Life is meant to be shared ~

“I just need to find someone to share it with” is what I keep hearing from those around me. I can relate as I’m sure many of you can. Life is meant to be shared. Sharing it with friends and family is incredibly fulfilling but finding a partner to share it with intimately seems to be a quest of many. Need is maybe not the right word. I’ve struggle with this word at times. In the past I’ve associated need with weakness. “I don’t need help, I am a self-sufficient strong independent woman who can do anything.” Hearing that back doesn’t sound the least bit weak although it’s said with the intention of not wanting to appear weak. (and I can be slightly stubborn at times) There is nothing weak about wanting to share and explore the beauty of life with an intimate partner. The trick is finding the right one.

As a woman it’s hard to balance independence and strength without losing your femininity. Women naturally want their man to take care of some of their needs. Some of us even have the burning desire to be save by a man. I need to be saved from myself I think. At times I think I am only attached to this world by a thread, I often find myself floating away to my world which seems in no way a reality.

I think until you allow yourself to be vulnerable in life you don’t really experience all life has to offer. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone or needing someone in your life as long as you’re not dependent on them. That’s when obligation and expectation step in and wreck everything in one clean swoop! When you lose your independence you give away your strength. Balance is so important in life, yin & yang.

Want is perhaps not as scary as need“I just want to find someone to share it with.” I think there are life experiences we need to have that strike a cord within us that make us move to another level. And then there are life experiences we want that enrich and allow us to grow as individuals. Feeling vulnerable is not an emotion everyone is comfortable with, I’m certainly not. When you’re ready to open yourself up and be vulnerable, real passion in life begins. Passion is something in my opinion that needs to be shared. When you have real passion for what you do you can’t help but inspire those around you.

I was in the company of my parents on the weekend and their chemistry after 60 years together is still in the room. They found someone to share it with and somehow manage to keep from floating away making their passionate love a reality. It is possible. I’m looking for that someone who will feed my soul, not my ego. Who will let me float away when I need to but will reel me in from time to time to balance my fairy tale with reality.

We all want to share a part of our life with someone. It doesn’t have to be all at once, it can start with bits and pieces until it feels right to share more. It’s not a race. It’s about timing and letting go to allow your life to just be.

We as human beings like to share. Elation, can’t help but be shared. Love yearns to be shared. Desire burns if not shared. Inspiration is wasted if not shared. Music is created to share. Lust comes undone when shared. Peace wants to be shared.

Life is meant to be shared…

 


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Past-Present-Future = Now!

When will we learn to let go of our past? Now is so much more important. Why is history so important to some of us? Does it keep us in our comfort zone? I think so. Years ago a relationship I thought I’d let go of kept seeping back into my life. Just as I would forget and move on it would reappear somehow. Was it the hopeless romantic in me wanting my fairy tale ending? Was it the Universe testing me? Unresolved romance? It can be hard to let go of what was then and concentrate on what is now. Does anyone else relate to this? We can sometimes live in what was. The key is not to get ‘stuck’ in our past especially if it wasn’t a healthy one! Fortunately mine was.

No matter how good you recall a relationship was you moved on or they did for a reason…right? Or was the timing just not quite right? Do we only remember the good? Is that so bad?

I’ve learned first hand that when you focus on the past you stay in the past preventing you from seeing what’s right in front of you. When you bring the past into the present is that living in the Now? Technically maybe and that’s fine if your past was good. If you bring negative energy into the now your just recreating more negative energy.

When you look back do you feel any regret? Do we like to revisit our past from time to time to ensure we have moved on without any regret or do we slip back into what was? I have small regret but nothing on a grand scale that makes me cringe thankfully. Maybe that’s why I like to float back in time.

I love my past and maybe that’s why I have a hard time letting it go at times. I think past, present and future are all good. I think we all like to revisit our past from time to time. It can be a healthy part of our life. I certainly wouldn’t want to be stuck in my past. Being able to balance our past with the present is ideal. Holding onto elements of where we came from helps keep us grounded. Looking back on where we were tells a lot about who we are.

Life is about learning. We need life experience to have growth and unfold as human beings. As long as we move forward in life I think it’s all good. Sometimes I think it’s beneficial to step back in time if for no other reason than as a reminder of how far we’ve come. Our past is what makes us who we are in our present. Any way you look at the past-present-future they = Now. And there is no better place on earth than right here, right now ~

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Being Human ~

Happy Birthday Christopher John!

Human beings are complex creatures if you really think about it. We can love passionately one moment and feel intense pain the next. Most of us walk through life completely unaware of what our purpose is until we meet someone who inspires us to find it. These sorts of people are sprinkled throughout the world waiting to help those who are unaware. I had a synchronistic meeting with one of those wonderful human spirits just the other day and he gave me a gift that can’t even be translated into words yet, I am still processing our connection. I promise I will share more with you at a later date. 🙂

There are also those who are here to get as much as they can, they’re not fussy what they get as long as they get great quantities of it. I describe these beings as “food” because they’re just here taking up space waiting to be planted six feet under, to be fed back to earth and start again. Hopefully next time they will open their eyes and see what’s out there and the potential they have to make a difference.

We can be self absorbed, self-centred, unappreciative and wasteful. We can be driven by greed, money and materialism. Some of us live in fear without trust and step backwards more than forward. But change and awareness is on its way, for the betterment of all human beings! If we want Mother Earth to be here for generations to come we need to listen. We need to wake up to what is really important, the survival of our planet! If our planet survives so do we. We need to stop believing everything we hear and start trusting our instinct and intuition.

‘Life is about choices and consequences’ We are all capable of making choices, we make them every day. With each choice, there is a consequence, it’s that simple. With every Action there is a Reaction.

I’ve come a long way because of choices I’ve made in my life. Having children was a choice that changed my life. I believe they are here to help change the world! My life took on an entirely different meaning, my heart opened up larger than I could have ever imagined. I became aware of what I would be leaving behind for my children, a future far beyond my lifetime. If I didn’t pay attention to my choices the consequences would surely affect them as well. What I did with my life became more important. I made a conscious choice to teach my kids that life is what you make it, and every single human being on this planet is able to help make change. It’s never too late to make changes that will benefit our world and the people in it.

We are all aware of the changes being implemented in ‘Going Green’ these changes have become the norm which shows us that we can make a huge impact on our planet if we put our resources together. We have become aware, which is a start, but we need to go further than that. We need be aware of the energy of the human spirit to make the biggest difference. Each thought that enters our mind, each word that rolls off our tongue changes something or someone around us. It’s our choice if we want it to be of a positive nature.

Gini Gentry’s teachings stem from the heart of Toltec wisdom. “Don’t go against yourself”, “Don’t create circumstances that go against yourself” and “Don’t align yourself with someone who goes against you”. By doing these three things you empower your human spirit.

I just went to Gini’s facebook page and have share her status because I think its perfect!

“To reclaim our authentic nature, we need great clarity and awareness to accurately observe our lives. Once we do that, we can begin to dismantle the beliefs that obstruct being in truth and living from the heart. We step away from our impeccability when we deny that we are the source of love we are seeking and don’t speak and act from this truth.” Gini Gentry

“Our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made” Wayne Dyer

I am being human, I am making choices that don’t go against myself…are you?

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