PDA…Public Display of Affection?

I saw an elderly couple walking hand in hand the other day, actually I’ve never seen them walking NOT hand in hand, which made me realize I haven’t seen anyone show any affection in public for a very long time. I watched them walk in sync into the distance connected, and it made me wonder about their love. When was the last time you went for a walk and held hands with your significant other? It’s a clear statement that you are together, that’s for sure! Are we avoiding that or is it just that public display of affection has petered out over the years?

Kissing is one of the most intimate forms of affection between two people. It’s easy to get lost in a man’s lips if he knows how to use them. You rarely see anyone kiss in public anymore. I am not talking about the occasional brother kiss, I mean a passionate tasteful kiss! Is it because its personal that we don’t do it in front of anyone? Can we not find a middle of the road kiss, that expresses our attraction without walking away wiping our face off from the drool that was left behind. (yuck) If someone yells out “GET A ROOM!” you’ve gone too far!

I don’t particularly want to see two people giving each other a face wash in public but I would take a longer glance if I saw a couple kissing that looked like they just couldn’t help the attraction. Or is it because we have one eye on and one eye off the person we are out with, that makes us not want to partake in public? I’m just saying…

Public Display of Affection or PDA has been transformed into Personal Digital Assistant…god we’ve become so generic and boring. We pay more attention to our iPhones and Blackberries and other PDA devices than the person in our company! Does anyone have a sex drive or libido anymore? We don’t kiss and mean it anymore! If you’re going to kiss someone at least put some effort and feeling into it!

If want to check out a little more taboo version of this topic, check out my other website…All Things Sexy and Silver!

Here is a musical interlude for those interested!



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Would You, Should You, Could You Internet Date?

Is it really that hard to meet someone? I’ve been unattached for a year and a half and have had Internet Dating Services come up in conversations with friends more than a few times.   😉

Here is my take on my first impression of a few: Plenty of fish is one that keeps coming up but seriously the name, when I think of fish I think of throwing them back, they’re wet, cold, scaly and not the nicest of smells out there, it’s just weird. eHarmony, their ads just seem too good to be true and you know what they say about that! There is Crazy dates, they actually have written “Meet the Crazy Bitch here” in their ad, I feel regret just thinking about that one! There is Sugar Daddies where the classy, attractive and affluent can meet, whose your daddy, ahhhh no. The last one that caught my eye was Its Just Lunch Vancouver for busy professionals, they do all the work for you, you just show up and have lunch, brunch or drinks, no pressure! Are you kidding, isn’t the anticipation or moment before you get asked out the BEST PART of meeting someone new, other than kissing for the first time? I don’t get it, it shouldn’t be WORK, they should say,“we take all the pleasure out of it for you!”


Seriously, I just don’t feel right about someone else planning a date for me. Its like someone picking out an outfit in a clothing store who doesn’t have a clue what your style is, even when you tell them what you like, if they can’t find it they start suggesting other options. I was looking for a Jeep years ago and a car salesmen actually called me and said he didn’t have a new black Jeep available but he did have a 1985 white pick-up truck. WTF is that? That’s what I would be afraid of, do they push the guys who aren’t moving very quick and have an expiry date on them like old bananas in the produce department? If I worked there I would set up joke dates until I was fired just for laughs. It feels creepy and desperate to me, but never say never, right? Not likely for this chick!

I don’t get out much so I see the point, if someone doesn’t walk or drive by between 9 am and 9:05 am while I am sitting having a quick gulp of coffee on my front steps, or knows my walking route and lays on the horn so I can hear them over my blasting ipod, it’s just not likely to happen while doing my daily activities. I guess there’s kid sports but I am there watching the sport not scanning the audience of parents looking for a potential date *cough*, okay if Carri’s there I do, cause that’s just fun.

I am on the computer for a healthy part of the day so it does make sense as a place to meet someone, a common interest, but I am at home in my office and I am a little old fashioned when it comes to meeting people and rely on Chemistry to guide me. I’m not too worried about it to be honest, I am just living my life, doing my thing and if someone catches my attention I will take it one step at a time.

I was talking to a friends Mom across the street about dating and the internet and she agreed with me, we are going to leave it up to fate. We both love our independence. I find that those who are in a relationship think those who aren’t are lonely, we are not lonely, we are alone and there is a difference! The way I look at it is that if someone isn’t in my circle of doings and I need to meet them on the internet because we are so damn busy, that option isn’t looking good. I know I have to make a conscious effort to get out and will when the time is right but for now the internet for me is about surfing for ideas not guys or potential dates or mates. What do you think? Would you sign up for dating through the internet, or leave it up to fate? Have you met anyone online and had it work out? Let me know what’s worked for you? I really am interested to hear what’s worked for those who are navigating the dating field.

