To This Day

Bonnie writesI wrote a post featuring Shane Koyczan, spoken word poet, writer and music man, 2 years ago titled We Are More. That poem inspired a myriad of feelings the first time I heard him perform it and it does again every time I read it.

One line of We Are More stands out for me as I prepare to introduce you to Shane’s latest piece called To This Day:

“we live to get past what we go through”

We do. And we all do it in different ways. Such is the human spirit.

This time Shane writes about the experience of bullying. His personal experience and the experience of others. He knows of what he speaks. The pain you hear in his voice is real and the essence behind his words merged with the images are powerful. What an amazing talent and what an important message. Thank you Shane Koyczan.

About the “To This Day” Project

“My experiences with violence in schools still echo throughout my life but standing to face the problem has helped me in immeasurable ways.

I wrote “To This Day”, a spoken word poem, to further explore the profound and lasting impact that bullying can have on an individual.

Schools and families are in desperate need of proper tools to confront this problem. We can give them a starting point… A message that will have a far reaching and long lasting effect in confronting bullying.”

Please share far and wide. ~ Shane Koyczan



Pink Shirt Day ~

Bullying must stop! Every seven seconds a child is bullied in Canada, unfortunately a great number of these kids end up taking their own lives to escape the pain they feel every second of every day. I can’t imagine having a child who feels so bad about themselves that they wish to end their life because of words so strong and hurtful they feel powerless against them.

We need to give our kids love and encouragement and be aware of what is going on around them. No child should ever be made to feel like their life is not worth living. We need to help educate our kids and make them aware that they may not be the only person making another child feel bad about themselves, and it could be their words that make the difference between life and death. Choose to encourage not to discourage!

500 students, teachers, parents stand up against bullying in Richmond at Aberdeen Center Mall.

This video was an assignment a young girl made for school which is also very powerful.


Just a Game

One of them was being raped by her step father.  One lived in a home where fighting and screaming happened too regularly.  One lived with drunks.  One lived in a home where she was almost entirely invisible.  These aren’t excuses.  These are facts. The circumstances of their lives made them angry.  Although you couldn’t always see it in them, it was there, just below the surface and easily tapped into.  Mostly they were eleven year old girls doing eleven year old girl things.  They played jacks and skipped and chased each other around the playground at school.

She was different.  She was bigger than the rest of them and her hair was never clean or brushed out properly.  Her clothes hung on her awkwardly and her shoulders slumped with some unseen weight on them.  She was the same age as the rest of them but somehow she seemed to be worn out by life already. This day she looked particularly…ugly.

They were all playing a game with a basket ball. Rules were made up as they went along but there was a tension in the air that seemed to grow with each throw of the ball.  Arguments kept erupting and the game had to be stopped while the rules were tweaked again and again.  The game was serious now.  It was important that they finish it right. Anger energized every toss of the ball.  They were fighting for power.  Power that none of them had at home.

But she wasn’t playing it right.  She kept missing the ball.  She moved too slowly to retrieve it when it whipped past her.  Her lazy movements and lack of enthusiasm irked the rest of them. Somebody swore at her.  Her face went red but she didn’t move any faster to get the ball the next time it came towards her.  This angered them even more.  She’s not even trying!

The ball was flung into the air again.  It was coming straight at her.  If she had been more into the game she would have seen it coming.  She should have been paying more attention.  It hit her hard just above her left ear.  Everyone stopped moving.  She did nothing.  She just stood there with her hands at her side.  It must have hurt but her expression didn’t change.

Then the girl, whose step father raped her regularly, picked up the ball and threw it hard at her again.  Nothing.  No reaction.  Someone else picked up the ball and aimed it for the back of her head.  Whack! The expression on her face still didn’t change and she wouldn’t cry.  Someone else grabbed the ball and aimed it at her.  She just looked down and waited.  She refused to fight back and it made them angrier. Whack! One more blow to her head.  Another throw and the ball thumped into her chest. This time she looked up at them and they saw the change in her.  She may not have lifted her arms or cried out but she was affected by them.  It showed in her eyes.  Their cruelty had blown out the last flicker of hope she’d held. Her eyes were empty.  Her soul had retreated.

