Happiness…is a Vibe Away ~

Bonnie shared Mr Happy Man, Johnny Barnes with us on Sunday, I continued the theme on Monday with The Science of Happiness not having read her post yet and so today I couldn’t resist keeping the Happiness Vibe going…(insert cheeky grin here) 😉

I had a great giggle with some girls at work a couple of weeks ago. (yes I have a real job) They came into the Cosmetic Department giggling while they put what they were purchasing down on the counter. It was a We-Vibe vibrator. I had never seen one like this before, and certainly didn’t think where I worked sold them! Eyes wide open I curiously asked “Really…is this what I think it is?” They replied in unison “I KNOW we couldn’t believe you sold them here!” The Cosmetics Department is slightly more private than the front of the store so I understood why they came to me, but they still caught me off guard, yes me! We all stood giggling and read the box together. My female manager told me we couldn’t keep them on the shelf! “No wonder I said have you seen it?…it has a remote control!” I’m just waiting for the day the young stock boy puts it down the toy isle!

A-p-p-a-r-e-n-t-l-y…58% of people have bought a ‘sex-aid’ of some kind. I thought that number was low, the survey was that of our American neighbour.

A couple of days later another woman bought the male and female version for a wedding gift. All I could think about was the look on the Bride and Grooms face when they opened their gifts in front of their families! Bride:“YES!” Groom:“What is it?” (she confessed she didn’t know them that well which made me like her even more.“Wanna come to a wedding?” almost came out of my mouth…and then I remembered I was at work! I was surfing the net looking for a photo for another post and funny enough the We-Vibe came up yet again! A sign, right? That’s what I thought too! I added the link Bon, happiness is just a click away! (not all of us have a Johnny!) I couldn’t resist following the link for research *cough* and it took me to Dr Oz’s website and low and behold he was talking about it too!

Dr Oz had his Top 3 Bedroom Boosters, Part 1 & Part 2 that included:

  • Liberator Wedge Pillow for those who suffer from back pain so severe it distracts and prevents them from being intimate with their partner. Pillows would also do the trick!
  • We-Vibe Vibrator which is a g-spot stimulater that enhances both the male and female experience while doing the deed. Go on click on the link, the page is safe! You know you want to!
  • Maca Root Powder increases the libido and sex drive in both men and women. When women approach menopause their libido sadly fades as does the libido of men once they reach the sexy age of 50. (Not all but some) Oddly enough I take Maca Root but didn’t know it increased your libido, no wonder! I thought I was taking it for my hormones…win/win! Ya gotta love the Incan’s for figuring this one out! I’ve always wanted to explore Peru! My girlfriend told me she took it for hot-flashes (nice try Sand)

There are obviously more bedroom boosters than the three mentioned here. Living a healthy lifestyle that includes eating right, exercise and finding happiness in the moment your in is a great start! Being Happy sends out a vibe like no other! Anyone care to share a bedroom booster with us?

Happy Hump Day Everyone!

Happiness…;)

 

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Is Fidelity Obsolete?

I was reading Women’s Health and came across an article by Meghan Rabbitt questioning whether fidelity is becoming obsolete. I cracked up at the picture that was attached to it of a bride standing alone on her wedding cake, on her phone, groom hanging from a helicopter trying desperately to get away…it read “To have and hold from this day forward…or until someone hotter comes along.”

Everyone has the right to change their minds I suppose, and better before you tie the knot than after, when it just keeps getting more complicated as time goes by. What’s not so funny is the stats about cheating.

40% of people who do cheat do so with a friend.

35% cheated with a co-worker.

23% of men cheated with someone they met in a bar. Alcohol and or drugs have always been an excuse for why men and women loses their inhibitions and acts inappropriately while under the influence. I’ve always believed those who use alcohol or drugs as their excuse had it in them before their lips even touched the glass or reefer. When the effects wear off, they sober up and need to blame something for their actions, because they weren’t honest with themselves to begin with. I say do what you want without the drug of choice and take precautions. Just be honest about what you’re doing! Don’t sugar coat it and keep it real!

22% of women cheated with an ex-boyfriend. I understand why this would appeal to some, familiarity and comfort of knowing this person. But I personally am not a big fan of friends with benefits, so for me when its over, its over.

I think cheating is the way out in most cases, not always a mistake though. You wouldn’t be even considering cheating if you were happy in your marriage or relationship in the first place. And if your not happy why not move forward to find happiness! Most men and women don’t move forward because of fear. They don’t want to gamble and be alone, or take the chance of not meeting someone who is better suited to them than the previous one. Does that really matter if you’re not happy in the first place. At least if your alone you are doing what you like and not compromising who you are for someone you’re not 100% happy with. Being a romantic I wouldn’t want to compromise this part of my existence.

I understand that for most men and women it’s not as easy as it sounds, because of children, property, commitments and vows but ultimately we all want to be happy and if you’re not, change and compromise can be made to get you in the right direction. Infidelity is not the answer. I don’t agree with staying together unless you’re still passionate with your partner. Having said that not everyone needs passion or love to make their world go round! Love and passion need to be present for me to want to continue a relationship. If love and passion are not reciprocated then there is no point in continuing down a path of mediocrity. I understand passion gets lost in our day to day lives but there needs to be a spark that both are willing to work at igniting together for love and passion to not get lost. If somewhere down the road the flame goes out, move forward and remain friends so you avoid infidelity and avoid being a statistic. Be true to yourself.

Did you know that the average ‘romp’ lasts 3 to 7 minutes, yet both male and female desire 13 minutes. If we can’t put at most 13 minutes away for our partner, no wonder the stats I quoted earlier are so high! You can also look at this stat as, if you are really just looking for a 7 minute romp, is it really worth ending what you do have with your spouse for that, probably not.

Here are a few tips I found online to help prevent yourself from becoming part of a growing statistic ~

1. Be each other’s number one confidant. You shouldn’t be sharing private thoughts with others that you’re not sharing with your mate.
2. Make time to connect on a regular basis. Daily moments of connection help you build a sense of togetherness and shared purpose.
3. Don’t let family time squeeze out just-the-two-of-you time. Relationships that are too child-centered are at high risk for an affair.
4. Recognize when you’re temporarily attracted to someone else. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your relationship — or that you have to act on it.
5. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your relationship. If you’re ever tempted and don’t feel like you can tell your mate, you’ll have someone else to confide in who will steer you straight. And if one of you does stray, you’ll have a strong support network to help you put your relationship back together.

Every relationship is unique and needs work, I know mine is very unorthodox but it works. I have been able to move on and keep my best friend without having become a statistic because of honesty and hard work on both sides. My advice to not becoming a statistic is be honest no matter how hard it can sometimes be, have good intention, stay in the room and lose your ego. Don’t sweat the small stuff and accept your partner’s flaws and they will accept yours. If you can do that you will ‘at least’ have a best friend in what was your partner or spouse!

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