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Kissing XXX

Tracy I believe in long, slow, deep, wet kisses that last three days” quote, Kevin Costner’s character from the movie ‘Bull Durham’.  A classic line.  You know what they say, those who are talking about it aren’t doing it!  But are those who are doing it, doing it well?
Kissing…just let your mind wander for a moment and think about the Best Kiss that has ever been planted on your lips and what made it just that!  I know mine, you know who you are!  🙂
A kiss can take on many different forms and reflect a variety of different emotions.  The kiss dates back to the beginning of human history and remains a huge part of relations between men and women, one of the tell tale signs if someone is a great lover.  A kiss can be the measuring stick to determine if there is a second date in some cases.  It tells you if you are both feeling the chemistry that is in the air between your lips.  There is nothing better than a great first kiss, the anticipation that leads us to it is electric and if it’s what we hoped for, shivers and butterflies!  Okay, there is only one thing better than a great first kiss and that is a kiss that feels just as great years later!  Bliss…kiss bliss.

KissingMost women put a lot of stock in a man’s kissing ability.  Some women will even claim that a first touch of the lips is a solid indicator of how the relationship will pan out.  Apparently men find it hard to discuss kissing with women, because they believe they are already a good smoocher.  Kissing is personal, so when one women thinks a man isn’t a great lip locker, it means nothing, it’s merely an opinion.  With the right person it can evoke many different moods that range from playful and loving to sensual and erotic.

If you are a women’s Best Kiss you will be remembered forever and a measuring stick for life.  Nothing else will be quite the same as that one set of lips you loved to lock with, until you meet their match.  Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to meet your ‘Prince’ but that’s the fun part! kissing

The kiss is the single most underestimated intimate display of affection.  I think the kiss is the key that unlocks the door of your relationship that leads you to an entirely different level.  If you can rock her world with a hot passionate kiss, the relationship from that moment on is open to explore.

There was a study done on kissing and it was found that women based their decision of whether or not to sleep with a man purely on their kissing abilities.  No Gin or Tequila needed here guys, just your luscious kissable lips!!  The perfect recipe for a great kiss ~I don’t think there is one.   Kissing is a personal expression of emotions that happens when it can no longer be held back.  Next time you give a kiss, make it one that will be remembered!  Now go lock lips like you mean it!!

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Your Best Friend from High School (the one who secretly made out with the guy YOU said you liked) Just Called. What Do You Do?

jacquie janzen yeeJacquie lays it on the line…

I’m a different person than the one who graduated years ago.  I can only assume that most of the women I went to school with have changed a bit, too.  I got a call about a year ago from someone who thought they owed me an apology but when I thought about it I realized they didn’t at all.   I was able to have a great conversation with this person about what’s been going on over the last few years and we’ve had some great laughs.  If I had carried a grudge I would have missed the opportunity to enjoy this fun friendship.

People aren’t angels.  We make mistakes and we learn…hopefully.  I think you have to look at the whole picture and decide if the friendship is worth salvaging.  Sometimes it’s just better leaving well enough alone.   I’m a fixer and so I like neat endings…or beginnings.  I believe in personal growth and change.  Is that foolish?  Maybe, maybe not.

Girls, please let me know what you think!

Bonnie Johnson's PostBonnie doesn’t hold back…

Well my “best friend” from high school was/is Tracy and she would never ever have crossed that line.  I never worried about that for one minute, but there was this one girl…

She wasn’t really even a friend.  Just someone I knew to smile at and say hi to when passing her in the hall.  Here’s the story.  I went to Australia with my family for a month.  I believe it was around Christmas time in our grad year.  While I was away, my boyfriend, my first love, went to a party and made out with this girl from school.  He knew I’d find out about it…it was high school after all, so he confessed as soon as I saw him.  I then confessed about making out with a guy I met in Australia at that point.  17 year old hormones!  (Making out consisted of kissing and a little groping only by the way.)  Anyway, we were both devastated but eventually forgave each other.  The funny thing is, I never forgave that girl.  If you are wondering, yes, I remember her name.  I remember it very well.  I’m not going to say it though because some of you know her.  Recently on Facebook I received one of those messages that says  “so and so is now friends with so and so and thinks you may also know so and so and wish to be friends with them too”.  I don’t think so!!  She made out with my boyfriend 28 years ago and I haven’t forgotten!  I know it’s silly but I don’t care.  It’s not like I really ever think about the incident or even the girl but if her name ever does come up I still bristle.

It’s like she broke the unwritten law of sisterhood.  You just don’t cross that line…ever.  I might forgive her one day…nah!

TracyTracy Gets Real…

If it was “secretly” how do I know ?  I will assume I found out then?  I didn’t have any issues like this with girlfriends in High School (that I am aware of) mostly because I hung out with guys and also because I was not the least bit competitive amongst my friends.  Bonnie was/is my Best friend and real friends wouldn’t cross that line.  Kissing is usually a mutual connection with mutual consent.

I liked the guys I hung out with as friends so this wasn’t an issue that would have bothered me.  I have always thought that if some other girl/woman can ‘get’ my boyfriend or husband for that matter, he’s all yours !  Have at er!  When I think back about high school I have a hard enough time remembering who everyone was never mind what they did!  I can’t think of one person who I wouldn’t be able to talk to openly and enjoy catching up with today.   Boring I know.  Grad 81 !

IMG_1812 (Small)Rob Thompson, Cheater, Bonnie, Tracy, Kent Holden

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Tag Team Sunday ~ The Naked Truth

Hey Ladies, we’re gonna talk nudity.