The ball slowly rolled away from her but nobody wanted it anymore.  No one said a word. One by one they walked away.  Sick to their stomach by what they’d done; sick to their stomach with the world they lived in.


I Give A Damn!

I had another post ready for today about Internet Dating but after watching Larry King Live, it just seemed trivial compared to this.

The Give a Damn Campaign is a project of the True Colors Fund, founded by Cyndi Lauper. The True Colors Fund works to inspire and engage everyone, especially the straight community, to get involved in the advancement of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender equality.

As an advocate for more than 25 years, Cyndi has worked to bring her straight peers on board in support of equality. As she says, “If one us is not equal, none of us are.” (taken from We Give A Damn website)

I joined We Give a Damn and you should too! It doesn’t matter if your gay or straight, you should still give a damn! Bullying is everywhere, not just directed at gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender, it’s also directed at those who are straight. Bullying was in my biggest fear having a son entering into Middle School. It can be a parents worst nightmare, because as we’ve seen in the News it can lead to suicide. No one should ever be made to feel like taking their own life is the only solution. Kids need to know that their lives will get better and it will pass, but only if we join together and see to it! Being bullied can happen to anyone, a child, teens and adults. It’s unacceptable. Bullies are cowards who prey on others because of their own insecurities. The problem lies beneath their skin, not those who are being bullied!

My girlfriends son was bullied just last week, not for being gay, for being new to a school. It was horrible to hear what her son had to go through, it breaks my heart! As parents, coaches and teachers we need to take a stand and not accept any tolerance to any kind of behaviour that remotely resembles bullying! Take a stand, I did!

Follow We Give A Damn on Twitter ! And to join Give A Damn Campaign on Facebook!

We Give A Damn, if you do you’ll check it out too, it has so much information!

Kids can help too, here is a great example of how ~



I don’t know about anyone else, but I am riding a huge wave of Canadian pride since watching the opening ceremonies for the 2010 Vancouver Olympic Games on Friday night.  I am the girl, after all,  who once started a poem in grade 4 with the line “Canada is my home, it is where I choose to roam”.  Brilliant right?! I chose to roam all over this fair globe after I grew up, but you get the point.  I’ve always been a proud Canadian.

I like how darn nice we are as a whole, this nation of ours.  I am proud of how humble and kind our athletes are.  I find it perplexing that  Dale Begg-Smith chose to jump ship, but hey, I love Australia too so whatever mate!  One of the many inspiring moments during the opening ceremonies came when Shane Koyczan performed his slam poetry.  Now that was brilliant!  His words nailed our country and our collective consciousness beautifully I think.  And so, I feel, his words are worth another look.  We will get interest on our inspiration…

Born in Yellowknife and raised in Penticton, his name is Shane Koyczan.

He is a spoken word champion and the poem, commission by the Canadian Tourism Commission in 2007, is called We Are More.

“We Are More” by Shane Koyczan
When defining Canada
you might list some statistics
you might mention our tallest building
or biggest lake
you might shake a tree in the fall
and call a red leaf Canada
you might rattle off some celebrities
might mention Buffy Sainte-Marie
might even mention the fact that we’ve got a few
Barenaked Ladies
or that we made these crazy things
like zippers
electric cars
and washing machines
when defining Canada
it seems the world’s anthem has been
” been there done that”
and maybe that’s where we used to be at
it’s true
we’ve done and we’ve been
we’ve seen
all the great themes get swallowed up by the machine
and turned into theme parks
but when defining Canada
don’t forget to mention that we have set sparks

we are not just fishing stories
about the one that got away
we do more than sit around and say “eh?”
and yes

