Svaha Spirit Series: Mother to Daughter…


Happy Mother’s Day Mom ~ I love you more each day! You are an amazing Mother who has taught me so much in life, I am forever grateful for having you by my side! xoxoxo

Being a Mom is forever. I love being a Mom more than anything else in life I’ve done. It is the hardest job I’ve taken on but also the most rewarding. You don’t fully understand what your Mother has given up for you until you become one yourself. The trick is balancing being a Mom with every other relationship you have in life, including the one with yourself. When we are happy with ourselves we immediately become a much better Mom! A good night sleep helps too!

Letter from a Mother to a Daughter:

“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way…remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day.

The day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared.

With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter. “

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Wonderful Moms we know and love with all our hearts! 

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Shame on YOU ‘Little Flower Academy Catholic School’

I had another post ready for today but while listening to the radio I caught wind of a story that I felt so strongly about I had to take a break to get my thoughts down. Private Catholic Girls High School Little Flower Academy’s music teacher Lisa Reimer was asked to finish up her year from home through electronic means so that she wasn’t in contact with her female students in person. Seriously? We are in 2010, are we not?

Apparently it was made clear by the Principal (Marcelle DeFreitas) and Vice Principal (Diane Little) not to tell any one of her partners pregnancy and if the word got out the school may be forced to dismiss her! I am embarrassed and ashamed of all parties involved in this! Some parents are worried that their daughters will be lead ‘astray’! Really? Are people that ignorant! I understand this is NOT the opinion of ALL the parents at Little Flower Academy but enough to have influence for this measure to be taken.

Lisa Reimer is founding artistic director of Zing! Children’s Choir, whose honorary patrons include Maestro Bramwell Tovey of the Vancouver Symphony Orchestra! Check out Lisa’s credentials and background, she is obviously passionate about music and a GREAT teacher, and that is all that should matter. This behaviour just blows my mind! Parents are concerned about their daughters becoming Lesbians at a Private Catholic Girls High School?, that strikes me as humorous because you know what they say about Catholic School Girls! (not all Catholic School Girls) Sorry but seriously? Is this really happening?

Mr DeFreitas and Mrs Little, do the right thing! Do parents really think they can shelter their daughters from all the lesbians of the world? Lisa Reimer is just one you know about! Ooooooo doesn’t that scare you, what about the millions of others you don’t know about because it’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what their sexual orientation is! There is always the Scarlet Letter idea but instead of an ‘A’ for Adultery we could make them all wear a ‘L’ for Lesbian! ~ Wait a minute (insert ignorant pause here) is that what the ‘L’ means on the back of all those cars driving around, that you’re a Lesbian? Sheesh! I thought it meant ‘Loser’, who knew!

Lisa Reimer is in a committed relationship with a beautiful newborn recently added! These parents need to go back to school themselves for a little education! Somehow they missed something or didn’t get the update! It’s no longer through persuasive subliminal music lessons that you take on Lesbian traits, a Lesbian has to actually sneeze right in your face to have Lesbianism passed onto you! Or was it through air molecules? I can’t remember, either a sneeze in the face or through the air, one of the two. To be safe just stay away from a Lesbian with a cold if you don’t want to be one.

Did the parents even consider why a teacher would want their daughter to become a Lesbian? What benefit would the teacher get? More Lesbians in the world, which gives them what? Power! There are ALREADY lots of Lesbians in the world! I am horrified that any of them have to hide that fact in order to keep a job? This is another human being we are talking about who is just living their life the way they want to, embracing who they are, loving each other, and now a beautiful baby! How is that bad? These parents just might learn a few things about love and acceptance if they tuned in to the world a little more often!

Good news, while researching Lisa Reimer, I found a great site called homorazzi.com ~Where Homos Judge Everything~

Homorazzi.com is a glimpse into the lives of a gaggle of gays and how we view the world – one day at a time. We’ve all been friends for several years, and now we’ve come out of the closet and are sharing our reality with you. As the paparazzi of our own lives, we’re capturing the good times and bad and we’re not holding back”.

Patrick one of the bloggers had a great point at the end of his take on this story…“Another great example set for Catholic children to be fearful that God doesn’t love everyone, and if you’re gay, God doesn’t love you. Hatred and discrimination by this religion towards gays by the Catholic religion are what drove me away from it. I’m glad that Lisa Reimer is standing up for herself and letting her music be heard”. Makes you wonder doesn’t it? Change should not be feared!

What do you think Tara reader? Give it to me straight up! Or gay up which ever you prefer! We’re not fussy here!

