Svaha Spirit Series ~ Postcard from Gusto

My day starts with a ‘Note from the Universe a ‘Postcard from Gusto‘, a message from ‘Abraham‘, a soft toe touch from my daughter who is usually lying next to me, and then around noon a smile and hug from my son. My day just keeps getting better from there!  I choose to ((((((smile))))))

I am a true believer that you choose each day how you want to feel. You also chose your thoughts and as I am reminded by my Note from the Universe each morning…’thoughts become things choose the good ones’. I wanted to share this with you todayLove…

…and here is what was on the back of the Postcard from Gusto~

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Nostalgia

My head is swirling with old memories of high school right now.  I’ve just spent two wonderful days with a friend that I went to high school with, but who I hadn’t seen for about fifteen years.  We were closest during our last year of high school.  Her visit sparked me to dig out my old grade 12 annual and read all of those little paragraphs friends wrote to fill any white space they could find.  You know the kind, “remember that great party at so and so’s house” and “we finally did it! We can get out of here at last!” and “I’ll never forget skipping French class with you”…and on and on.  I laughed over some of the phrases that we used that you never hear people say anymore like, “that was choice” or “we’ll have a panic”.  Almost all of these little notes said “let’s keep in touch”.  But we didn’t.  It’s been thirty years now since I’ve seen most of them.  A couple of them have even passed away.

I feel a little sad that we let those friendships slip away from us but I know that all of us (most of us) are such different people from who we were back then.  And that’s a really good thing, can you imagine if we were still going around saying “choice!” and wearing those Farrah Fawcett hair do’s? Although I know some of the guys wish they had their full heads of hair back and many of us would still like our eighteen year old waist line.  Change is good though.  Change is necessary.

We have our thirty year grad reunion coming up this September and many of us have re-connected on Facebook.  I’ve been looking at the photos of these “kids” online and comparing them to the pictures I have in my annual.  Everyone has changed of course but I like that I can still see the young seventeen or eighteen year old in them too…when I squint my eyes and lean way back.

Nostalgia is a funny thing. It mixes all your feelings in one pot.  There are happy memories that may have grown slightly idealized over time and there may be a few sharp memories of some not so happy times peppered in. There is the flavour of yearning for the past but occasionally the bitter taste of some regret sneaks in, as well as a good shot of “phew!”  It can leave me feeling a bit unsettled.  Pass the Alka Seltzer please.

Its fun looking back but I’m happiest focusing on right now and right now I’m going to take a good book and find a comfy chair and some shade beside the lake to lounge in.

It’s gonna be choice!


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Being Human ~

Happy Birthday Christopher John!

Human beings are complex creatures if you really think about it. We can love passionately one moment and feel intense pain the next. Most of us walk through life completely unaware of what our purpose is until we meet someone who inspires us to find it. These sorts of people are sprinkled throughout the world waiting to help those who are unaware. I had a synchronistic meeting with one of those wonderful human spirits just the other day and he gave me a gift that can’t even be translated into words yet, I am still processing our connection. I promise I will share more with you at a later date. 🙂

There are also those who are here to get as much as they can, they’re not fussy what they get as long as they get great quantities of it. I describe these beings as “food” because they’re just here taking up space waiting to be planted six feet under, to be fed back to earth and start again. Hopefully next time they will open their eyes and see what’s out there and the potential they have to make a difference.

We can be self absorbed, self-centred, unappreciative and wasteful. We can be driven by greed, money and materialism. Some of us live in fear without trust and step backwards more than forward. But change and awareness is on its way, for the betterment of all human beings! If we want Mother Earth to be here for generations to come we need to listen. We need to wake up to what is really important, the survival of our planet! If our planet survives so do we. We need to stop believing everything we hear and start trusting our instinct and intuition.

‘Life is about choices and consequences’ We are all capable of making choices, we make them every day. With each choice, there is a consequence, it’s that simple. With every Action there is a Reaction.

I’ve come a long way because of choices I’ve made in my life. Having children was a choice that changed my life. I believe they are here to help change the world! My life took on an entirely different meaning, my heart opened up larger than I could have ever imagined. I became aware of what I would be leaving behind for my children, a future far beyond my lifetime. If I didn’t pay attention to my choices the consequences would surely affect them as well. What I did with my life became more important. I made a conscious choice to teach my kids that life is what you make it, and every single human being on this planet is able to help make change. It’s never too late to make changes that will benefit our world and the people in it.

We are all aware of the changes being implemented in ‘Going Green’ these changes have become the norm which shows us that we can make a huge impact on our planet if we put our resources together. We have become aware, which is a start, but we need to go further than that. We need be aware of the energy of the human spirit to make the biggest difference. Each thought that enters our mind, each word that rolls off our tongue changes something or someone around us. It’s our choice if we want it to be of a positive nature.

Gini Gentry’s teachings stem from the heart of Toltec wisdom. “Don’t go against yourself”, “Don’t create circumstances that go against yourself” and “Don’t align yourself with someone who goes against you”. By doing these three things you empower your human spirit.