we are the home of the Rocket and the Great One
who inspired little number nines
and little number ninety-nines
but we’re more than just hockey and fishing lines
off of the rocky coast of the Maritimes
and some say what defines us
is something as simple as please and thank you
and as for you’re welcome
well we say that too
but we are more
than genteel or civilized
we are an idea in the process
of being realized
we are young
we are cultures strung together
then woven into a tapestry
and the design
is what makes us more
than the sum total of our history
we are an experiment going right for a change
with influences that range from a to zed
and yes we say zed instead of zee
we are the colours of Chinatown and the coffee of Little Italy
we dream so big that there are those
who would call our ambition an industry
because we are more than sticky maple syrup and clean snow
we do more than grow wheat and brew beer
we are vineyards of good year after good year
we reforest what we clear
because we believe in generations beyond our own
knowing now that so many of us
have grown past what used to be
we can stand here today

filled with all the hope people have
when they say things like “someday”

someday we’ll be great
someday we’ll be this
or that
someday we’ll be at a point
when someday was yesterday
and all of our aspirations will pay the way
for those who on that day
look towards tomorrow
and still they say someday

we will reach the goals we set
and we will get interest on our inspiration
because we are more than a nation of whale watchers and lumberjacks
more than backpacks and hiking trails
we are hammers and nails building bridges
towards those who are willing to walk across
we are the lost-and-found for all those who might find themselves at a loss
we are not the see-through gloss or glamour
of those who clamour for the failings of others
we are fathers brothers sisters and mothers
uncles and nephews aunts and nieces
we are cousins
we are found missing puzzle pieces
we are families with room at the table for newcomers
we are more than summers and winters
more than on and off seasons
we are the reasons people have for wanting to stay
because we are more than what we say or do
we live to get past what we go through

and learn who we are
we are students
students who study the studiousness of studying
so we know what as well as why
we don’t have all the answers
but we try
and the effort is what makes us more
we don’t all know what it is in life we’re looking for
so keep exploring
go far and wide
or go inside but go deep
go deep
as if James Cameron was filming a sequel to The Abyss
and suddenly there was this location scout
trying to figure some way out
to get inside you
because you’ve been through hell and high water
and you went deep
keep exploring
because we are more
than a laundry list of things to do and places to see
we are more than hills to ski
or countryside ponds to skate
we are the abandoned hesitation of all those who can’t wait
we are first-rate greasy-spoon diners and healthy-living cafes
a country that is all the ways you choose to live
a land that can give you variety
because we are choices
we are millions upon millions of voices shouting
” keep exploring… we are more”
we are the surprise the world has in store for you
it’s true

Canada is the “what” in “what’s new?”
so don’t say “been there done that”
unless you’ve sat on the sidewalk
while chalk artists draw still lifes
on the concrete of a kid in the street
beatboxing to Neil Young for fun
don’t say you’ve been there done that
unless you’ve been here doing it
let this country be your first-aid kit
for all the times you get sick of the same old same old
let us be the story told to your friends
and when that story ends
leave chapters for the next time you’ll come back
next time pack for all the things
you didn’t pack for the first time
but don’t let your luggage define your travels
each life unravels differently
and experiences are what make up
the colours of our tapestry
we are the true north
strong and free
and what’s more
is that we didn’t just say it
we made it be.

In Shane’s own voice

Well! Hallelujah to that! Thank you Shane for putting that enormous pride I feel into perfect words.  I have lived in many parts of this fine nation.  Small town, bit city and everything in between.  You nailed it!

What is Slam Poetry?  A poetry slam is a competition at which poets read or recite original work.  These performances are then judged on a numeric scale by previously selected members of the audience.

Bullying led to writing

Upon moving to B.C. when he was 14, Koyczan says he was bullied a lot and he didn’t know how to socialize very well. This is the reason he honed his writing skills.

“Not knowing how to speak to people, I decided it might be best to go home and write some prepared speeches.”

Eventually ending up in drama class, he discovered he had a performing talent and began doing plays.

In university, his professors encouraged his writing and soon, he was delving into poetry.

Koyczan says his writing classes were what saved him: “That was not only a creative outlet but an emotional one for me.” The Canadian Press

‘We’re more than the butt of a joke. We’re more than the cliché.’—Shane Koyczan

Yes indeed Shane.  Suck on that bullies!