Rachael Chatoor…”Imagine” A Tribute to John Lennon

I met the beautiful Rachael Chatoor on Facebook. Her music inspires me. Her voice is simply gorgeous! I admire musicians as you all know but Rachael is more than a musician, she is a singer, songwriter, artist, mom, inspirational girlfriend and the list goes on! As you will see she is also gorgeous inside and out! Today I wanted to share with you the talent of Rachael as my musical interlude…

Imagine ~ Tribute to John Lennon. 


Performers:
Vocal : Rachel Chatoor.
Backup Vocal : Lai and Rachel.
Ukulele : Lai.

Electric Guitar : Lai and Mary.
Acoustic Guitar : Tim ( Wirzardeal).
Piano : Ben ( dbiribd ).
Drum Program : Lai.
Bass : Lai.
Video&Audio Editing : Lai.How it’s made :
“I sent my backing track to all artists to use to sync our tempo and timing, they all perform their acapella video( backing track was not heard when they film themself) and they sent me their video’s finally I put them together.
Video and Audio fx were used of course” ~ Rachael
Here are a few links so you can keep in touch with the Beautiful Rachael~
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My Secret Admirer

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We were both only ten years old, but already she had a deep understanding of human emotion.  She must have caught the pain in my eyes or maybe she saw me look away too quickly when they held hands.  Whatever it was, she understood how I felt. Perhaps she understood so well because she had felt the same way.  The fact is she knew I was hurt that the boy I had a crush on passed me by in favour of another and that all the cute boys we knew were pretty much ignoring me.  She saw it and she understood my insecurity.

We all used to hang out together in the neighbourhood, ride bikes and build forts, that sort of thing.  I don’t remember who started it, but somebody asked somebody if they wanted to “go out” and then suddenly everyone was pairing up; everyone except me. “Going out” in those days didn’t actually mean you went anywhere with each other or did anything together.  You might hold hands for a minute or two but that was about it.

It was a popularity thing and because no one had asked me to be their girlfriend my self esteem was plummeting.  I felt pretty devastated.  She recognized all of this.  She was my friend and she didn’t like to see me sad so she came up with a plan to make me feel good again.  Looking back I have to admit it was pretty clever for a ten year old. One day at school I found a note folded in my desk.  It said:

Dear Bonnie,

You are pretty.

Your Secret Admirer

My heart beat faster. I looked around the classroom breathlessly trying to guess which boy had left me the note.  I could hardly wait to tell my girl friends about it when we walked home after school. We all poured over the note trying to get clues from the handwriting and took turns guessing who it could be. She eagerly offered her guesses too. I could barely sleep at night wondering who my mystery admirer was. A week later I found another note:

Dear Bonnie,

I really like you.

Your Secret Admirer

I was bursting with anticipation.  Who could this boy be?  My friends were all asking around but coming up with nothing. The pressure at school was building.  We were all talking about it but not getting any closer to the truth.

Then one day one she told me she knew who the secret admirer was.  She confessed that it had been her all along.  She explained that she only did it to make me feel special and popular and that she saw how hurt I had been when nobody asked me to “go out”.  She said she didn’t mean for it to get so out of hand and she was really sorry for starting the whole thing.  She begged me not to be mad at her, but I was.  I wouldn’t speak to her for a couple of weeks.  Not only did I feel like an idiot for believing in the notes but now I really knew for sure that no boy liked me.  I was too young to understand how kind her actions really were.  I needed time to cool off.  About the time I started speaking to her again a boy did ask me out.  I was a “girlfriend” finally, and the best part was I didn’t have to touch him or even talk to him if I didn’t want to –  and I didn’t . (How things would change.)  Needless to say it didn’t last very long or mean very much in the big picture of my “relationship” history.

She was at our 30 year high school reunion.  As soon as I saw her I rushed to put my arms around her and told her how pleased I was to see her again.  It was long over due but I wanted to thank her for the kindness she showed me when I was an awkward gangly ten year old with low self esteem. I was grateful for the opportunity to tell her how I now understood just how kind and thoughtful she had been and I will never forget her for it.

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Actions Speak Louder than Words ~

Sometimes you just have a feeling about someone and before you know it you’re sharing stories and a coffee with them. There is an immediate connection. When this happens so naturally it’s meant to be. I connected with a friend from Facebook this week who I had never met in person. I have known both of her brothers for 20 years. I mentioned we should meet for coffee and within a week we did. Lots of times words are put out there but they never go further than words. Rhonda and I spent a couple of hours talking about life and love. We’ve had similar experiences over the years so we could relate to one another very easily. We both agreed that Actions in life speak louder than Words.

