ago, same as Bonnie back in the 80’s!  Actually in Cabo I changed the subject when my age was brought up when a really really young guy was flirting with me.  After finding out he lived where I grew up I instantly asked him what his mom’s name was in case I knew her.  He lied to me thinking I wouldn’t have spoke with him had I known he was only 27 !!!!!  I would have, but I see his point.

Nope, never lied but yes avoided the conversation at times.  I have usually been the age I am turning next.  Technically when you turn 40 you’re in your 41 st year.  I am no longer doing that though, it’s getting kind of scary now.  So ya, I guess I’m my 39th year!  Again! “OUCH”!

~Tracy

Jacquie says…

I’ve never felt the need to lie about my age in the past but I’m going to start now.    Oh, wait a minute, I did tell a bit of a fib when I was 17 and trying to get an agency to take me on in Milan.  I decided to say I was 14, as  at that time really young models were being celebrated in all the magazines.   While visiting one agent he got really disgusted and angry that my parents would allow a 14 year old to travel alone so it kinda backfired on me!  I gave up that scheme pronto.  (You never knew about that one, did ya, mom?)

I’ve always been comfortable revealing my true age but I just think it’s nobody’s business but my own now.  Depends on how the question is asked and why someone wants the info.  I know I’ve probably asked a new acquaintance her age just to get a grasp on where she is in life.  It can give me clues as to how young she was when she had her kids, how her career has progressed and whether or not she liked Donny Osmond or Bobby Sherman as a teen.  Other than that, age is irrelevant.

~jacquie



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