Appreciate What You Have ~

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IMG_4459My glass is always half full! I consciously look for the lesson in unfavourable circumstances and can usually pop my head above the swirling chaotic clouds to see the sun-shining bright in the distance. If I do get swayed to the dark side I don’t stay long. I allow a few streams of tears to flow and move forward. My girlfriend/therapist Tannia and I have a one day limit to wallow in any unpleasantness and then we “suck it up buttercup” laugh like hyenas in heat and take a step forward. I am grateful for so many things in my life

Starting today…

~ Appreciate what you have ~ Focusing on what you have instead of what you don’t will immediately bless you with gratitude.

~ Focus on what matters ~ Health matters. Your body is a gift, we are all miracles of life.

~ Decide what your purpose in life is and go for it ~ What makes you most happy? If you are not doing it, ask yourself why? If you have fears, face them! Step out of your comfort zone and see how exhilarating it can be. “Fear is the Thief of Dreams” ~ Gandhi.

~ Take on challenges that scare you ~ Nothing we experience in life is a waste of time. We live and learn with each life experience growing and unfolding along the way. Change is good, healthy even, if you step back and view it from a positive perspective. When a door opens step through it and see where it takes you!

~ Find balance ~ If you work too much, learn to play. Take time for yourself and give your time to things that make your heart race, and cork pop!

~ Love your body enough to take care of it ~ You’re beautiful! Embrace the skin your in! You can scar it, stretch it, burn it, mark it, tan it, and peel it, you are always in it, so you might as well take care of it and learn to love it! If you don’t love it, why should anyone else.

~ Treat others the way you want to be treated ~ Be conscious of your attitude and your actions. Karma has a way of finding those who don’t play fair. Always remember ‘this too will pass’ good or bad. Life is a circle and what goes around comes around…eventually!

~ Set a good example ~ If you want to empower others in your life, you need to start living the most empowered version of yourself first. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. Dream BIG! Believe in what you want so much that it has no choice but to become your reality. And don’t ever compare yourself to anyone else, stay focused on your own journey and leave footprints behind.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world!” ~ Mahatma Gandhi 

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Young Man, Older Woman ~

If I’m writing about it I must be living it…right? Not always true but I will admit there is always some truth in what I write. I’ve been known to stir a few pots in my time. Sooooo, keeping all that in mind lets get into it.

Ladies, has it ever been a fantasy of yours to be with a much younger man? Many woman dream of this scenario, as do many young men so I’ve been told. If the two can find one another I imagine it could be quite the encounter.

I look at the whole male energy not just the age. I decided a couple of years ago I was going to experience those who came into my life for who they are, however long they decide to stay regardless of age. I have no expectations of what anything should or should not be in regard to relationships. I refuse to slot anyone because of their age, young or older. Basically, I have no plan.

It’s really all about what your intention is. I have girlfriends who are completely turned on by the younger male energy and those who are equally turned on by the older male energy. Age is just a number and is a general guide as to where someone is in life. There is always an exception to every rule.

I’ve met quite a few younger men over the last couple of years, not sure why but I suppose it could be my age, or simply the energy I put out or just the fact that I’m a flirt. It’s the look behind a mans eyes that initially draws me to him not his age. Not all younger guys are just looking for a quick romp with a more experienced woman. I think the younger men who are not just looking for the older woman fantasy are attracted to a womans attitude and confidence not their age. Younger woman in general don’t seem to be as secure in their own skin which is a shame. I remember feeling like that in my 20’s. I am much more comfortable in the skin I’m in now. Older women generally know what they like, who they are, where they are going and are not afraid to enjoy life and EAT!

A couple of weeks ago I went to a local pub with two girlfriends Sandi and Tannia. There just so happened to be a 10 year grad-reunion taking place that night, ya I know, couldn’t have planned that better…I mean how annoying is that! lol The pub was FULL of 28 year olds, and this post was in the draft file. I had to go in…for research! We walked in the door and said “Crap, a bunch of young hot flirty guys, we really should go somewhere else!” We tried to leave but we got all disoriented and couldn’t find the way out…”look something shiny.” There may have been girls there too I can’t remember. You could have called it a cougar buffet. (not that any of us are) Nothing wrong with some good clean fun at the pub, if you’re into that sort of thing. On a serious note we met a few really great guys who entertained us with their wit and charm and have become friends.