Click here to listen to Zing! The Children’s Choir ~ 05 Inch by Inch

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Daddy’s Little Girl~

TracyIt seems that lately a lot of my male friends are either about to become a “Daddy” or just recently became one.  I melt each and every time they tell me how enormous their heart grew upon arrival of their “little girl”.  There is forever something special about the bond between a dad and his daughter.  Just as there is a special bond between a mom and her little boy, any way you look at it a parent and child experience love like no other.

I can relate to my dad friends because my daughter is a daddies little girl.  I have experienced the powerful love between a dad and his daughter with my own dad and now I get to experience it with my daughter.

When you spend as much time with your kids as I do or you work from home, everything from school seems to be addressed “To Mommy. It’s because I am the one they see the most.  Moms are usually the first to hear of everything that happens in their child’s day and unfortunately sometimes by the time dad comes in the door the moment has past or lost it’s excitement.  Similar to “I guess you had to be there”.  Kids need to know how important it is to share their excitement with daddy too.

I think dad’s get the bum deal when they miss the excitement that comes in the moment of their kids achievements, all because they are hard at work.  I was watching “Modern Family” and loved what Jay,one of the characters said, “90 percent of being a dad is just showing up”.  Isn’t that the truth!

Daddy’s hard at work while mom takes care of the bruised knee’s and endless other tasks on her list of things to do.  Mom gets most of the credit for doing everything, because they do do everything (at home) but without the dad’s who work hard all day we couldn’t do it nearly“as well”.

Every so often Daddy’s get the Grand Prize from their babes that makes their hearts melt right in their little hands!

All my new dad friends this is what you have to look forward to!!

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Thanks Scott for working so hard so that I was able to be at home and not miss out on any part of being a mom!

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‘Friends with Benefits’

Tracy

When I first started writing this post I had a humorous view but when I weighed my options of making a point that I feel is very important and finding humour in almost anything, my humorous view almost flew out the window and the real me came forward.  I think I can do both, find humour and make a point.   Let’s see.  We have all heard the term ‘friends with benefits’.  It’s basically having hopefully great sex with no strings attached.  In my day, I remember that being called a one night stand or a booty call.  There was a reason for feeling bad after having one but I can’t remember why now…the age thing and memory starts to fade when you hit 40!  But with teens now it doesn’t  just happen one night or time, it lasts as long as they want it to.  But who ends it, why and when?  That’s where the emotions come in and I think where things go awry.

Am I right?  Correct me if I am wrong girls or guys out there.  My girlfriends son told her it is quite normal for teens to have ‘friends with benefits’ and they don’t get looked down upon.  Sign me up I guess if both parties are consenting and are having safe sex it’s their decision to make.  Would I want a friend with benefits?  Would you?  We all have the opportunity, it’s whether we take it or not.  I am struggling with this right now and don’t know if it’s my conditioning or a generation gap.  Part of me say’s well “Whyy nott” but the other part of me says “it’s not good for the soul”.  To not know where you stand with someone is hard enough when there is no sex involved.  Emotions and chemistry is what give sex such passion.  The moral side of me says ‘Live by example’ and the fun side not so moral side says ‘live with no regrets’. Stay with me here I am working through this as I write.

What I think bothers me about this the most is that it is happening younger and younger and some teens are not mature enough to make this decision on their own. They are afraid of being judged by their own peer groups.  It’s much like bullying in the way that when boys are rough with one another, it is possible that one of them doesn’t really want to participate but is forced to out of pressure of not wanting to appear weak.

Friends with Benefits sounds to me like a decision that is made without the thought process that should take place when deciding to give a sacred part of yourself to someone who doesn’t really care if it’s you or not.  I am a confident strong woman but I didn’t get this way from making poor moral decisions in my life.  (Bonnie stay out of it ! ha)  I think it is up to us as parents to do everything we can to make sure our sons understand the self-esteem issues young woman get when their self worth is questioned.  It’s also our responsibility to make sure our daughters have confidence and respect for themselves, as well as from the opposite sex.  I am not sure I could have a friend with benefits unless of course  Gabriel Aubry walked through my bedroom door, then I would be naked in an embarrassing nanosecond.  Humour is important in life and helps lighten certain topics of conversations, but morals and values are the basis of your character.   Teach your kids first as a parent.  Live your life as a soul enriching your existence.  Live by example.  Try to make good decisions and learn by questionable ones.  And always remember it’s about assessing blame. (joking)  So I think I like my friends just the way they are!

Tracy

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