Giving is so simple!

This time of year seems to bring out the best in some people and the worst in others. The holidays are just around the corner and for some that equals stress.

Giving the basics to those in need doesn’t have to cost a great deal. It can simply be about giving time. I understand that we are all very busy in our own lives which doesn’t leave us much time to give away but any amount of giving is better than not giving at all. People spread themselves and their families so thin with their own schedule they barely have time to do anything for others. Like anything else you do in life, when it becomes part of your regular routine it simply fits in.

The holidays should not be about materialistic stuff that in no way makes us better human beings. Most of us clearly have way too much stuff. Our kids are living in a time where they don’t understand doing without. That’s where we are parents can help make them aware of those who do. There are human beings who are surviving on not much more than the cloths on their backs, invisible to society yet standing right before our eyes.

Last year my family gave Tim Hortons coffee cards to the homeless which provided them with a warm meal when they needed it. Our kids need to be shown how fortunate they are and that they need far less than what they have. It worries me that my kids generation thinks its normal to have an iPhone at 13. In most cases both parents work so it’s guilt that gives not values. No one waits for anything anymore, they’re the NOW generation. I want it now! Kids drive around in expensive SUV’s with their parents oblivious to who is barely surviving in their own community. It doesn’t even register to them that the homeless person they see every single day is lucky if they have two warm meals. It’s our responsibility to teach them how to help.

Collecting warm clothing and blankets to hand out to those living in your community is always appreciated at this time of year. Filling wool socks with basic items of need such as gloves, a toque, toiletries and candy is another way of helping out in your community to those less fortunate. There are a number of great organizations that you can get involved with or be creative and find your own way to help out. Giving feels good, I promise you what you get back in return in far greater than what you gave.

Life should consist of both give and take. Each of us should be accountable to ourselves on how often we do both. Sometimes it’s very apparent that there are those who give and those who take…which are you? Giving in order to get is doing for the wrong reason. Giving because you can is a good start.

When was the last time you reciprocated a kind gesture, helped out someone in need. It’s the simple gestures that really mean something to others. Just yesterday I looked out my window to see my neighbour lifting my basketball hoop back up and clearing my driveway of all the debris that blew onto it from the wind storm. Another male friend of mine offered to drive me into town to a meeting I needed to go to today because I had been feeling dizzy lately, on his day off! 🙂 Just two examples of thoughtfulness that I experienced in the last two days. The Act of Kindness goes a long way.

Find a way to involve your family in giving and see what a difference it makes! If you have a creative way to give, share it with us.

Giving is so simple!

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THE SALVATION ARMY 

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Can I Start Again?

Have you ever wanted to start over because you screwed something up? I think it’s perfectly legal to ask if you can start again. We did it as kids while playing, we’d begin something and if it didn’t go as planned we’d ask if we could start over. When taking pen to paper to write a love letter, in the days of real romance, we crumpled up what wasn’t just right and started from scratch, several times! How many love letters were lost because of imperfection? How many moments were given away because of the fear of being imperfect? Think about it, your first kiss, riding your bike, making love, drawing a picture. Nothing is done perfectly to start, really close maybe, but not perfect in the real world. It gives us something to strive for. When we say, ‘it just doesn’t get any better than this’, if you really think about it, it can always get better. But what determines better? Stuff? Time? Energy of the moment?

Now that we have texting and email we just press delete and our mistakes are wiped away into thin air, never to be seen in their unperfected state. Sad don’t you think. All those mistakes gone to waste. We learn from mistakes.

Lets take this a little further, do you ever wish you could do the same with life. Look around right now at who or what is in your space and imagine for a moment that you could delete the mistakes you’ve made with a press of the a button, and start again. 🙂 If this was possible, would you? If you did, you wouldn’t be who you are today. You would be perfect! Can you imagine meeting someone perfect? It would be like a writer having only final drafts, no works in progress, nothing to improve upon. It would never work! Nobody’s perfect! We need imperfection in our lives to create balance. It would be really easy but the end result would be no feeling of accomplishment. I don’t like a bunch of loose ends in my life either, I like to have things tied up or at least comfortably undone. I love all the flaws and character traits someone of the opposite sex has to offer, it makes them more interesting. Its part of the story of their life.

I told Scott of my idea for this post and he took it even further. What if we could run our lives with the buttons on our keyboard. I mentioned earlier Delete, but maybe delete is too strong to start, perhaps we could first Backspace a little and re-do a moment we wish we had done differently and then decide if it was delete worthy. Esc, who hasn’t wanted to escape from a moment or two or three! Control, you have it when you press the button. Enter/Return to a moment in your past, just pick one 🙂 Options, a pop down menu comes up and gives you options to pick from depending on the scenario. Volume, now were talkin, no explanation needed on this one! Fn,(function) cause sometimes we just need a little help doing it.

Would you have married the guy standing in the door frame looking at you, or have bought the desk you’re sitting at just because it was on sale. Maybe the room you’re sitting in wouldn’t be a colour you’ve learnt to live with? You might have held eye contact just a little longer with the guy at the coffee shop. Talked to the elderly women a moment longer before she crossed the street. I don’t think there is any particular moment I would delete in my life, but I would go back to several and not rush through them so quickly. I would enjoy every intoxicating moment. I wouldn’t walk away from a kiss that touched my soul because of time or circumstance. I would try to remain in the moment as long as it allowed.

I don’t think starting over is the way to go, although it sounds easy to just ‘delete’. Accepting the choices we’ve made along the way and not taking the easy way out must have some positive force in our lives, don’t you think? You have to live with no regrets and if you make mistakes along the way accept them as part of what made you who you are and focus on what really matters. At least you started…

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The Net of Gratitude

The Net of Gratitude
Giving thanks for abundance
is sweeter than the abundance itself:
Should one who is absorbed with the Generous One
be distracted by the gift?
Thankfulness is the of beneficence;
abundance is but the husk,
for thankfulness brings you to the place where the Beloved lives.
Abundance yields heedlessness;
thankfulness brings alertness;
hunt for bounty with the net of gratitude.
~Rumi ( Mathnawi III)

As a woman with ever fluctuating hormone levels  I’ll often find myself in different moods on different days.

Ideally, I want to stay in a great mood all the time.  Who doesn’t!   I’ve noticed that when I’m in a great mood or a great frame of mind good things come my way.  Honestly!  I’ve been experimenting with this lately.  If  I’m in a great mood I always get a parking spot right near the door!  Funny!

I’ve learned a little trick recently to help pull me back when I’m on the edge of any dark moods.
I ask myself what I’m grateful for right now.

I usually start out with the small stuff  like;  “I’m grateful I have a warm car to get around in” or “I’m so grateful for this tea I’m drinking.”  Things like that.  If I’m feeling particularly blue it may be only a few things in the beginning.  What I’ve noticed is that I immediately start feeling better.  The clouds start to lift and before I know it I’m in a great mood again.
And I realize that I’m in control of how I feel in every moment.  I can choose to wallow or blame or I can use this simple exercise and feel great again.

As Rumi said above, giving thanks for abundance is sweeter than the abundance itself.  It just makes you feel so good and then when you feel good you always get the best parking spot!
Bonnie

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