I am a woman who loves words. I’ve been caught up in them on many occasions; in writing and romance. Words spoken from the lips of the right man can be captivating. We all crave words. When the actions of those words are not present the meaning disappears. ‘Actions speak louder than word’ is as basic as ‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’. Words followed by the appropriate action or intent of the words is the ultimate combination!

When there is truth in words spoken actions naturally follow. Everything falls into place with no effort. Its like floating down a river with no paddle. The path of least resistance is chosen for us. It just feels right even if you can’t explain it. When you look back you can connect the dots of what got you there, ultimately it was because someone took action.

Words come from the surface of who you are or who you think you are. Actions come from being authentic with good intention. Conviction is the true test of whether or not your words match who you believe yourself to be. I think too many people release words without having thought about what the impact will be. Others articulate to manipulate. It’s the only way they feel they can get what they want.

When words are spoken purely to stroke ones ego they mean nothing. Ego can transform any word into meaningless jargon. If ones actions don’t eventually match their words we naturally start to lose interest. We all have our limit to how long we are willing to wait to see if any action will be taken. Word without meaning are simply random letters grouped together without purpose.

I am not saying you can’t change your mind once spoken words that come from the heart, it’s your prerogative. I am saying that when actions don’t natually follow words, perhaps those words should have been thought about more deeply before they are spoken.

Action is eloquence.  ~William Shakespeare

All know the way; few actually walk it.  ~Bodhidharma

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Should you tell your girlfriend she’s…?

Bonnie’s Take…

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You’re in your early twenties and your best girlfriend and you have just met a couple of gorgeous guys.  It is obvious that you both want to make a great impression.  One of you has a leftover black bean from an earlier stir fry stuck to her front tooth.  Well, if you are my dear friend, you think it is waaaay funnier to “not” say anything.  After some giggles that confuse me, she did finally let me in on the joke.  Sigh.  I still feel my cheeks burn when I think of it, but I have to admit it was funny.  So, in my opinion, yes!!, please tell her if she has food in her teeth.  Same goes for too much makeup, toilet paper stuck to her shoe, the list goes on.  If  you are very close and really care for your friend then yes, tell her you think her boyfriend is not good enough for her.  Just be prepared for her not to listen to your advise until she’s darn well ready to.

However, this also depends on how close you are with your girlfriend.  I know that I can safely give my closest friends an honest opinion as long as I approach the subject with their best interests at heart.  You may have to weigh in whether your advise could be hurtful rather than helpful.  My intention would never be to hurt anyone’s feelings.  Just be kind to each other and keep your sense of humour.

Bonnie

Jacquie’s 2 cents…

My feeling on the subject is a little bit different than yours, Bonnie, though I agree in principle with what you’re saying.   Maybe it’s my own insecurities but I have a really hard time telling someone else that they should do something differently because I know I don’t take critiques very well.  I’ll be less cryptic.  I’ve been told a couple of times in the recent past that I looked tired.  What the …!   I then feel like I have to justify why I might not be looking my best and it makes me self conscious and I get defensive.

Don’t EVER tell a friend she’s looking tired!  Tired is a nasty word and has all sorts of connotations like worn out, old, deflated, colorless, can’t handle your life, stressed out.  The reality is I’m staying up late every night to pick up my daughter from work or I’m writing or doing some painting.  If the end result is that I look less vibrant for my friends the next day I don’t want one of them bringing it to my attention.  I want to feel safe with my friends and believe that how I look isn’t a concern of theirs (unless flames spontaneous erupt from my orifices.  Then tell me).   If I start to look like I’m smuggling bags of bark mulch under my clothes I don’t want my friends telling me I need to start exercising or watching what I eat.  You can bet I’m probably aware of the extra few pounds and won’t appreciate a reminder.

I do think there are plenty of ways to let a friend know she could be doing something differently or better but you have to be finely tuned in to your female powers of intuition to know when the right moment is to bring something up.  I have a friend who for years wore her make up too boldly.   So often I wanted to say “do you mind if I show you how to apply your blush?”  (I used to teach make up artistry so I felt I had some expertise in that area)  but someone else finally mentioned it in a nice, matter o’ fact way and it was no big deal.  I did learn from this that most women WANT input from a trusted friend.  Maybe it was the way I was raised, but for me I have a hard time accepting ‘helpful’ advice so I prefer not to give it unless asked directly.  Live and let live.