How comfortable are you with it?  In movies?  In your own home?

Jacquie dips her toe in the hot tub…

This would be the perfect time to say something titillating and, believe me, I’ve been debating which route to take, but ultimately I have to stay true to my voice. I think there’s way too much unnecessary nudity in movies. Hear me out. I think nudity in porn flicks is necessary; in every movie produced by the major studios, unnecessary! Depends on what you’re looking to watch and what’s going to satisfy your entertainment needs at the time. Both types of films have their place. I just don’t want to go to Blockbuster, rent something and be given a helping of gratuitous nakedness with my romance and action. I’ll allow that sometimes it is important to the story. Kate Winslet in The Reader, for example. That movie needed all that sex and nudity (did I just say that?) in order for the audience to truly feel the awkwardness and passion of the two main characters.

I guess because of my background in art I feel very comfortable with the naked human body as an object worthy of admiration and adoration. Male and female. I’m too uncomfortable to do the full on nude beach thing (topless in Europe, woo hoo) but I have posed for artists in the buff and felt really powerful and feminine and would do it again.

I love the beautiful lines and curves and angles we possess, but I just don’t think they have to be displayed all at the same time. I subscribe to the ‘flash one great body part at a time’ rule. Think Michele Obama and those incredible arms! That’s sexy! Or J Lo in that deeper-than-deep-belly-button-revealing-cleavage dress that covered her arms and legs. Hot.

While in Vegas a few weeks back I went to a burlesque show at Forty Deuce at the Mandalay Bay. I have to say it was so much fun to watch! The dancers were fantastic athletes, spinning on poles, hanging from scaffolding in the ceiling and twisting and gyrating to the cheering packed house. But there was no nudity involved! As each layer of clothing was removed you could clearly see the skin-toned tasseled bra and panties that remained. The mostly male audience loved it and so did I.

As for nudity at home, nobody wants to see me running around in my meat suit folding laundry and vacuuming!  I take that back, I know one person who would.

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Tracy’s naked truth….
Nekid...well half.Let’s get Nekid! I love the naked body! I’ve skinny dipped and suntanned in private naked. I would sleep naked but what if the house caught fire and I were naked with not enough time to put on pants. I’d be running out of the house naked to young in shape handsome firemen! I am okay with the naked part as long as I could move slow but that doesn’t go with”THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE”! (have you ever googled ‘running naked’? Apparently not a fear for most!)

All joking aside, I am fine with nudity in movies but I like it better when they leave more to the imagination. I am not interested in pointless spring break style nudity. The movie ‘The Notebook’ however has every element ever needed in a nude scene. A building climax, a ridiculously handsome guy (Ryan Gosling), passion, soaking wet rain kissing and clothes ripped off. I could keep going) Yikes! I would do that scene for sure if it could be done in one take, maybe two…or three if it was reeeallly needed. I’d like to see the look on my face while watching a good nude scene actually. You know the face people make when they look like they ‘think’ they are in the scene. That’s me.

Getting Naked

I would not, however, run away from someone in bright light buck naked unless my life depended on it. Still then, I think I might first try running backwards or at least try to talk my way out of having to run. My thought process would be this.“Oh no…no, no, no your kidding right, this can’t be happening, oh shit, seriously, oh my god I hope he doesn’t have a video camera”. Admitting that would give the impression that I wasn’t happy with my booty. I am, in the right light.  Florescent tubing or bright spring sun, not doin it! Candle light, all over it! Well, the naked truth can leave one feeling vulnerable and in need of another run! Okay I’m over it. Who wants to get Naked?

Tracy

Bonnie brings up the rear….

Naked. I love naked. Especially in fresh clean sheets next to my man’s naked body. It’s a sensual sensation.  Ooooh and swimming naked in a warm ocean during a full moon is the best!

I spent enough years in Australia in my youth to feel completely comfortable being topless on the beaches…there. It’s a whole different story here in Canada however. In Australia you felt almost ridiculous as a 2o year old with a bikini top on and more than a string thong on the bottom. Back in Canada I was quick to fall back into the more modest beach attire.

I have to agree with Tracy about nudity in movies. I don’t mind seeing nudity, it doesn’t offend me, but I prefer to have my imagination tantalized.

I’ve been to a couple of nude/topless beaches in Europe and one in Hawaii. Here’s what I learned. It ain’t always pretty, but it is real. And I’m ok with that. I don’t find the human body offensive in any way. What I took away from those experiences was how people, no matter what their shape and size was, were completely ok with their own bodies. How liberating!

When I look in my full length mirror at my naked body at this stage in my life I struggle to accept the beauty of my naked body. I can easily see faults that I’d like to have improved. But you know what, I’ve thought the same way since I was a young woman! When I look back now I think “what were you worried about, you looked great”, and I’m sure I will think the same thing ten or twenty years from now when looking back at the body I wear right now.

Anyway, I promised to bring up the rear…I love a man’s naked rear! Yep, I’m a butt girl. My own rear is not my favourite ‘ass’et, but I’m sure I’ll really appreciate my 45 year old rear when I’m 65.

Bonnie

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