Young Man, Older Woman ~

If I’m writing about it I must be living it…right? Not always true but I will admit there is always some truth in what I write. I’ve been known to stir a few pots in my time. Sooooo, keeping all that in mind lets get into it.

Ladies, has it ever been a fantasy of yours to be with a much younger man? Many woman dream of this scenario, as do many young men so I’ve been told. If the two can find one another I imagine it could be quite the encounter.

I look at the whole male energy not just the age. I decided a couple of years ago I was going to experience those who came into my life for who they are, however long they decide to stay regardless of age. I have no expectations of what anything should or should not be in regard to relationships. I refuse to slot anyone because of their age, young or older. Basically, I have no plan.

It’s really all about what your intention is. I have girlfriends who are completely turned on by the younger male energy and those who are equally turned on by the older male energy. Age is just a number and is a general guide as to where someone is in life. There is always an exception to every rule.

I’ve met quite a few younger men over the last couple of years, not sure why but I suppose it could be my age, or simply the energy I put out or just the fact that I’m a flirt. It’s the look behind a mans eyes that initially draws me to him not his age. Not all younger guys are just looking for a quick romp with a more experienced woman. I think the younger men who are not just looking for the older woman fantasy are attracted to a womans attitude and confidence not their age. Younger woman in general don’t seem to be as secure in their own skin which is a shame. I remember feeling like that in my 20’s. I am much more comfortable in the skin I’m in now. Older women generally know what they like, who they are, where they are going and are not afraid to enjoy life and EAT!

A couple of weeks ago I went to a local pub with two girlfriends Sandi and Tannia. There just so happened to be a 10 year grad-reunion taking place that night, ya I know, couldn’t have planned that better…I mean how annoying is that! lol The pub was FULL of 28 year olds, and this post was in the draft file. I had to go in…for research! We walked in the door and said “Crap, a bunch of young hot flirty guys, we really should go somewhere else!” We tried to leave but we got all disoriented and couldn’t find the way out…”look something shiny.” There may have been girls there too I can’t remember. You could have called it a cougar buffet. (not that any of us are) Nothing wrong with some good clean fun at the pub, if you’re into that sort of thing. On a serious note we met a few really great guys who entertained us with their wit and charm and have become friends.

I will also go on record right now with saying it has never been a fantasy of mine to be with a much younger man. I have girlfriends who are 25 and 65 and see no reason why I can’t hang out with a young guy who is athletic authentic. No harm no foul! I like being called dude, it’s kinda cute. I do prefer the sound of a low sexy male voice calling me babe, but that’s just me. 🙂

So to conclude this post I will say for me, personally it’s about the guy, not his age. Age for me has absolutely nothing to do with who I chose to spend my time with intimately or otherwise…so if you see me out with a young guy whose half my age plus 7 or a ridiculously handsome sexy older man (wayyyy more likely), you will know without a doubt he has intrigued me with more than his birth year! It’s simply not every older woman’s fantasy to be with a much younger man. Not that theres anything wrong with it! My advice…if you have to hide something you’re doing you probably shouldn’t be doing him it!





A Day in the Life of….?

Lets start with a  HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to all the wonderful Moms doing what I think is one of the hardest jobs out there!  Have a Great day and I hope you all receive something wonderfully homemade.  Those are my favorite gifts without a doubt !

Okay Ladies if you could live a day in the life of a career of your choosing, what would you pick.  You would have complete knowledge of your chosen career for 24 hours.

Tracy’s take~

I was torn between two.  It was either a Lawyer in a high profile case on the day I was to plead my case to the jury, or a Trauma Doctor in the ER on a day the ER was full.

Armand Dorian "Trauma Doctor"I will go with a Trauma Doctor in the ER because I would have the skill and ability to save lives.  I think it would be incredible to have the knowledge of a Trauma Surgeon.  I love real life in the ER shows.  It shows what these amazing people do on a daily basis.  The adrenaline must be incredible when you are faced with several lives needing to be saved at the same time.  To have the calmness and make decisions confidently with moments to spare would be a skill I would love to have.  To be right in the thick of a busy ER going from patient to patient, having to assess each one quickly and correctly would be so challenging.  I have always had an interest in First Aid and have taken courses, but to do what these Doctors and Nurses do is so far beyond all of us I would love to be in their shoes for just one day.  I think being a Trauma Nurse or Doctor would be one of the most rewarding and satisfying careers one could have.  I understand that there is a very dark side to this profession but these individuals know this going in and STILL continue the journey because they feel so passionately about saving lives.  I know a couple of ladies Jill and Michelle who work at BC Children’s Hospital in emergency and they to me are incredible human beings who I admire so much for their contribution to helping save children’s lives.  Nurses and Doctors are a different breed.  I admire both.

Bonnie’s 2 cent’s~

Ok, don’t laugh, but I would definitely choose to be a rock star.  I don’t think I’d be hard rock.   I’d like to be a bit Sheryl Crow/Sarah McLachlin/Alicia Keys/KT Tunstall/Carrie Underwood/(I could go on and on) all rolled into one!  In this fantasy I would have great range and could basically pull off any song you asked me to perform.  Plus I could play a number of instruments; guitar, piano, flute, saxophone, drums even.  Ooooo, and when I dance on stage I can move like Shakira.