I will also go on record right now with saying it has never been a fantasy of mine to be with a much younger man. I have girlfriends who are 25 and 65 and see no reason why I can’t hang out with a young guy who is athletic authentic. No harm no foul! I like being called dude, it’s kinda cute. I do prefer the sound of a low sexy male voice calling me babe, but that’s just me. 🙂

So to conclude this post I will say for me, personally it’s about the guy, not his age. Age for me has absolutely nothing to do with who I chose to spend my time with intimately or otherwise…so if you see me out with a young guy whose half my age plus 7 or a ridiculously handsome sexy older man (wayyyy more likely), you will know without a doubt he has intrigued me with more than his birth year! It’s simply not every older woman’s fantasy to be with a much younger man. Not that theres anything wrong with it! My advice…if you have to hide something you’re doing you probably shouldn’t be doing him it!

 

 

 

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Memories

Last night I dreamed about a girl that I used to know in grade ten.  I didn’t know her well, we didn’t hang out together. She was just someone who was in a couple of my classes.  I have not thought of her or seen her since 1979 and yet, for some reason, I dreamed of her last night.    In my dream she was in distress.  I actually woke up and worried about a person that I barely knew over thirty years ago.  Where does that come from?  This person was a distant memory and somehow, for some reason, that memory bubbled to the surface.

I’ve written before about how I worry about having a bad memory.  I worry that I will succumb to Alzheimer’s disease like my grandmother did.  This fear was re-ignited the other day as I frantically tore my bathroom apart searching for a diamond stud earring that was innocently sitting in my earlobe already.  Was there too much on my mind while I attempted to do four things at once, or am I losing it?

I would hate to lose my memory because I have so many wonderful ones.  I also have this clever built-in feature where bad memories fade away quickly for me.  Last year I had an argument with my mother that upset me badly for a few months.  I went over and over the argument in my head trying to analyze every word exchanged.  I talked it out with my husband until we were both exhausted.  Then I put it out of my mind.  If I had to explain any of that argument now I’d be stumped.  I have completely buried the memory and I could not tell you what it was about to save my life. (If anyone reading this remembers please don’t remind me…thank you)

Good memories remain fresh for a life time however.  (So far at least.)  I remember sitting in the apple tree in my grandparent’s yard looking up at the clouds and feeling completely content and happy.  I was four.  Twenty one years ago I remember holding my new born son on my chest and realizing how overwhelming my love for him was.

Last weekend I was running around the house in a panic.  I was expecting company and I was late in preparing everything.  I stubbed my toe.  It was bleeding but I had too much to do to worry about it.  My husband made me stop for a moment.  He began to very gently put a band-aid around my wounded toe.  I suddenly felt like I was watching the scene from outside of my own body.  I felt such love and appreciation for my man that I could have burst. That is a memory that will stay fresh with me forever.

Perhaps the memory sifter in our brain is made of love and happiness.  Dreams? Well who can really explain where those come from.

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Just do it!

Tracy It’s so basic and simple isn’t it, write the letter, send the email, make the call, take the test, propose, get the tattoo, go for your run, lose 10 lbs, profess your love…

Just do it ~Nike.

I’ve heard a lot of chatter lately about what friends ‘want to do’ and what they ‘actually do’. There are those who ‘ Just do it’ and there are those who watch others ‘Just do it’.  It’s not that difficult to be the one doing it.  I have friends who ask me regularly how do I get motivated to run 5 days a week?  I am not always motivated but I put on my shoes and walk out the door and do it!  It’s that easy with anything you want to do, if you really wanted to do it, you would be.  So Quit complaining about it and Just do it !

What’s holding you back?

Another Great Nike Ad~ enjoy!

Okay, one more I couldn’t resist Michael Jordan’s “Failure Ad” ~

So if Michael Jordan can fail and be known as a success what are we all waiting for!

Tracy

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