I just went to Gini’s facebook page and have share her status because I think its perfect!

“To reclaim our authentic nature, we need great clarity and awareness to accurately observe our lives. Once we do that, we can begin to dismantle the beliefs that obstruct being in truth and living from the heart. We step away from our impeccability when we deny that we are the source of love we are seeking and don’t speak and act from this truth.” Gini Gentry

“Our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made” Wayne Dyer

I am being human, I am making choices that don’t go against myself…are you?

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Which Stereotype would you NOT want people to include you in?

Which stereotype would you NOT want to be included in?

Take your pick there are many!  Here are a few examples, dumb blonde, gold digger and one of my favorites cougar!

Tracy’s take~

Tracy Throughout my late teens and twenties I bent over backwards so girls would not judge or stereotype  me before they knew me all in the name of stereotyping.  I would make myself look silly with humour to make them smile at me instead of leer at me.  It got tiring and I eventually just called it quits.  I just figured if you don’t want to take the time to get to know me then that’s unfortunate because we could be friends.  I HATE when people stereotype  or judge for that matter!

With that being said at this point in my life ‘single mom looking for a man to take care of me’ would be one of the worst for me.  No other stereotype would bother me as much as this one.  Call me a ‘Cougar’ and I would not only agree, say “whyy not” and smile while looking you up and down sexually, call me a dumb blonde and I would manipulate you to get what I want, but think I need a man to take care of me…sheesh!!   Men are in my life by CHOICE not need!  I am a very independent and self sufficient woman who loves time alone.  I don’t need a man in my life to take care of me but I do look forward to having  men in my life to spend time and enjoying the moment for what it is.  So if I am single for the back 50 I’m good.  How about you Bonnie which stereotype don’t you want to be included in?

Bonnie’s two cents~

Bonnie's PostDon’t include me in any! I mean I can’t actually think of a stereotype I’d like to be slotted as.  I’m pretty sure I’ve fit a few of them in my life so far though.  Dumb blonde? I’ve had my moments.  Cougar?  Oh ya.  Gold digger?  I think you have to go out with really wealthy men for that, so I don’t think so.  White people can’t dance?  Hey, I think I look pretty good out there.

The bottom line is stereotyping  is just a lazy way of labeling someone.  So many people are quick to do this because they feel they need to assign you a category so they know where they fit in.  “She’s a gold digger.  I’m better than that.”   Tsk!

A stereotype is just a simplified and standardized conception.  Period.  It is not necessarily the truth.

Ok, so I’m probably getting too philosophical about this but it’s something I’ve thought a lot about recently thanks to Jacquie.  She was concerned I was stereotyping when I recently used the word “native” in one of my posts.  I disagreed and dug my heels in but I thought about what she said and I could see her point of view.  Stereotyping is not a good thing…although…I’ve never known an African American male to cry fowl over the “well endowed” stereotype.  I’m just sayin’!

Jacquie’s thoughts~

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I’ve been aware of the negative impact stereotyping can have for a very long time.  When I was dating my now-husband, Gavin, his mother was not a happy camper (do Chinese people ever like to camp?).   His Asian mother, who is an absolutely fabulous person, really wanted him to get rid of me, the White Ghost, aka Lo fan.  Crikey!  I was just being sweet l’il ol’ me but my blondness was working against me for the first time!  You see, she believed Caucasian women didn’t know how to take care of the house properly, didn’t do the cooking, didn’t take care of the children but sent them to nannies instead, cheated and got divorced.   No matter how ‘nice’ she thought I was, I would never be good wife material.

Well,  in some ways she was right.  I don’t cook very much now that the kids are older, I’d rather paint or do something fun than spend everyday scrubbing, I do like having guy friends and I won’t fib and say that the big ‘D’ has never crossed my mind as a viable alternative on really bad days, though it’s been a while since I felt that way.  I was being…stereotyped… but this time it was working against me!   It’s been many years and I know she loves me now and sees me as an individual and not just as a white girl, but it did take time.

Stereotypes are labels thrust on individuals or groups to make them easier to understand.  Like Bonnie said, they make figuring out your own place in the world simpler, so they’re self-serving, really.  I know I’m not a stereotypical mom with 3 kids and a dog even though that’s basically what I am on paper.  What else?  Well, like most of the women I know, I wear a lot of different hats depending on the day of the week or the mood I’m in.  Sometimes I’m ‘Ditzy Artist’.  ‘Dumb Blonde’ has served me well over the years when I’ve needed to pull her out.

I don’t mind acting out a stereotype every now and then when I’m in charge of the play.  What I don’t care for are stereotypes that are forced on me.  I don’t like going out with my girlfriends for some music and drinks and being called a cougar.  I find it derogatory, frankly.  Being stereotyped takes away your power and is belittling.  Now, if you want to call yourself a dumb blonde or a cougar then that’s different.  You’re taking back your power.  It’s all about the context in which these terms are used.


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