Music makes me feel so good.   Belting out a song I love and then actually  have people want to pay me large amounts of money to hear me perform it…well, it just couldn’t get any better than that!  I wouldn’t be saving peoples lives like Tracy.  Nothing that lofty, but inspiring people through music is kind of

Jacquie’s thoughts~

This one’s a no-brainer for me.  In fact, I mentioned it to Tracy a few weeks ago so I’m really not trying to copycat you, Bonnie!

I had a dream that started when I was 18 that I was lead singer for the 70’s/80’s  group Chicago for a one-night only performance in Paris.  No kidding.   Stand aside, Peter Cetera.   I had been rudely dumped by a Parisian boyfriend when I was over there (this is the true part of the story) and I thought it would be such sweet revenge to come back to the city of love and show the jerk what an amazing success I had made of my life.  Ha ha!  I had been a huge fan of Chicago and knew the lyrics to all of their songs so I really thought I could pull it off.   Other than that I’ve never had any interest in being a musical performer.

Yeah….I’d definitely go for the 24 hour Paris gig even now.    There’s no statute of limitations on payback.  ; )


The Bachelor ~ Cut the guy some slack!

I went to bed really late last night and I will admit I look really tired this morning.  So if you’re in my circle of friends …zip it !  I started to panic at around 1 o’clock in the morning.  All I could think about was Jacquie’s post on how horrible is it to hear your friends say you look tired.

I get obsessed with our website and time just disappears right in front of my eyes.  Even while writing this post I casually looked down at the clock on my computer screen and realized it was 12:06 pm.  Lunch had started at school and both my kids didn’t have one.  Well, it’s not like either of them have ever missed a meal.  Bad Mommy!

So while you’re reading this keep in mind I’ve had very little sleep, a lot of caffeine and I’m admitting I want to live in a fairy tale or fantasy world which involves love, romance and happy endings!
Now onto the Bachelor!  Most women this morning think Jason (the bachelor) is just a jerk, to put it mildly!  I have to say I‘m not really with you on that one.  This is the way I see it.

Jason Mesnick 'The Bachelor'When Jason first went through this process everyone LOVED the guy.  He was a charismatic, handsome, well built single Dad looking for love.  He had his heart broken by DeAnna Pappas( blink blink, inside joke) who came back to the show for one reason and one reason only.  Ratings!!  I do think this year’s group of gals was the best so far in the history of the show.  Having the addition of a child really changed the dynamic of the show and the kind of girls who signed up.
Jason came back and put his heart right back on his sleeve.  He had hope that the second time around would find him love and a family for himself and Ty.  Is that really so bad?  Maybe he just got caught up in it and for a brief moment in time he felt like his life was going in the right direction.

I am not saying it wasn’t awful to watch Molly have her heart broken but come on.  Molly, along with 25 other women, signed up for the show knowing very well what their odds were of finding love.

I will admit that bringing Melissa and Jason back to have Jason break up with her on National Television was somewhat like watching a car wreck.  But did I tune out?  Did you?  Not a chance.  I knew there had to be a twist as we all saw the trailer for the show and wondered for weeks why there was no audience at the end.

I think Melissa is a very aware young woman.  She’ll bounce back and connect the dots one day.  For a time she’ll question herself and wonder what she did wrong and have her pity me moment.  But then she’ll wake up and see that it had absolutely  nothing to do with her as a person.  Melissa’s beautiful, strong, confident and is not afraid to open her heart.  She’ll find love because she is continually putting herself out there.  And hey, there’s always that chance of being the next  bachelorette.  Who wouldn’t sign up for that.  I’d do it just for the kissing.  I know I wouldn’t find love entering into it so it would just be a huge kiss fest for me.Yikes!

You have to give the guy some credit for his courage to come back on the show, knowing that most women will judge him and take the side of the jilted heart.  But we have to stop placing blame on people.  I don’t believe for one moment that Jason entered into this show with the pure intention of hurting all those girls feelings.  You have to keep in mind that everyone is just trying to find a safe place to be and share it with someone they love.  As much as you’d like to place blame on Jason, until you’ve been in his position you simple can’t judge!

I admire Jason for being honest and not leaving it too long.  Should he have just kept trying with Melissa if his heart was with Molly?  There’s no guarantee they will be together in the future either but at least he is being true to himself.

When I was younger I ended an engagement with a guy I thought I was in love with for that very reason!  I was at least honest enough to admit I shouldn’t get married to someone when my heart was elsewhere.  I still wonder what would have been after 25 years.  I wouldn’t go back and change a single thing but I do wonder.  When you have chemistry that can’t be denied it doesn’t go away.  Molly and Jason might be the next Trista & Ryan, have a family and live happily ever after.

Everything in life happens for a reason.  You just have to be honest and true to yourself.  No one should ever fault you for that.  For those of you who still can’t get past the fact that the show went this route,  keep this in mind;  it’s a reality show that is edited the way that will give the television network the best ratings.  I don’t want to pop any bubbles here but it is possible that Jason did pick Molly right from the start.  Completely scripted for the benefit of ratings.  Give that a swirl for awhile.  Keep-a-Breast Foundation Keep-a-Breast Foundation

PS I did take my kids lunch by the way!

Update added to The Little Suitcase by Andrea Azevedo !! She won the contest!  Thank you to everyone who read and downloaded her book through Tara Cronica.  That right there is a perfect example of why we started this site !!