I was an only child until I was ten years old. I have never known what it is like to have a sibling close to your own age to fight play and share a history with. I’ve always loved my brother, don’t get me wrong, but because of the age difference I tended to act like his second mother most of the time. Poor kid.
So I always believed when I grew up I’d have at least two kids, maybe even a few, but that was not to be in the cards for me. I was blessed with one son and I was perfectly content with that.
I remember going to see a psychic after I had become a single mom. She told me I would have four kids one day. “Ha! What a crock!” I thought.
Well, it turns out she was right. (It’s spooky how many things she got right actually) Through marriage I was blessed with three more great kids…all grown up by that time but they are my step children regardless. And when you do the math it means I know have four kids.
All those years ago I remember wishing hard that my husband’s three kids would not only accept my son with open arms but truly develop a special relationship with him so that he could really experience being a “brother”. This isn’t something that you can force however, and so for all these years I’ve watched quietly as they have become acquainted and developed their own special bonds.
My husbands beautiful daughter, Lisa, never lived near us in the early years and in fact lives on the opposite coast even now. Distance combined with a large gap in age; you can understand how these two would not be close. But a funny thing has happened. Both Lisa and James find themselves in the same city often. They both are missing family. They have been getting together quite often lately and have discovered they have some things in common. They were both raised by the same father for starters.
My heart swells when I hear stories from each of them about the fun they are having together and the closeness that has developed between them. So this is what it is like as a mother to see your children hug each other. What a great feeling! The only thing I’m missing is a recent picture of it. Just putting it out there…