I have noticed an interesting phenomenon lately. There was an article in O magazine about women leaving their men for other women. Then Oprah did a whole show on the subject. Then More magazine also did a story about the same subject.
What I found most interesting about these articles was that it seemed the women who were making the “switch” were all around my age (ok, I’ll just say it – 45). Many had been happy with male partners for years but then fell in love with a woman. They seemed to be as shocked as anyone else by the sudden change in preference. And really it wasn’t a change in preference but more about the fact that they met a “person” that they fell in love with who happened to be the same gender as themselves. This is the part that intrigues me.
I know there are a lot of girls that are bi-curious, (usually around college age though) and who experiment a little, but this is a different thing all together. It feels to me like mainstream culture, in the western world anyway, is beginning to relax it’s love of labels and be more accepting of different choices. It’s starting to feel like people are getting that it’s ok to love and be loved by whomever.
I have some very dear girl friends who are gay and who struggled with terrible fear about “coming out of the closet”. They were afraid of so many things; upsetting their families, being shunned by their church, etc. This always saddened me. Personally, I don’t understand how others feel they can label and judge according to someone’s sexual preference. When they finally did “come out” they were fortunate to have loving families and friends that supported them but I know this isn’t always the case.
Perhaps the reason some women my age are going this route is due to the fact that they’re finally really comfortable with who they are and are simply open to love, any kind of love, and if it comes from another woman, well, that’s just fine. And when you really think about it, humanity doesn’t need us to be increasing our population as much as it needs more love. Love in any form can’t be wrong. Do you agree?