Giving is so simple!

This time of year seems to bring out the best in some people and the worst in others. The holidays are just around the corner and for some that equals stress.

Giving the basics to those in need doesn’t have to cost a great deal. It can simply be about giving time. I understand that we are all very busy in our own lives which doesn’t leave us much time to give away but any amount of giving is better than not giving at all. People spread themselves and their families so thin with their own schedule they barely have time to do anything for others. Like anything else you do in life, when it becomes part of your regular routine it simply fits in.

The holidays should not be about materialistic stuff that in no way makes us better human beings. Most of us clearly have way too much stuff. Our kids are living in a time where they don’t understand doing without. That’s where we are parents can help make them aware of those who do. There are human beings who are surviving on not much more than the cloths on their backs, invisible to society yet standing right before our eyes.

Last year my family gave Tim Hortons coffee cards to the homeless which provided them with a warm meal when they needed it. Our kids need to be shown how fortunate they are and that they need far less than what they have. It worries me that my kids generation thinks its normal to have an iPhone at 13. In most cases both parents work so it’s guilt that gives not values. No one waits for anything anymore, they’re the NOW generation. I want it now! Kids drive around in expensive SUV’s with their parents oblivious to who is barely surviving in their own community. It doesn’t even register to them that the homeless person they see every single day is lucky if they have two warm meals. It’s our responsibility to teach them how to help.

Collecting warm clothing and blankets to hand out to those living in your community is always appreciated at this time of year. Filling wool socks with basic items of need such as gloves, a toque, toiletries and candy is another way of helping out in your community to those less fortunate. There are a number of great organizations that you can get involved with or be creative and find your own way to help out. Giving feels good, I promise you what you get back in return in far greater than what you gave.

Life should consist of both give and take. Each of us should be accountable to ourselves on how often we do both. Sometimes it’s very apparent that there are those who give and those who take…which are you? Giving in order to get is doing for the wrong reason. Giving because you can is a good start.

When was the last time you reciprocated a kind gesture, helped out someone in need. It’s the simple gestures that really mean something to others. Just yesterday I looked out my window to see my neighbour lifting my basketball hoop back up and clearing my driveway of all the debris that blew onto it from the wind storm. Another male friend of mine offered to drive me into town to a meeting I needed to go to today because I had been feeling dizzy lately, on his day off! 🙂 Just two examples of thoughtfulness that I experienced in the last two days. The Act of Kindness goes a long way.

Find a way to involve your family in giving and see what a difference it makes! If you have a creative way to give, share it with us.

Giving is so simple!

THE FOOD BANK

THE SALVATION ARMY 

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Friendship…to the Tenth Degree!

Bonnie’s post Confessions of a Killer, her being the killer, made me laugh and think about our friendship. Since Bonnie selected the word Friendship when she created this months header I thought I would relate at least one post this month to just that…Friendship! (beautiful header by the way Bon) My Red Flags post will have to wait until next Wednesday! 🙂

Bonnie’s post reminded me that I know EVERYTHING about her. The flip side of that, she knows EVERYTHING about me. There are no secrets! I react to spiders like Bonnie reacts to cockroaches. I’ve said to her son James that if he ever does something questionable and gets the stink eye for it, I would tell him a story or two about what she did that I am sure would equal what he might have done. Yes, he’s a boy and boys usually take things a step further but I can recall a time or two when Bonnie behaved like a boy! (giggle) This is where is gets tricky, I was probably with her when she did, doing the same thing, with a huge smile on my face to boot! We’ve lead one another astray on many occasions in our friendship! *wink*

I understand the cockroach fear and think I may have been the reason it became embedded into her psyche. Back in ’83, we lived in Australia for 6 months, it was 4o+ degrees 80% humidity. We had to sleep with all the window closed because there were no screens. The cockroaches in Australia can be 3-4 inches long. There were so many skittering on the street late at night it was hard to avoid stepping on them. They made a crunch sound if you did which still makes my skin crawl just thinking about it. Somehow they entered our room even though we shoved towels under the doors, we woke up in a sweat every morning because of it!

One day Bonnie entered the room and she had the Grand-daddy of all roaches on her chest, the look on my face said it all and she reacted by running at me screaming “GET IT OFF GET IT OFF!” At the time she thought it was a Huntsman spider which were the size of your hand splayed out! I freaked out and ran away from her screaming and locked myself in the bathroom letting her fend for herself…she banged on the door for quite awhile! lol I am still sorry about that, but can’t help but giggle at the thought of the look on her face!

This post is about friendship…no really! It’s about give and take. And forgiveness! Mostly forgiveness! And Karma, we can’t forget Karma, it can apparently follow you for 20 years or more! I agree that might not have been a best friend kind of thing to do, but you need to know that I’ve never told any of Bonnie’s secrets. And I have a brain full of them!

Each year we visit Bonnie and John and before I arrive Bonnie sprays the cottage we stay in with spider spray so I can sleep at night! My Karma finally arrived, 20 years later. We went out on the boat and no exaggeration a million spiders came climbing over the edge of the boat to MY seat like it was a James Bond Movie Trailer. If you listened closely I think you could actually hear the theme song playing in the background! I think they were all packing heat if my memory serves me right! Bonnie didn’t jump over board like I almost did, she stepped TOWARDS me and helped swat them off while I literally freaked out jumping up and down like I was being electrocuted. They were climbing up my legs and I could feel them in my hair, and we all know I have a head of hair you don’t want to lose a spider in! She mention later she wished she had video taped the episode so she could post it on YouTube. The perrrfect friend in my eyes! The next night on the doc watching shooting stars and comets, you could only see my eyes and nose through my draw string hoodie, she was in flip flops without a care in the world…my hero! She told me I was missing a life experience because of my fear. Yep!

Friendship is about making sure you’re with your best friend when they do something questionable so that when you do something questionable they have no choice but keep your secret! And if you can still be friends after 35 years, you don’t have to worry about who did more questionable things, because you can’t remember. Sweeeet!

All joking aside, each year I am grateful for the time I get to spend with Bonnie, the confessed killer of small helpless things. I watch and learn and somehow magically or through osmosis her strength rubs off on me making me feel empowered. She is one of the most incredible women I have had the pleasure of knowing. She loves unconditionally, without judgement. She is one of a kind and I love her for who she was and who she has become. She has taught me so much about life and love, neither of which would be the same without her. Just the thought of her makes me smile…and then giggle!

I promise if at any point in the future a cockroach skitters anywhere on or near your body I will step TOWARDS you and start swatting! Love you Bon! xo

This is classic stink eye for those of you who are not familiar with the term. (you gotta love photo booth on Mac)

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