In Search of the Elusive Available Male…and Patience!

Patience has never been one of my strong suits, I’m working on it. When I decide I am ready for something I usually jump in with both feet. My mistake in the past has been assuming that when I am ready everyone else should be as well. Life has a way of teaching us things we need to learn. Sometimes it can be a slow process and other times it’s a no-brainer. I am amidst the slow process route right now, add no patience and it is like going back to snail-mail after having high speed Internet. I would just like to know I am heading in the right direction, having said that if I change my perspective and have a little patience, the direction I am heading has to be the right one! Right?

We have all sat on the fence teetering as we look over completely distracted at the bright green grass just slightly out of reach. We are not completely ready to take a leap to it so we sit and admire it for a while. We get lost in wondering what would happen if we ventured over to it. That greener grass is a vibrant temptation pulling us toward it. Until we are ready to plant both feet in that iridescently green fresh smelling sweetness we should summon some willpower and discipline and have some patience! Touching that beautiful temptation too soon will leave a footprint with repercussions that will follow if you’re not ready!

If you’re unhappy take time for yourself! If you are not ready, willing and able to share your time with someone of the opposite sex intimately you should be honest with yourself and them. There is nothing wrong with not being ready! Clear your head, purge your past, centre yourself, find balance and then take that step forward…it WILL be worth the wait! You can’t rush feelings, trust them!

Most human beings have baggage of some kind, whether it’s emotional or physical. Baggage is simply life experiences we carry with us, sometimes into our next relationship. We all deal with our experiences on our own timeline, purging some and hanging onto others. When we are ready to let go and free ourselves of the complicated web we have weaved in our past, we do. No one can rush this, not even us. Time heals and when we are ready to move forward we do…again patience.

Although things don’t always go as planned or as quickly as we sometimes want or imagine, we need to step back, take a breath and relax. The sooner we recognize and accept that we have no control of others we learn patience. Take things slow, enjoy the moment, give those you find worthy time and appreciate what you have, not what you don’t have. Everything works out the way it should. We all get to different places in life at our own speed, trying to change the path of another human being only distracts you from your own.





Tips for Packing a Suitcase

Bonnie Johnson's PostBy the time you read this I will already have left for my trip.  I’m off to New York and then Tampa and I’ll be away for ten days.  Unless you are planning on coming to rob my house, then I’m not really away at all.  You should also know I have a big mean dog, alarm system and neighborhood watch.

I am about to start packing and this time I will try and be smart about it for once.  I used to be a flight attendant and had the whole packing thing under control. That was a long time ago however and lately my bags have gotten ridiculously heavy and usually stuffed with items I never even wear.  Most airlines are now charging for checked bags that weigh over 50lbs; sadly many charge a fee for all checked baggage.  What has become of the airline industry? Don’t even get me started about the food and service I used to provide and don’t get a hint of now that I’m a passenger.

I have learned over the years that bags belonging to my husband or me tend to plan a different itinerary than the one we have.  Sometimes we don’t meet up for days and sometimes we never see them again.  Carry-on bags therefore must contain some essentials and most definitely anything of value.

So here are some gathered tips that I plan to follow and that you may find useful for your next trip away.

  • Gather all the garments you may need on your trip, then edit down your choices so you don’t over-pack. Put together whole outfits for each day you will be away.  Pack double-duty garments, like yoga pants that moonlight as pajamas.
  • Don’t put things straight in the suitcase; this makes editing tricky.
  • If you’re going somewhere warm, take two light layers that can be worn together: a sweater and a blazer, for instance. Then, if you leave or arrive on a chilly day, or if it rains the whole time you are in Maui…well you get the point.
  • Tightly roll softer, wrinkle-resistant garments, like T-shirts and cotton pants, and place them along the base of the bag. Jeans should be rolled, too.  (I’m big on rolling almost everything – it really works against wrinkles)
  • Snake belts around the perimeter of the bag.
  • Protect clothes from leaks by placing toiletries in a plastic freezer bag.  Freezer bags are a heavier plastic and they seal tightly.
  • Pack essential toiletries in a carry-on bag. Include your toothbrush, toothpaste, makeup, medication, expensive jewelery and other important items.
  • Stuff socks inside your shoes.
  • I always put my lacy girly intimate things in a clear plastic bag.  This serves two purposes; it keeps them together and easy to find and it ensures the creepy baggage checker isn’t sniffing handling your delicates.

luggage stuffingBonnie


Travel Through Life with No Baggage!

When someone tells you they have baggage maybe  it’s just their perception of what baggage is?  Baggage is what you make it!  If you have too much baggage then perhaps your traveling through life a tad bit on the heavy side.  You need to lighten your load.

Lets start by defining bag-gage.



1. trunk, suitcases, ect., used in traveling;  luggage. (I am not talking about this kind of baggage)

2. things that encumber ones freedom, progress, development or adaptability; impediments: intellectual baggage that keeps one from thinking clearly; neurotic conflicts that arise from struggling from too much emotional baggage.

Regardless of what kind of baggage you hold onto whether it be intellectual or material it is always a good idea to purge or ‘let go’ of it every so often to feel like you are traveling free on your path in life.  It’s like the difference between traveling with carry on bags or a entourage of suitcases.  It’s your choice.

I had a visit with an incredible woman whom I don’t get to see as often as I would like, Jan.  Within about 15 minutes of our visit she told me how she had recently dealt with the loss of possessions in a house fire.  Her positive lookout was so inspiring to me that I will be planning a sleepover so we can continue our conversation.  She told me she was surprised that when she lost her material ‘luggage’ or ‘possesions’ she felt like she had a huge weight lifted off her shoulders.  She was able to disconnect with the material aspect of owning ‘things’.  She had a fresh outlook on life.  By releasing the connection with ‘stuff’ she also was able to clear her slate of any other baggage she had been carrying around for years.  All I could think was wow what a great attitude and way to look at loss.

It is the memories that live within us that are so important, so we should be able to let go of the material stuff easily.  But this is not easy for some.  Quite difficult actually.  Some peoples lives are defined by their stuff.  Others travel through life seaching for moments, weightless which is exactly where I want to be.  Searching for moments to make memories.  That’s the kind of stuff I don’t want to live without.