It’s Your Choice…if you can make it.

I was talking to a male friend of mine the other night about a number of different topics and something he said stayed with me. “Failure for me is not an option”. He doesn’t see anything ending in failure. He doesn’t allow himself to even go there visually. What a great attitude to have. There is no point in starting anything if you already see yourself failing at it. A positive attitude and hard work ethic is the key to success in life as far as I am concerned.

What ever you set out in life to do there will always be someone who is better. Not being the best doesn’t mean you failed. Just doing it is a part of succeeding. If you want to be the best you have to put in more than everyone else. Athletes are the perfect example of those who naturally visualize being the best. Competitive by nature they are born with the drive to win. We can all learn from those who are the best at what they do. It takes a lot of hard work and perseverance to achieve that title. If at first you do not succeed…try try again!

If what you are doing makes you unhappy each day at some point don’t you ask yourself why you’re doing it? Doesn’t it makes sense to create change instead of just going through the motions! It’s not always easy but nothing really worth while ever is. Sometimes baby steps are all we need to push us in the right direction.

There are also those who don’t need or strive to be the best. They enjoy their life regardless of what they do or where they fit in. It’s not always easy to reach for your goals or dreams. Sometimes life, responsibilities and obligations get in between our dreams and reality. As long as you wake up each day loving life, giving back and being a positive influence you are inspiring those around you. Have you ever met someone who makes you want to be a better person, that’s what I’m talking about. We all have our role in life and as long as whatever you do you do your personal best we all benefit in a positive way. I’ve tried to teach both my kids that it’s not what you do that matters as much as how well you do it. “If you can’t be good, be good at it” has come out of my mouth on more than one occasion. Attitude, hard work, enthusiasm and passion can change everything. And don’t forget to smile, they’re contagious! 🙂

We make choices every single day. Some we need to think about in great depth and some feel right as soon as the thought crosses our mind. In the end a choice is made in order to move forward. Choices are part of life. We can choose to work towards a goal or dreams or we can let our life unfold in front of us making choices along the way. Sometimes it is not us who makes the choice that changes our direction in life.

Life is ever changing, you never really know your path until you are walking it, and still then it’s not always your choice that changes its direction, most important is to just keep going! Tracy ~

Some of us know exactly what we want to do at an early age. A goal is set and steps are made to achieve it. Others take their time and change their path several times before they find what they are seeking. Believe me I know how hard choices can be. Since I was a very little girl I remember the struggle I had with choice. If I was given more than one I had such a difficult time deciding. Thankfully as we age we become much better at making choices. Life experience, wisdom and knowing who you are seems to help. I find too many thing in life interesting and worth exploring to be pressured to pick just one. I am working on it. 🙂 If I could just decide what I wanted…I’m certain I would get it! Oh and eenie meenie minie mo rarely works! lol

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Does Size Really Matter?

TracyOkay, get your mind out of the gutter. It’s way too early to be talking about that…I had another draft scheduled this morning but Jacquie’s post ‘Yup, Talking Body Image Again‘ hit a chord with me because I, too, can relate.  In the big picture, does size really matter?

I tuned into X-Weighted with Paul Plakas this morning and it really moved me.  Let me explain.  This beautiful overweight women Sharla signed up to be on TV to help motivate herself to lose weight.  She was 234lbs to start and her goal was to ride her bike 50k while towing her daughter Toni who suffers from Cerebral Palsy.  Sharla could not be successful at her current weight and fitness level.

When the layers were stripped off  why she had not been successful before (the part I love the most)  it was because she was hiding behind her child’s disability and feared failure.  To see this women come to that conclusion herself brought tears to my eyes.  She started out with the support of her friend and, because of her friend’s own fears, her friend quit and she had to go it alone.  She reached her goal and lost 50 lbs and looked fabulous!!  She is not a small women by designers standards, but very average in real standards, so I could relate.

She empowered herself by changing her mind set;  it was not about losing the weight but about losing the fear of failure.  When she no longer feared failure she was successful. And that’s the message I got out of the show.  It didn’t matter what size she was- I didn’t pay attention to that part- what mattered was that she was fulfilling herself and by doing that she found happiness within.  Her friend had fears of her own that she was now aware of and could start stripping the layers away herself in order to reach toward her own goals.

I was thin my entire life, almost too thin at times looking like a bobble head, eating popcorn for dinner, fitting into size 5 jeans.  After my first child my thyroid shut down (Hypothyroid).  I could run 30k a week and still not lose an ounce.  I was fat according to my standard and hid behind baggy shirts and tights.  I know what it does to your self esteem when you have a weight issue because I have been there and I couldn’t do a thing about it.  Having been so lean all my life it was one of the most difficult things to come to terms with.  But when put into perspective I was not dealing with cancer and I was alive.  I learned over the years as I dealt with my thyroid that those around me didn’t notice the weight because they saw me.  They loved me for me.  That’s a great feeling!  It was a great learning process.  I remember my doctor’s receptionist Angela saying to me as I struggled with regulating my weight “Tracy it doesn’t matter what size you are, what matters is that you are eating healthy and exercising”.  That stayed with me.  She was right, I was doing everything I could to be healthy and I eventually I regulated my thyroid through my Naturopathic doctor.  In the big picture size definitely doesn’t matter as long as you are living a healthy lifestyle.

Carri & Mike We are all different body shapes and sizes and as long as you are not neglecting your health and not afraid of failure you can do anything!

I have watched my girlfriend Carri work toward a goal for the past two years.  Rain or shine she put her shoes on and did the work required to meet her goal.  She never gave up, she made a decision to not fail.  Carri is happy within herself which can only benefit her gorgeous family, especially Mike ~ lol!  It wasn’t about the weight.  She looked great before.  It was about setting a goal and reaching it by not being afraid to fail.  Way to go, Carri, you look incredible and I admire you for sticking to a goal and not being afraid to fail!  Tracy signiture

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