I know you’re waiting to jump in here so I’ll pass this on to you, T.

jacquie

Tracy weighs in…

First off,  is there a reason that I am the ‘weighs in’ title this week?  I am still giggling  at both your posts. Two great views!

Note to self, tell Bonnie (from now on) when she has food in her teeth.  It’s not a game to try to figure out who will step up in the crowd to say something.  And Jacquie,  you have NEVER looked tired to me!  I love that both of you have such a great sense of humor and also have the confidence to speak up when you might feel sensitive about something.  I think there is a line,  and although I love to cross that line,  here is where I don’t.  When it comes to telling your friend something, I agree that it should be weighed if you are going to hurt any feelings ( there is nothing worse than hurting a friend’s feelings).  I think a friend tucks in the tag of your shirt, fixes your hair, wipes your face of the unknown, but when it comes to things that you can’t change with a simple wipe or tuck, then I think you should be very careful with how you choose your words of advice.

I still laugh when I think back at Jacquie taking my picture in Cabo, laying by the pool in my bikini, when she said “you’re not going to like that one!”  The southern accent she used really helped!

Bonnie will tell me she really likes a certain picture of me.  It’s a nice way of giving her opinion without choosing the opposite  “I don’t like that one”.  If a friend asks me for my advice directly then yes,  I do give them my honest opinion but still choose my words carefully.  I personally would tell my friend something of the more serious nature, like a boyfriend cheating, before I would tell them their ass looks fat in those pants.  Friends come in all different sizes, styles, with makeup, without makeup and I think you should just embrace them for who they are.  After all, it’s just your opinion of how they should be.

Tracy

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Old Souls

As soon as you look into their eyes, it’s obvious that some souls have been here before.  I met an old soul about 14 years ago when she was only 7.  She always had something unique to say.  She was a typical 7 year old on the outside but inside this little girl was someone I sensed had a great deal of knowledge.  I met her for a reason and knew it right from the very first moment.Kels

Quite often we would come home and find notes on our door with suckers taped to them.  She knew it would make us smile.  The suckers were the 7 year old coming out, but the words, printed perfectly in the note, were not those of child.  She was aware.

Our friendship grew over the years as did she.  She became busy with school and I with a new baby.  I thought of her often.  I would sit and imagine what she would be like as a teen or in her twenties.  I finally saw her at 16.  She was the same little girl just in a bigger body.  She was already an old soul so she was only able to change physically to me.

We had a chance meeting years later at a coffee shop where she worked.  We had eye contact that day but I was distracted after arriving very late for a coffee date with some friends.  She was too nervous to say anything because so much time had passed by.

We eventually found one another again.  It was very emotional.  I had a connection with this old soul that I could not explain.  She felt the same.  We wrote emails back and forth for weeks, each one bringing a tear to my eyes.  This little girl was now a young woman who knew exactly who she was from deep inside her heart.  I realized I had to look at her as an individual with no age attached.  It was hard at first, me being twice her age.  I was confused about the role of my friendship.  Was it a mother daughter friendship or a girlfriend?  7 years old at heart

She met both my kids and they instantly fell in love with her!  How could they not, she was still a 7 year old at heart, but had the wisdom of a fully evolved human being.  She recently sent me an email, and coming from a 23 year old it has to make you wonder if there are angels here on earth….

Quote:

“It has taken me a very long time to learn that people are always going to forget what I say, in fact, they will even forget what I do, but something they will never forget is how I made them feel.  I have grown to realize that my strength in helping others doesn’t come from the things I say or do, but rather from creating a feeling inside their hearts that will be forever lasting.  I said things to you today that you might never remember, I did things today that perhaps you have already forgotten, but if I caused a feeling in your heart that was unforgettable then I have done what I needed to do…….A simple hug can mean so much more then just an embrace between two bodies.  Today, mine was meant to allow my soul the chance to greet yours….our souls will forever be friends.’   KelseyKelsey

I believe you meet people for a reason.  Their age means nothing.  You connect for many different reasons on many different levels.  Each one should be embraced.  This friendship has changed not only my life, but my family’s life.  There is a circle of friendship here that was meant to be. I am forever grateful for this old soul in joining my family.

.Tracy

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