Envy. Listed as one of the seven deadly sins along with pride, greed, lust, gluttony, anger and sloth. Guilty, guilty, guilty, guilty, guilty, guilty and guilty! (Not all at the same time but yes I’ve felt each of those during the course of my life. Sloth is one of my favourites and I still like to take a day to revel in that sin now and again.)
I read somewhere that envy is a hidden emotion. Hidden so well that you often don’t realize that it is the motivation behind your actions. This struck a chord with me. I had thought that envy was a wasted negative emotion and I was sure I never allowed myself to fall into that trap. Then I realized that there have been many times that I’ve seen others obtain something that I’d like to have too. For example the young lady that leads our Zumba class has a terrifically fit and athletic figure that you could say I’m envious for. So in that case my envy motivates me to work harder on my own figure. Huh! Thanks envy!
The philosopher, Immanuel Kant wrote: Envy is opposed to oneself because it disinclines us to see our own good overshadowed the by good of others. Well doesn’t that sum it up perfectly! You can’t gain anything by being stuck in feelings of negativity. I also believe if you only focus on your lack of whatever it is that you want then you can only attract more lack. Instead I choose to use those rare moments of envy as little signals telling me “hey, here’s something else you would like” and then working towards a goal of achieving them.
What do you think ladies?
Tracy’s 2 cent’s~
Envy~the feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another’s advantages, success, possessions, etc.
Envy and jealousy are very close in meaning. Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another: to feel envy when a friend inherits a fortune. Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves: to feel jealousy when a coworker receives a promotion.
How do I deal with Envy? I suppose I turn green like everyone else! I couldn’t resist the picture. Envy doesn’t have a negative feeling for me. If you are passionate about what you are doing I think there is no room for envy. If someone is doing what I want to be doing and is successful at it I think of that person as a trail blazer before me. I feel inspired by anyone who is reaching their goals they set for themselves. If their goals are reached it tells me that it is possible for me so I should keep up the hard work. I look at someone elses success as a resource for mine, it’s all in the name of research. Here at Tara Cronica we are women inspiring, with our own spin on it. There are lots of inspiring websites but this is what we have created. No need to be envious of what we are doing, read and take what you need to be inspired to create your own. I have never been competitive amongst my peers I am always willing to share my knowledge with anyone who is heading down a path perhaps I have blazed already. I compete with my self but not with anyone else. I think there is room for everyone to have success in what they are passionate for because passion is the foundation to success…envy is not. I do however envy anyone who can sing and carry a tune because I can’t. If I had the time and passion for singing I am certain I would have recorded an album by now.
I know the text book definition of envy, I know it’s one of the seven deadly sins and I know it’s not considered an attractive emotion to possess. If I have to be perfectly honest with myself, and I do or what’s the point, I have to own up to feelings of envy now and then. For sure I’d like to have some of the material advantages of some of my friends and relations. Duh! It’s that natural little twinge you get when you hear of someone’s great new job, or lottery win or amazing holiday they’ve planned. For a split second you forget all the wonderful things going on in your own life because the focus is somewhere else.
When I get these little jolts of envy mixed cole slaw-style ( a little sugar, a titch of vinegar) with pleasant feelings, I recognize them for what they are and move on to thinking about something more productive over which I have control. That’s where Tara comes in for me.
Green Tara, one of the 21 manifestations of the Goddess Arya Tara, is associated with the protection from fear as well as a number of obscurations. These are obstacles, or disturbing attitudes we all have that prevent our becoming Enlightened.
The first step to becoming Enlightened would be to become Aware of your feelings and emotions. This is so very Eckart Tolle it isn’t even funny! Being in the ‘now’ ~ present. Those who practice Tara Buddhism would add the repetition of mantras and meditation. I just remind myself of all my blessings and what is truly important to me and then the feelings of envy evaporate. This all happens in a nanosecond sometimes. Other times it takes a tiny bit longer but it always works.